Hi Tutucake, there is nothing wrong if the wife has to continue working, there are lots of womenfolk in Singapore forced to continue working. Even our PM's wife is also working (but i shall digress) Who knows, maybe your wife prefers working?
Take your time, there is no fast nor slow, no one will measure you at the end of your days by how much you earned or your title or how many houses/companies you have. Most would just write there "Cherished/Beloved Father/Mother" rather than "Feared CEO", "Director with PHD" on their tombstones. No matter how many no. 1 one have in life, at the end of the day, thats your own accomplishment and your own matter to take up with your maker. For me, i would live my life to the fullest and not be bothered too much by what people think. Everyone has different ideals for life. Some would be happy to retire at age 20, some at age 45 and some would rather never retire at all.
I am more than happy to see my son be last place if thats what suits him, there is no right or wrong in this world, thinking and justification makes it so i guess. I would encourage him to do his best but if he is meant to be a beach bum, so be it. At least he will have a couple of houses to live off.
My kids can do anything but only 3 things in life they can't,
1. Never do anything that makes you or others unhappy for the sake of material or advantageous gains
2. Never betray the trust of people who put their faith and trust in you for once gone, its irretrievable.
3. Never touch anything that may potentially control you, you are not as good or immune as you think*
*(Refers to spirits/gambling/smoking)
As an aside:
I will also tell my kids to be honest with their vices to their spouses. I have no issues with people who smoke, my dad is a smoker and proud of it.
From day one with my mom he already told her. Despite my moms and family objections, he is a die hard "Marlborough" supporter(thats why he is so happy in Johore).
At least my dad is man enough to own up to smoking. I see so many guys (lets still call them guys please) who despite having senior appointments or always claiming to be alpha male/great strength in character (or always needing to be right) turn white when they see their girlfriends or wife and then try to extinguish and then spray stuff to hide it.
When caught, they again deny and promised not to do it again. Afterwards, you see them huffing and puffing away, one time, one of these "macho" men flicked his cigarette so hard that it went into his girlfriends father's fish tank...As his dad was a non-smoker(a real non-smoker), he had a hard time getting that one put away.
Hi Bro Wuqi,
Yeah... there's nothing wrong that my wife continues to work.... except that she doesnt like it... (i think long gone are the days whereby Malaysian girls are more Ke Ku Nai Lao) heeheee.... She's a Malaysian with just an SPM...cant speak proper english and works long hours in singapore as a hairdresser....and she hates the stressful work life in singapore.... I asked myself, "work as hairdresser stressful meh?" and apparently yes, cos she's unhappy after work most of the time...
Actually my point is, when I first decided that I want to shift to JB is becoz i felt that my income is definitely higher than the average joes in JB, so me and my family should be able to take it easy if we reside in JB.... Im not even talking about living in a semi-D and driving a toyota....
Ideally, i was hoping that I would be the sole bread winner, while my wife takes care of the house and kid.... owns a picanto and a Myvi... living happily in a small terrace at bukit indah....dont need to go shopping at JPO, dont need to go eat at the Peking Duck restaurant...
It is after doing the maths properly, I realise that having 2 cars (sg and jb), paying for the malaysia home loan in cash, additional petrol cost and the daily toll works out to be quite an amount....
I'm just an engineer...not earning alot which i think many of you guys are...... Some might start thinking, "aiya, forever engineer meh? wont promote one meh?" Yes, some people will really just be an engineer for the rest of their life...most to most a senior engineer (which will be the first to be retrenched).
So, end of the day, it's still more or less back to square one...I m talking abt the lifestyle we are going to lead, and not wad we have....
Bro Wuqi, i know i sound like a negative person and that might piss you off abit.... but I'm just being practical and sharing we my mind is going through right now (which i tink there will be some other average joes like me that feels the same)