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Three Temptations, and Three Triumphs​


Today’s blog is a slightly expanded reprint of a post I did at this site a couple of years ago. The post seems so suitable for the Lenten season.

In 2023, I published the book He Will Save You from the Deadly Pestilence: The Many Lives of Psalm 91. Many things make that psalm highly distinctive among Biblical passages, not least the fact that it alone, among scriptural texts, is quoted by Satan himself. But Satan makes an odd mistake, or a fumble, one that has baffled curious commentators through the centuries. I happen to have the solution, and it is one that actually identifies a long arc in the Jesus narrative – one that we usually miss. The topic is uniquely and centrally relevant to the Lenten season.



Through the centuries, many artists have depicted the harrowing episode of Christ’s temptations in the wilderness, which is the source of that Lenten idea. Some depict Jesus in dialogue with the tempting Devil himself, while others focus on a solitary Jesus, who presumably is battling these temptations as inner impulses and psychological conflicts. Hearing these seductive calls to action, Jesus must decide whether to reveal his supernatural status by some flamboyant miracle, by casting himself off the Temple. At that point, he hears the assurance of Psalm 91 that the angels will bear him up. But he resists, faithful to God.


Two of the four gospels, Matthew and Luke, recall the strange scene in which the Devil himself quotes Psalm 91, which was odd enough because in its day, this was the exorcism Psalm par excellence. Hearing the Devil quote it is like seeing a cinematic vampire waving a crucifix. Viewed by itself, it might seem like an isolated or even quirky reference. We easily miss the sequel that occurs later in the New Testament itself, most explicitly in Luke, and which completes the wilderness story.

When we place the temptation scene in its larger context within the New Testament, both the episode and the psalm become central to the early Christian narrative. In Luke’s gospel, indeed, Psalm 91 becomes the charter of the Jesus movement and of the church. As an indispensable mainstay of early Christian belief, the psalm shaped both the writing of the gospels and their later interpretation. It really is that centrally important.

Three Rejections

Matthew and Luke differ both in detail and in their general concept. In Matthew, the psalm is used in the second of three temptations, and his Devil offers a slightly compressed version of 91. In Luke, 91 is the basis for the third and culminating temptation, and that reflects its critical position in his narrative. Luke integrates the Psalm 91 material into a complex sequence although the denouement does not follow on immediately. In musical terms, it is as if a leitmotif is here introduced, and listeners have to await its reappearance – and in fairness, we have to wait a while. To understand this, we need to analyze Luke’s account of the wilderness encounter in some detail.


The Devil tempts Jesus three times. So you are hungry? he asks. Then turn these stones to bread.

He takes Jesus to a high mountain. Look at all the world’s kingdoms, he says. Just worship me, and I will give you all of them.

Then the Devil takes Jesus to a high point on the great Temple itself and urges him to throw himself off. Does not Psalm 91 say that angels will protect him, so that he will not so much as dash his foot? What better way for a messiah, a Christ, to prove his status to the world, and to show that he is guarded by angels?

Luke and Matthew agree that on each occasion Jesus refuses the temptation, and three times he quotes a verse from Deuteronomy. More specifically, he draws on a section of that book that in modern Bibles appears as chapters 6–8, immediately following the giving of the Ten Commandments. To the first suggestion (in Luke’s sequence), he responds that man shall not live by bread alone. Nor will he worship Satan, responding, “Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve.” To the third suggestion, about throwing himself off the Temple, he replies, “Do not put the Lord your God to the test.”



So Where Did The Knockout Verse Go?

From early times, commentators expressed puzzlement that the citation of 91 in the wilderness scene was oddly incomplete. As reported, the Devil quoted what we would call the psalm’s vv. 11–12,

For he shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways.

They shall bear thee up in their hands, lest thou dash thy foot against a stone.


This is a famous passage. But do note that Satan stops there, and does not proceed to the far more celebrated verse 13, as most readers of the psalm would do in that era and later:

Thou shalt tread upon the lion and adder: the young lion and the dragon shalt thou trample under feet.

Some quotes are so famous that we complete them automatically. If you hear “Our Father,” it is hard not to think immediately of “which art in Heaven.” Psalm 91 was very famous and well-used, and quoting verse 12 naturally and inevitably sent you into verse 13. But at this point, the Devil stops. In a sense, he has already said far too much, because any reader of the Psalm knew what came next, and what horribly bad news that was for Satan and his cause. Of course he stops there, because this next verse proclaims the fall of evil forces (like himself), and moreover it contained what were at the time read as evocative messianic references to trampling and serpents.


Naturally, thought some commentators, the Devil would not want to undermine his argument by citing such an embarrassing line. Origen noted this failure to follow through. Incidentally, he also thought that Satan had committed an “exegetical blunder” in suggesting that the Son of God would actually need the help of angels to accomplish anything.

So where did verse 13 go? Why did Jesus not hit Satan back with it? It makes the whole story annoyingly incomplete, and even mysteriously so. In fact, however, if we read Luke’s gospel as a whole, that very v. 13 shortly reappears, centrally and memorably, as Jesus openly proclaimed his messianic mission. Jesus caps Satan’s quotation.

When we read the story of the temptations and the wilderness, we normally read an ending at Luke 4.13: “And when the Devil had ended all the temptation, he departed from him for a season.” But that is not the end of the story. Satan and Jesus would meet again, and sooner in the story than we might expect.

Three Triumphs

In two of his chapters, 9 and 10, Luke presents a series of critical episodes that upend and reverse the Devil’s challenges in the wilderness, and Psalm 91 is pivotal to this story, specifically the allegedly missing v. 13. Among the four gospels, this story appears in fully developed form only in Luke. This may mean that he constructed those connections himself or, more likely, that he alone preserved an ancient narrative of the movement’s beginnings.


Like all good stories in the ancient world, it has a threefold structure.

Luke’s wilderness account features three temptations, which we might summarize as the miraculous feeding; the ascent and the call to worship; and the invocation of Psalm 91. These three reappear, in that very same sequence, in Luke’s later two chapters.

It starts with food and feeding.

We first encounter the famous scene in which Jesus miraculously feeds the five thousand. When invited by the Devil to turn stones into bread, he had quoted the Deuteronomy passage concerning manna, the miraculous bread from heaven, and had refused to be provoked into performing a miracle. Yet in Luke 9, he performs exactly such an act, in a way that is meant to evoke the giving of manna. Jesus responds to the Devil’s challenge, but entirely in his own way, and in his own time.

Then they go up to a high place.

After that miraculous feeding, Peter acknowledges Jesus as the messiah. There then follows another reversal of the wilderness episode. The Devil had “led him up to a high place” to tempt him with worldly power. In Luke 9, it is Jesus who takes the initiative in “leading people up” when he takes his apostles “up to a mountain.” There he is transfigured in divine glory, and appears with Moses and Elijah, as God proclaims his Sonship. Again, this scene reverses the earlier one. Jesus will indeed go up to a high place where he will receive immeasurable power, far beyond mere kingly rule, and he will achieve it through his obedience to God, not Satan.


And then, third, they quote Psalm 91, and this time, they do it in full.

We then move directly on to Jesus’s sending out the disciples, in what is effectively the foundation of the church. Here again, the story overturns an earlier temptation, specifically the Devil’s use of Psalm 91. Jesus sends out his seventy-two disciples (or seventy; manuscripts differ), with healing as a core part of their mission. In each village, they should “heal [therapeute] the sick who are there.” At the time, the boundaries between healing and exorcism were slim to nonexistent, as was the distinction between the sick and the possessed. Jesus is dispatching exorcists, not paramedics. On their return, the disciples joyfully report their triumphs, but they do not mention healing or “therapy” in any sense that we might recognize. Instead, they recount over- coming devils, daimonia:

And the seventy returned again with joy, saying, Lord, even the devils are subject unto us through thy name. And he said unto them, I beheld Satan as lightning fall from heaven. Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you.

In this last verse, 10:19, Jesus is remembering and paraphrasing our psalm’s v. 13. Reinforcing the identification is the assurance that nothing will hurt the believer, which recalls 91’s “no evil shall befall thee.”


The Great Reversal

Over the previous two centuries, Jewish interpretations of v. 13 had transformed the psalm’s animals into threatening spiritual beings and demons, and that exactly fits the context here. One phrase here can be interpreted in various ways. The Greek text of Luke 10:19 promises triumph over “the power of the enemy,” ten dynamin tou echthrou. Literally, that last word, echthros, means an enemy, a hostile force or person, and that is how it is rendered in most English translations. It is the word used when Jesus tells his followers to love their enemies. But it can also mean The Enemy, in the sense of the Devil. (The Greek text gives no clue about issues of capitalization or punctuation.) As this text was interpreted in later centuries, that “enemy” became ever more explicitly Satanic.

We are not told the means by which the disciples undertook their healing of body and soul, still less the exact words they used, but in the context of the passage, it would make excellent sense if they were deploying 91, perhaps as part of a package of other songs and formulae. Within a generation of the events described here, the Qumran community was recording such songs of exorcism, and quoting them alongside Psalm 91. If in fact Jesus’s followers had undertaken their healing mission by deploying 91, it would be exquisitely appropriate for Jesus to reassert that text in praising and reaffirming their victories.


For Luke, Jesus is accepting the Devil’s original challenge and overcoming it. Satan had invited Jesus to plummet from a pinnacle of the Temple; instead, he himself has fallen from Heaven. Point by point, the wilderness story has come full circle.

We note that the creatures to be trodden here include “snakes and scorpions,” although the latter does not appear in our psalm. But this does recall a verse in Deuteronomy that stands adjacent to the others cited earlier and which refers to “snakes and scorpions” in the context of the eremos, wilderness. This leaves little doubt that the later passage harks back to the temptation dialogue, and that the two scenes are united by Psalm 91.

Satan is trampled, exactly as foretold in our verse 13, but it just takes a little longer than he, or we, expected.

It really pays to read Biblical texts in their full context, and usually in the context of the full book in which it appears. Authors like Luke really cared about the overall trajectory of what they were writing.
 

What Difference Does That Little Bit Of “Extra” Make?​


Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men.

Colossians 3:23


Good, better, best; never let it rest till your good is better and your better is best.
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What difference does that little bit of “extra” make? Does it count? Can you quantify it? Measure it? Bottle it? Afraid you won’t be able to keep pace with it once you’ve demonstrated your finest stuff?

Asked another way, can anyone really tell if you’ve given your all or maybe fudged a bit and only meted out a decent (respectable) day’s effort? Who can accurately say if a person has put in the additional time, effort, and attention required to tip the scales beyond mediocrity? In truth, only you can.

Give Your Best 100% Of The Time

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We all know if we’ve done our level best. And we shirk from those memories when we chose not to follow through to greatness. When we go that extra mile, it feels good to know we’ve exceeded what has been expected of us. Who doesn’t appreciate this inner-pat-on-the-back following a job well done? Even a two percent add-on can make a world of difference on the job, at home, and well, anywhere you decide to invest yourself. Could be a hobby, that volunteer position, or simply remaking an acquaintance type relationship into a genuine friendship.

That 2% More Makes A Huge Difference

For any hard-headed, crunch the numbers, cynical types out there who decry the notion that no one really pays attention to that extra couple of percent…let’s take at a look at the numbers (because numbers speak for themselves). Say a young person starts out with an investment of $500.00 at 10% interest compounded continuously from age seven to age eighteen; they’d come up with a meager $1502.08. However, by age 62, this amount grows to $122,346.00 and by age 72 it’s worth $332,571.00.


Nice return over the long haul. Let’s take the same scenario and change only one factor. Instead of a 10% interest, up the ante to 12%…. a minuscule two percent increase. Given the same timeframes this initial investment of $500.00 is now worth: $1871.00 then $367,548.00 and finally, $1,220,300.00 respectively. Note the difference. Note the principle.

Pour Your Life Into Making A Difference

Give a little, get a little. Give a lot; get a whole lot more. Another life truism: it truly is the “little” things that make the most difference. Embracing a consistent attitude of pursuing excellence in all areas will naturally spill over, multiply, and advance any project or purpose. This doesn’t necessary mean monetary returns…but since when did money mean more than quality of life, inner satisfaction, and a good conscience. Never did, never will. So at day’s end, give it your all, and be able to gladly mark the day as one well spent and wisely invested.



Your Personal Two Percent Extra Counts –​

  • P – persistence: the midpoint of any project or problem is the most difficult juncture to get past. Remember that no effort is considered a failing one if you give it your best.
  • E – excellence: too often individuals compete against others when they should be competing solely against their own previous standards. No two persons come from exactly the same starting point, so it’s not sensible to measure oneself against another successes or failures.
  • R – resistance: expect and accept that there will be detours and roadblocks along the way. Plan for them, don’t let these obstacles derail you, make preparation for ways to work around and through them.
  • C – consistent: every day…do one task toward meeting your goal. Large or small, doesn’t matter, it’s the daily exercise of moving toward your trajectory that counts.
  • E – energetic: take good care of yourself so that you have the stamina to withstand the emotional and physical demands required to endure the course you’re on.
  • N – never give up: despite setbacks, drawbacks, discouragements, purpose to finish what you’ve begun even if the goal necessarily morphs and changes along the way.
  • T – thankful: every day, find ten things to be grateful for and speak this list out loud.
 

Making Decisions Involves The Head And The Heart​



Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

Romans 12:2



There is a connection between what we really want and what we say we want. On some occasions, our deepest desires may be considered socially unacceptable (at least in our eyes) so we squelch them. Or we deny they exist. Other times, we choose to follow our heart’s longings wherever they might lead us, and then defend our choices. Both scenarios leave something to be desired. All too often, there is a disconnect between our mind (how we mentally process making a decision) and our heart (the seat of our emotions/feelings/yearnings).

Thinking And Feeling

Whenever we place one above the other (mind versus heart), we risk not grasping the whole picture. Likewise, when either our thoughts or our emotions take such a prominent position so as to negate the other, lopsided, unbalanced, and frequently shortsighted decisions are made. We need to respect and consider both aspects of our person as complimentary. There is space for logically assessing a given situation and making appropriate responses. As there is room for simultaneously entering into the feelings of the same. Allowing ourselves to experience the emotional gamut of joy, pain, celebration, disappointment is a good and necessary thing.


We Cannot Disconnect Our Mind, Body, Emotions

A look at the process. So why do we opt for or against a particular decision? Some would say individuals act solely to insure self-preservation, personal advancement, or to gratify their bodily desires. This premise is incomplete at best. Decision-making goes deeper. Each of us is capable of processing even the most basic option almost unconsciously. Why? Because we are a compilation of our experiences, upbringing, education, beliefs and values. We frequently choose without a “second” thought. Still, acting and moving ahead, without proper mental consideration, is dangerous. As is refusing to engage a situation with one’s heart, growing aloof, without any care for the suffering or needs of others. This heart disconnect is just as lethal, maybe more so, than mistaken judgment. It is when individuals separate themselves emotionally from the effects their choices have on others that real harm is done. Yes, it takes courage and resilience to choose to engage the heart and the mind. Choosing to enter in emotionally will hurt; other times it will be a gift.

God Gave Us Minds To Think, Emotions To Feel

When viewed as an integral process, the thinking of the mind paired with the feelings of the heart, we are more able to make discerning, wise choices that promote balance, goodwill, and other-oriented, consistent results. Joined together, equally regarded, the mind and the heart become an unbeatable combination. Don’t neglect either one; think with your head and your heart.




Head and Heart

  • Read the Proverb that corresponds with each day of the month.
  • Read five Psalms that correspond with each day of the month, by jumping ahead in 30-day increments. Example: On the 2nd, read Psalm number #2, 32, 62, 92, and 122. (Notice how thematic these five are each day.)
  • Find a good classic devotional such as “My Utmost for His Highest” to read and study daily.
  • For help with daily prayers, try the Puritan Prayer collection, “The Valley of Vision” for deeper, “meatier” prayers.
 

“Power Without Empathy Is A Sin”​




Can someone have too much empathy? No. Only misdirected empathy. In this photo a group of people on the Ithaca Commons participated in a protest.


Only the Weak Will Fail​

“Only the weak will fail.” (Donald Trump) “Power Without Empathy Is A Sin” (Noah Harley, Anthem)

People are discussing empathy. According to news reports, the world’s richest man and a top advisor to US President Trump, Elon Musk, said on the Joe Rogan Show that some people have too much empathy. A recent meme in conservative Christian circles is that “empathy is a sin” or “the sin of empathy.” What are we coming to?


Empathy means compassion for, compassion for the weak, the suffering, the helpless. Identifying with them emotionally. It goes beyond pity or sympathy to solidarity.

Misdirected Empathy​

Can one have too much empathy? No. But one can have misdirected empathy. For example, if a person were to have empathy with a serial killer in prison, that might count as misdirected empathy. But one cannot have too much or wrong empathy for/with children who have grown up in America and are about to be deported back to a country where they very well may be forced into a drug gang or even killed by one.

Can someone have too much empathy? No. Only misdirected empathy.

Power without empathy is evil. I detect no empathy in the current American government, at least not at the top. And that, by itself, should stand a reason to oppose it. It is cold, calculating, mean-spirited, and cruel.

God’s Forgiving Grace​

A Christian cannot support cold, calculating, mean-spirited and cruel leadership wherever it may be found. That is why Jesus opposed the Pharisees.


To be like Jesus…one has to have empathy for the weak, the powerless, the suffering, the vulnerable, the afraid, the down-and-out. And empathy acts.

Empathy cannot be a sin; even misdirected empathy is no sin. Unless it is empathy FOR the powerful, the rich, the comfortable. But that is really no empathy, whatever one calls it. We Christians can and should even have empathy for sinners. Jesus did. That doesn’t mean supporting sin; it means feeling that we, too, are sinners and sinners are suffering, whether they know it or not. Unless they are forgiven sinners enjoying assurance of God’s forgiving grace.
 

Lent and Why We Still Meet God in the Wilderness​


It’s Lent: Let’s Go to the Wilderness
Budget cuts in the US government have resulted in more folks paying attention to the National Parks recently. While arguments over which branches of government are more or less vital or efficient, my own conversations seem to reveal that the National Parks have bipartisan support. The importance of having swaths of land preserved from development and preserved for citizens to enjoy holds wide appeal. It seems a truism that we need wilderness areas to fully experience the breadth of what it means to be human.


There’s a history to this interest in wilderness spaces as sites of enrichment, health and beauty. It wasn’t always this way. In Wastelands: A History Vittoria Di Palma describes the fear and sometimes loathing with which many societies viewed what we now consider to be an unadulterated good. In the English-speaking world, “wilderness” comes into our vocabulary via the King James Bible, and can just as easily describe a desert as a sheep pasture or a region on the edges of human habitation. Di Palma depicts the Western Christian view of nature as one where humans were cast out of Eden and reclaiming the wilderness is part of the process of the regeneration of sinful people. Mountains, forests and swamps were viewed with fear and even disgust.

Encounter the Sublime​

Modernity changed so much of this for Western Europeans and then much of the world often called “Western. The development of scientific categorization and exploration allowed people to feel more in mastery of the natural world. The Industrial Revolution caused nostalgia for the connection to the natural world that was lost with increasing mechanization and urbanization. Wild spaces became imagined as places where humanity could encounter the sublime, rather than as dangerous, monstrous, or unproductive.


If, as Di Palma argues, we have invented the idea of wilderness, I think it is most often imagined as a place where human actions are less clearly visible (though all of the earth is impacted by human activity). And if we feel a need for it more acutely in the modern world, it is because we need moments where we are reminded of our Creatureliness. Modernity is demarcated by commitments to progress and efficiency and productivity and to the expansion of energy and mechanisms to do this that humans have invented. We are the sovereigns and creators in this world. Wilderness, for us today, involves spaces that have few if any reminders of the marks humans make through their own ingenuity. They are places where we can’t ignore that we are part of the creatures of the world and dependent on the plant life and land that God made.

Open to Awe​

Perhaps this is why we still find ourselves looking to wilderness spaces to find God. Our lives are so crowded here in our technicalized world that we rarely can confront our mutual dependence with Creation. We need to be in places where we have less control and so are more open to awe, to the confrontation with the sublime, and therefore to the presence of God.


In the Bible, people are always finding God in the wilderness or desert or wastelands. They sometimes go to those places to escape danger or because they need refuge and rest. Or they go because they are being punished. Perhaps they want to find inspiration or the Spirit. Wildernesses can often be places to start over. They are almost always alone (with the exception of the Israelites wandering in the wilderness). In any case the confrontation with God, the comfort of God, the New Creation that God makes does doesn’t happen without the starkness and the loneliness of this sort of wilderness experience.

The Christian Season of Lent​

Perhaps our desire for these wild places and the God who shows up there can be something we practice during the Christian season of Lent. Choosing to fast, to withdraw in some way from the productions of humans and to rely on the generosity of God can also allow us to feel our Created-ness and dependence. This doesn’t negate the benefits of going out into a dark place with little light pollution and watching the stars, or from taking a hike to an overlook. But it is a little bit of an artificial experience of dependence.


For many Christians, the cost of discipleship hasn’t felt particularly steep. When we are autonomous and well-off and self-made, there is less space for the appreciation of and awe around our interaction with the divine. We may find that the spiritual depths that come through hardship must be practiced through disciplines such as fasting. Lent has been a time when we could identify with our dependence and finitude. Fasting from something we usually have a lot of can help us shrink down our lives and to see what we really need.

We can look to find more wilderness in our domesticated spiritual lives and cultivate that sense of wonder as God works to protect, comfort, inspire, and renew us. Lent might be a good time for that.
 

5 No Good, Very Bad Reasons for Divorce​



He gets on your nerves. Maybe he’s lazy, works too much or is bad with money. Or you think you might be happier with someone else. Do you find yourself pondering, “Should I get divorced?”

I get it. Marriage can be a struggle. People sometimes use struggles as an excuse to divorce.

Divorce may be a permanent solution to a temporary problem. You can improve your marriage.

Everyone struggles at one time or another in marriage. You’re not alone. Just because you’re struggling, doesn’t mean you ought to call it quits.

In some cases, divorce may be the only solution.* I’m not knocking anyone who’s chosen that option.

Women initiate divorce more often than men, according to a study by the American Sociological Association.

Sometimes poor excuses motivate wives to call it quits when they could be focusing on ways to make the marriage better.

More times than not, there may be other solutions.

If you’re currently struggling in your marriage, please check out my complimentary resources.

Here are five common reasons for divorce that may not be reasons at all.

1. You don’t love him anymore

If marriage was based on feelings, everyone would be divorced. That bubbly feeling you got in your tummy when you saw your husband in the early days of your marriage is short lived. Love isn’t a feeling. It’s a decision, a commitment. You can choose to love him. Many days your love will be based on your commitment, not the way you feel. It’s easy to look for reasons not to love him. Look for reasons you can.

2. He won’t change

Every husband has issues. As tempting as it is to try to change him, it’s not your job. It will lead to a whole lot of frustration. Instead focus on what you can change. You can only be responsible for you. Change the way you respond to your husband, and chances are, he’ll change the way he responds to you.

3. You can’t forgive him

Someone once said, “Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and hoping the other person will die.” It only hurts you. You’re going to get hurt in marriage, but refusing to forgive won’t help. When you divorce someone you refused to forgive, you may leave the marriage, but you’ll take the bitterness and hurt with you. And it will continue to affect your life. Forgiving doesn’t mean you’re letting him off the hook. It means you’re no longer going to allow the hurt to hold you prisoner. If you need professional help, get it.

4. Your girlfriends think you should leave him

Other people are always willing to offer solutions to our problems. Their solutions are often based on their own experiences, which may have nothing to do with your marriage. A lot of times, the advice is lousy or advice she wouldn’t take herself. Your girlfriends don’t live in your marriage. Chances are they only know the bad stuff about your husband because that’s what you share with them. They don’t experience the tender moments between the two of you. If your friends don’t support your marriage, get new friends. Find women who want better marriages and are willing to work to get them.

5. You think you’d be happier with someone else

You deserve to be happy is one of the biggest myths about marriage. Happiness in marriage isn’t something you deserve. Staying in an unhappy marriage can affect your mental and emotional health. But you don’t have to settle for dissatisfaction and mediocrity. You can learn to see your marriage differently. You don’t deserve to be happy, but you can choose to be.

*I am not referring to cases of abuse. If you are being physically abused, get to a safe place immediately.
 
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The night is about over, dawn is about to break—Romans 13:11-14

No question, a lot of us men are living in “I know, I know” mode . . . in “I’m gonna do it, but just not right now” mode. You see, we know what’s important; we’ve just convinced ourselves we’ve got all kinds of time. And, because life is crazy busy right now, we’ve resolved to get around to doing what we know we should be doing, later—when things slow a bit. We’ll change our ways, later. We’ll get around to actually living out our faith, later.

But, what if there’s no later? What if this day, today, was our last day?


It couldn’t possibly be. Waking up this morning was just like waking up yesterday. Tomorrow’s sure to be the same. There’ll always be plenty of time . . . right? Well, the Apostle Peter wrote that God’s right now “restraining himself,” because he loves you and me (2 Peter 3:8-9 MSG). He’s “holding back the End because he doesn’t want anyone lost. He’s giving everyone space and time to change” (2 Peter 3:8-9 MSG). But, warned Peter, it won’t last forever: “. . . when the Day of God’s Judgment does come, it will be unannounced, like a thief” (2 Peter 3:8-10 MSG). When the last day comes, the “space and time” God’s been giving us will vanish. So Peter made his appeal: “Since everything here today might well be gone tomorrow, do you see how essential it is to live a holy life?” (2 Peter 3:11-13 MSG). So Peter made his appeal: live with urgency.
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Okay, so what do we do?

Take a look at your life. Where are you spending money and talent? Where, and with whom, are you spending time? What’s being neglected? What needs to change? Are you willing, brother? It’s time—time to shift into “I’m on it” mode.
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. . . he rewards those who seek him—Hebrews 11:6
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If God chose to speak to us using methods unmistakable, undeniable—a clearly audible voice or a conversation with an angel, perhaps—identifying his voice would be simple. Such encounters would be impossible to ignore, even for the distracted or dissenting among us. He employs methods like these, however, only but very rarely. Much more often, he uses methods any of us can mistake, or even deny—methods like his still, small voice and human agency.

Identifying his voice when it comes through these latter methods is—by intentional design—more difficult. Note the story of Elijah on Mount Horeb, when God uses his still, small voice (1 Kings 19:9-18). He makes it clear the nature of this voice is not dramatic, nor the volume loud; it’s a gentle whisper. Unobtrusive. It’s not forced upon Elijah, nor upon us. The same is true of human agency. When he speaks through family, friends, acquaintances, his voice is likewise easy to mistake, easy to deny. Such people talk with us every day and the few words that are inspired can get lost among the many that are not. Again, unobtrusive.

But, though unobtrusive, Elijah still heard God’s voice. And so can we. We can hear it—but we must listen determinedly. Otherwise it’ll fade into noise. Why? Why does God allow us to find him when we seek him earnestly and hide himself from us when we do not? To do differently would be coercion, or close to it. And that’s not how he works.
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Okay, so what do we do?

Get rid of distraction. Drop the skepticism. Drop the defiance, brother. He wants a two-way relationship with you, one in which you speak and are spoken to . . . by God Almighty. That’s an astounding offer. All he wants is for you to choose him, freely. Choose him.
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The Forgotten Truth: Jesus Is Full of Happiness​

by Randy Alcorn


The Glad Heart of Jesus
In the first-ever gospel message of the newborn church, the apostle Peter preached that Psalm 16 is about Christ: “David says concerning him, ‘I saw the Lord always before me, for he is at my right hand that I may not be shaken; therefore my heart was glad, and my tongue rejoiced. . . . For you will not abandon my soul to Hades, or let your Holy One see corruption. . . . You will make me full of gladness with your presence” (Acts 2:25-28, emphasis added). This effusive statement, attributed to the Messiah, is a triple affirmation of His happiness!



The passage Peter ascribed to Jesus includes Psalm 16:11: “In your presence, there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.” The New Life Version says, “Being with You is to be full of joy. In Your right hand there is happiness forever.”

I’m convinced we should view this first apostolic sermon as a model for sharing the gospel today. Peter, full of the Holy Spirit, preached a prototype gospel message, asserting three times the happiness of the one who is at the center of the gospel—Jesus. Yet how many people, unbelievers and believers alike, have ever heard a modern gospel message that makes this point? Peter preached that Jesus was “full of gladness”; why shouldn’t we?

What if we regularly declared the happiness of our Savior? Imagine the response if we emphasized that what Jesus did on that terrible cross was for the sake of never-ending happiness—ours and His (see Hebrews 12:2). We would be proclaiming a part of the gospel that’s not only exceedingly attractive but also entirely true.

I share more about the happiness of the triune God in this video:


Here is the transcript from the video:

Is it important that we think of God as being a happy God? Well, it’s important because scripture makes clear he is a happy God. Now that’s a new thought to many people. I think if you ask yourself and ask the average Christian, “Do you think God’s happy or unhappy?” well, I think along so well. I mean, the Bible makes really clear that he’s very unhappy with sin, right? Okay, so he’s unhappy with sin and the world is full of sin, so God must be full of unhappiness?


We need to rethink this. First, because scripture actually calls him the happy God, says that he is delighted, that he is pleased. God looked at everything he had created—Genesis 1:31—and he said, “Behold, it’s very good.” What I’ve created is very… he was happy with his creation.

But what happened is this: sin came into the world. But we think of sin as the norm because it’s all we’ve ever known. We’ve always lived in a sinful world. But remember, God existed before, you know, infinite ages before sin ever came into existence in the fall of Satan, the demons, and later in Adam and Eve and the human race.

God lived in absolute happiness and relational harmony—Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Sin comes into the world, and then God promises that forever we, his children, will live in a world where he’s going to wipe away the tears from every eye. Revelation 21:4 says it will be absolute beauty and perfection and wonder and utter happiness and joy forever. So that sin is temporary.

So God pre-existed sin, and of course he will live forever after, and we will live forever in his presence without it and without being tainted by it and hurt by it. So sin is, in the history of the universe, the exception, not the rule. It feels like the rule, and for now, in a sense, it is—evil and suffering in the world. But that’s where we can begin to get a glimpse of the fact of what it means that God is happy.


He’s always been happy. He always will be happy. And even now he is by nature happy. He’s selectively unhappy with sin, but happiness—he is the river of delights from which happiness flows.
 

How Should We Evaluate Claims Of Visions or Dreams from God?​



It’s true that far too many Bible believers are in effect anti-supernatural. Some Christians argue against the miraculous with the same scorn of atheists and agnostics. The irony is stunning, since the Christian faith is rooted in the miraculous and dependent upon it. I believe absolutely that God does miracles today. I am completely convinced, for instance, that for decades the Lord Jesus has been appearing to Muslims in dreams and visions, bringing many people to faith. The evidence is clear, repeated, and consistent.

So the reason I believe that the teachings of certain dreams, visions, and personal experiences with God are not true is not that they are miraculous. It is that they contradict the inspired Word of God. “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness” (2 Timothy 3:16). Some claims fail the test of Acts 17:11, which says the Bereans examined the Scriptures every day to see if what Paul said was true.

Now suppose I heard that a Muslim had a dream in which Jesus Christ said that Mohammed was a true prophet of God, and that Islam is the true faith. Here are my belief options:


1) The dream is true, and Jesus really said that. But this conflicts with Scripture—not because it is miraculous, but because Jesus and Mohammed made contradictory claims.

2) The dream really happened, but it was not Jesus speaking. Maybe it was just a dream influenced by someone’s pre-existing belief system, power of suggestion and/or by medications or even indigestion.

3) The dream really happened, and it was indeed supernatural, but it wasn’t Jesus speaking. “Even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light” (2 Corinthians 11:14).

When there is demonic deception, the human being—sincere or not—can become a false prophet: “But false prophets also arose among the people, just as there will also be false teachers among you, who will secretly introduce destructive heresies…” (2 Peter 2:1).

As Christians we should affirm God’s miracles. This does not mean 1) we should believe that everything claimed to be a miracle really is one, or 2) even when we do believe it was a miracle, we should assume everything remembered and said by the person is entirely accurate.


I think it’s also fair to ask whether we believe that the supernatural God has supernaturally revealed Himself and important truths to us in the Bible. And whether, when there is a conflict, that supernatural revelation trumps supernatural experiences. We do not require further revelation (as if God’s Word were not enough), but when someone claims to be bringing it, we evaluate it by Scripture, which remains our authority.

Here are some further resources:

How Can We Discern between Hearing God and Hearing What We Want to Hear?

How Can I Hear God’s Voice and Know That He Is Clearly Speaking to Me?

Where’s the Line Between Discernment and Lack of Faith in Miracles?

What About Those Who’ve Never Heard the Good News of Jesus?

Do the Will of God You Know; Discern the Will You Don’t
 

Holy Week Is Humble Week: “Beware of Becoming Caesarified”​




Jesus’ Approach to Power​

Holy Week is Humble Week. We learn from Jesus’ approach to power that great leaders guard against tyranny and dignify our common humanity. May each of us follow suit and dye our imaginations in Jesus’ blood rather than Julius Caesar’s purple.



Jesus’ Humble Journey

On Palm Sunday, Jesus rides in triumph into Jerusalem on a colt, the foal of a donkey rather than a great stallion or war horse (See Luke 19:28-44). On Maundy Thursday, he washes his disciples’ feet. On Good Friday, the Roman soldiers drape him in a purple robe and crown him with thorns in mockery. Later that day, they lift him up to crucify him, the ultimate form of shame. But Jesus’ humble journey, beginning with his approach to Jerusalem, during Holy Week is the path to glory—Resurrection Sunday.

What a stark contrast to how so many rulers past and present reign. Fame, pomp and ceremony, as well as fixation with power, rather than concern for the people dominate their imaginations. Jesus’ path of humble glory serves as a stern rebuke and call to true greatness.

Marcus Aerelius’s Warning against “Becoming Caesarified, Dyed in Purple”​

Interestingly enough, the Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius, also warned against fixation with fame, pomp and ceremony, as well as power over the people. No doubt, this is one reason why Marcus is classified as one of the “good emperors” of Rome. In his Meditations, he writes: “Beware of becoming Caesarified, dyed in purple.” Emperors wore togas dyed completely purple symbolizes their supreme royal status. (Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, The Annotated Edition, translated, introduced, and edited by Robin Waterfield, Basic Books, 2021, page 132)


Marcus was not admonishing himself for being the emperor. Rather, he checks himself against the temptation of ruling as a tyrant and lording it over his fellow humans. Editor Robin Waterfield comments, “Marcus coined a new word ‘to become Caesarified.’ He is probably referring to Julius Caesar, and he means ‘Don’t become a dictator.’ At the same time, since he also warns himself against being ‘dyed in purple,’ what he wants to avoid is becoming so identified with his role as emperor that he forgets his common humanity.” (Meditations, 132, note 33)

Marcus, Stoicism, and Jesus: Universal Human Dignity​

While Marcus was wary of Christianity and persecuted Jesus’ followers, one wonders how well he understood this fledgling religious movement and its founder. Regardless, there is much good in Marcus’ view of leadership and the path of glorious rule. His keen interest in Stoicism served him well in checking the seductive passion to lord it over his fellow humans who all possessed dignity regardless of race, gender, class, and nationality. In fact, Martha Nussbaum argues that this notion of universal human dignity actually originates with Stoicism. (Martha Nussbaum, The Therapy of Desire: Theory and Practice in Hellenistic Ethics, Princeton University Press, 1994; reprint 2009, with a new introduction, 12). Regardless of its origin, Jesus cherishes and affirms universal human dignity as he gave his life to save not just some, but the world. This cosmopolitan conviction and vision are sorely needed in our world today.


Marcus’ stately example, and even more so, Jesus’ glorious humility, have much to teach all of us, not simply those who wear the equivalent of purple togas today. During Holy Week, Eastertide, and Ordinary Time that takes us to the end of the church calendar year, let us beware each in our own way of being “Caesarified”. Eastertide does not bring an end to Jesus’ humble state of glory. It opens the door to ordering our entire lives throughout Ordinary Time as we await his return.

Holy Week’s Global Bearing Every Day of the Year​

Holy Week, and how Jesus enters Jerusalem, has a global bearing on our lives–how we lead in our homes, work places, and more generally in the public square here and abroad–every day of the year. Let us cherish rather than forget our fellow humans and cherish one another’s shared human dignity. May we show dignified kindness and respect not simply to our fellow Christians or fellow Americans, but to everyone we meet, to all citizens of this cosmos we share.

Dye Our Imaginations in Jesus’ Blood, Not Julius’s Purple​

In closing, I recall a quote on leadership one of my mentors, Dr. John M. Perkins, often shared. “Great leaders’ concern for the people far outweigh their own concern.” We see that quote on display during Holy Week as recorded in Luke’s Gospel. Upon nearing Jerusalem on Palm Sunday, Jesus weeps over the city:


As he approached Jerusalem and saw the city, he wept over it and said, “If you, even you, had only known on this day what would bring you peace—but now it is hidden from your eyes. The days will come upon you when your enemies will build an embankment against you and encircle you and hem you in on every side. They will dash you to the ground, you and the children within your walls. They will not leave one stone on another, because you did not recognize the time of God’s coming to you.” (Luke 19:41-44; NIV)

Jesus’ triumphal entry was a humble entry. He wept over Jerusalem and its people, not his approaching death. Jesus comes time and again to bring us peace. But like so much of the Roman and Jewish leadership establishment, we so readily miss out on him because we do not look to him in his humble state, riding on a colt, the foal of a donkey. Holy Week is Humble Week. May each of us guard against becoming “Caesarified,” that is tyrants in the home, work place, and public square. May we dye our imaginations in Jesus’ blood, not Julius Caesar’s purple. May kindness and respect of others’ dignity outweigh our own self-concern. And may our sense of shared humanity with people right before us and across the globe reign in our hearts this week and beyond.
 
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