you are absolutely right on this issue. In fact when i was about 30yo, I did test out by bringing a ex to stay with them, and even not married, I already began to face pressure by both. After we broke off, even is not related to this issue, I thought to myself its going to be very tough for me to find a wife, as Im the sort that value family. I thought a gf can leave me, wife can divorce me, but parents will always be my parent. From then I started to avoid having r/s.
I am going to be frank here, not that you are wrong, but when you mentioned value family, did it meant by, you, "possible future wife, with kids", or you and your parents.
Parents will always have their opinion with regards to their prospective daughter in law, or matter of fact, even son in law. But bear in mind, you are the one that will be choosing and living with the gf/wife, with kids/companion, in that order as life progress, not your parents.
I am sure every parents would like to see their son/daughter married happily and have children, with their grandson/granddaughter in tow.
Perhaps its time, to make a choice, not that between parents or gf/wife, but your own decision, whether to stay together after marriage, or you move out after that or status quo, being single and stay with your parents.