so guys, how do you tell that the girl is sincere to you or trying to get money from you , or both...???
i doubt we can tell. don't say for thai girls, all the countries women behave like that. a sinkie girl can also be good for u, is either she is sincere or she is milking u for jewellery, LV bag etc..
by the way, this is my life story regarding the phrase 'marry her, u marry whole village'.
i too, was skeptical about my gf (now my wife) because i often heard about the above phrase. but after i married her, the only thing (or the only sum of money) that i gave to her mum was roughly 4k sgd as sin sot. the gold she return back to us as a gift for our marriage. perhaps, i gave them a deep impression because i told them repeatly i am just a poor chap. even our wedding dinner in thai was paid by the bride side.
and no, each time i go back to my mum-in-law house, i do not give any allowance to her mum. the most, i repeat, the most i gave to her family each time i go over is just to treat them eat at restaurant and a few bottles of wine. and some mei zhen xiang bak kwa from sg. ( total cost 200++sgd)
finally, to the part of 'marry her whole village'. hmm... i had encountered this before, but my wife's reply is very different from what is anticipated. ( perhaps she comes from an abnormal family??) i did ask my wife, 'did ur uncle auntie ever come and borrow money from u or ur mum?'
her reply? ' yes, they come borrow before. but my mum told them we had no money. then next time they come again, the daughters will put on show telling the uncle auntie that mother not in!'.
and no, i had still not encounter, and i am confident that i will not encounter stories like 'buffalo died, uncle stay hospital, 2nd auntie child need go university' etc.' because the most serious stories that my wife tell me ( and its true) is my mum-in-law was hospitalised. the bill was spilt among my wife's siblings. no one ask me to fork out anything.
i'm not saying my wife is super duper perfect, but most sg guys tends to flaunt their wealth, thus their spouses will tends to blur the line of love and take advantage'.