Would you send your parents to nursing home ?

[drifter]

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[drifter]

This thread is delicated to you ...ram .

 

[drifter]

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[drifter]

Nursing homes is like any business ...you think by sending your folks there ....everything will be care of ? Think again .

 

[1sickpuppy II]

This thread is delicated to you ...ram .

Not to just ram but to all of us as a wake up call. When the time comes we might be the one in the picture. So to 1 and all live a fullfilled life and pray that your life do not end up that way.

 

[drifter]

Not to just ram but to all of us as a wake up call. When the time comes we might be the one in the picture. So to 1 and all live a fullfilled life and pray that your life do not end up that way.

but ram see nothing wrong with sending his folks to nursing home ...

 

[Ramseth]

I've never sent anyone to old folks' home. There was only one case of old folks' home in my family history as I've referred to in the other thread. The decision was made between herself (my great grandma), doctor's recommendation and the senior uncles. If something like that falls on me when I'm senior enough to be part of decision making process, I wouldn't rule out anything, neither would I insist where there's unwillingness. Notice I've mentioned, she said she'd give it a try and if she didn't like it there, the senior uncles would have her back home anytime she wished.

Other people have other mindsets and circumstances, so don't just moralise with your own standard of self-righteousness. It sounds the same as if you don't believe in Jesus, you'd go to hell. The very preaching tone that you hate so much is emitting from you now, can't you hear your own echo? Hiring a maid was the first choice among the senior uncles. The doctor recommended old folks' home. She agreed. That's it.

 

[drifter]

I've never sent anyone to old folks' home. There was only one case of old folks' home in my family history as I've referred to in the other thread. The decision was made between herself (my great grandma), doctor's recommendation and the senior uncles. If something like that falls on me when I'm senior enough to be part of decision making process, I wouldn't rule out anything, neither would I insist where there's unwillingness. Notice I've mentioned, she said she'd give it a try and if she didn't like it there, the senior uncles would have her back home anytime she wished.

Other people have other mindsets and circumstances, so don't just moralise with your own standard of self-righteousness. It sounds the same as if you don't believe in Jesus, you'd go to hell. The very preaching tone that you hate so much is emitting from you now, can't you hear your own echo? Hiring a maid was the first choice among the senior uncles. The doctor recommended old folks' home. She agreed. That's it.

god and nursing home are totally different issue ...you want me to break down the differences ? can you compare apples with oranges ?

as i mention in other thread before...no old folks in the world are willing to go nursing home themself ( the only reason your folks willing to go there because they dont want to give you guys any burden ...thats all ) . most folks rather die outside then to die inside . maybe you didnt send any of your folks to those " homes " . but you think its ok to send them there ....

 

[drifter]

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[Ramseth]

god and nursing home are totally different issue ...you want me to break down the differences ? can you compare apples with oranges ?

Give a man a sour apple and a sour orange, both tastes sour.

as i mention in other thread before...no old folks in the world are willing to go nursing home themself ( the only reason your folks willing to go there because they dont want to give you guys any burden ...thats all ) . most folks rather die outside then to die inside . maybe you didnt send any of your folks to those " homes " . but you think its ok to send them there ....

I'm prepared to go there myself if need be. I wouldn't do unto others, especially my loved ones and seniors, what I wouldn't have done unto myself. Different strokes for different folks, hope you can understand and accept that. In fact, after my grandparents suffered strokes, my dad announced a verbal will that he should be sent to old folks' home if something similar happened to him. Yes, he was worried about the burden he'd cause to the family. He wasn't so easy to take care of like my normal sized grandparents if he was paralysed. He was a 200 lb. boxer. But he didn't get to live that long or suffer a stroke, heart artery clutter and hypertension took away clean by age 45.

 

[middaydog]

by sending your folks there ....everything will be care of ?

I always make it clear to my sons _ boys, I do not raise you up as my old age insurance, I bring you up as a duty of parent with love and care that I can give you, you are free to go anywhere and dunt have to worry a thing about me, dunt worry, I won't die in old age home, I will just fade away

and at another time _ when faced with question from my good doctor whether I would consider nursing home or hospice _ I said NO !

 

[drifter]

god and nursing home are totally different issue ...you want me to break down the differences ? can you compare apples with oranges ?

Give a man a sour apple and a sour orange, both tastes sour.



I'm prepared to go there myself if need be. I wouldn't do unto others, especially my loved ones and seniors, what I wouldn't have done unto myself. Different strokes for different folks, hope you can understand and accept that. In fact, after my grandparents suffered strokes, my dad announced a verbal will that he should be sent to old folks if something similar happened to him. Yes, he was worried about the burden he'd cause to the family. He wasn't so easy to take care of like my normal sized grandfathers if he was paralysed. He was a 200 k.g. boxer. But he didn't get to live that long or suffer a stroke, heart artery clutter and hypertension took away clean by age 45.

you mean you cant taste between a lemon , lime , sour apple , sour orange ? . you have taste buds problem ? even a 3 years old know the different .

your view on sending old folks going nursing homes sounds scary ...dont forget actions comes after thoughts . so i wont be surprise if one of these days your folks end up in nursing home . if you think its ok for yourself to go nursing homes whats make you think its not ok for your own folks to go there ? let me help you to recalled your memory on the other thread , you did mention theres nothing wrong for your old folks to go nursing home .....

 

[drifter]

I always make it clear to my sons _ boys, I do not raise you up as my old age insurance, I bring you up as a duty of parent with love and care that I can give you, you are free to go anywhere and dunt have to worry a thing about me, dunt worry, I won't die in old age home, I will just fade away

and at another time _ when faced with question from my good doctor whether I would consider nursing home or hospice _ I said NO !

do not worry ..your son name is not ram ....

 

[Ramseth]

let me help you to recalled your memory on the other thread , you did mention theres nothing wrong for your old folks to go nursing home .....

I said that I wouldn't rule it out if need be and there's consent.

You're sounding worse than the evangelist that you hate so much. I wouldn't even rule out suicide or euthanasia for myself if all else fail me.

 

[drifter]

I said that I wouldn't rule it out if need be and there's consent.

You're sounding worse than the evangelist that you hate so much. I wouldn't even rule out suicide or euthanasia for myself if all else fail me.

theres no consent needed if theres no intentions ....

in the other post ..you also did mention that those folks in nursing homes will find new friends . when i was in singapore i did went to do some Voluntary work in one of the nursing home in singapore ...trust me ..most of the old ppl there ...do not have any friend ...they keep everything to themself ...its really sad to see those folks being dumped by their children . and they are all alone out there waiting for their days to end .


ps : im really surprise myself that even i do not believe in god treated old folks in high respect then a christain like you ......shake head ...well done christains....

 

[middaydog]

Ha, look like I need a six-pack !

what's that name of the cheap brand again ?

 

[Ramseth]

theres no consent needed if theres no intentions ....

in the other post ..you also did mention that those folks in nursing homes will find new friends . when i was in singapore i did went to do some Voluntary work in one of the nursing home in singapore ...trust me ..most of the old ppl there ...do not have any friend ...they keep everything to themself ...its really sad to see those folks being dumped by their children . and they are all alone out there waiting for their days to end .

Different folks, different homes, different experience. There can be good intention, there can be bad intention too. The entailment for intention and decision making arised from her physical condition.

I was just a teenager then. She was still head of family. She was the one with all the money. She was old and frail but still had her mental faculty. She decided to take the doctor's advice. Which part of that is too difficult for you to understand? Most of my senior uncles were against it. Get a maid was much cheaper.

 

[KNNBCCB]

I always make it clear to my sons _ boys, I do not raise you up as my old age insurance, I bring you up as a duty of parent with love and care that I can give you, you are free to go anywhere and dunt have to worry a thing about me, dunt worry, I won't die in old age home, I will just fade away

Scare leh.... You better dun be naughty old man...

 

[drifter]

Different folks, different homes, different experience. There can be good intention, there can be bad intention too. The entailment for intention and decision making arised from her physical condition.

I was just a teenager then. She was still head of family. She was the one with all the money. She was old and frail but still had her mental faculty. She decided to take the doctor's advice. Which part of that is too difficult for you to understand? Most of my senior uncles were against it. Get a maid was much cheaper.

you still do not get my drift ...its not about $ ..its about Responsibility taking care of your OWN folks . as i said before , physical condition is a excuse always misuse by Unfilial children . are you still going to push all the blame to your school teacher teaching ? physical condition .....physical condition ...i always can hear those words coming out from their unfilial children mouth while im helping out at those homes ...

 

[drifter]

Scare leh.... You better dun be naughty old man...

if your children is not ram ...you dont have to be afraid ....