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Obviously, he was the most pampered of the 14 grand children,
I never met my grandma. She was killed in road accident before I was born.
Obviously, he was the most pampered of the 14 grand children,
I never met my grandma. She was killed in road accident before I was born.
Before deciding that you should call someome a twit, please examine your first statement you made, about the ability to raise single handedly 10 or more kids donkey years ago, at donkey years ago cost of living.
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<!-- START OF : div id="storytext"--><!-- more than 4 paragraphs -->I HAVE three very young children almost all of a sudden after my wife gave birth to twins three months ago. My eldest child is 22 months old.
My wife has to work round the clock to cope with all three children. There have been times when she has missed her meals.
I have applied several times to the Immigration and Checkpoints Authority (ICA) for a long-term visa for my mother-in-law from Shanghai to stay with us to ease the burden of caring for our young ones. So far, all my applications have been rejected.
The appeal for help from my MP has also not been successful in persuading the ICA to show some flexibility.
With a single income and suddenly extra mouths to feed, hiring a foreign maid is not an option. Besides, would a maid care for my children better than their own grandmother?
I have tried enrolling my eldest child in a childcare centre nearby, but was told there are more than 20 applicants on the waiting list.
Meanwhile, my mother-in-law's short-term visa expires on Nov 22 and I am at my wits' end.
Unless government agencies can coordinate to help young families like mine cope with the stresses of raising their children, monetary incentives alone will not persuade couples to have more children.
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So, you were number 15...??, you said she raised 14...
You stand there & wait..may take a while..while I head to the Archives..oral history section...or I go down on my knees and pray for an answer...but I might take some time like Mosses up in the mountains..but be patient..in the meantime...beware of listening to the golden calf..
the proof is in the pudding..what proof is needed?
I never met my grandma. She was killed in road accident before I was born.
Were you neglected when you were young?
Life was a lot harder in those days. There was less money, more hard work, no medical care, no electricity and no running water.
Were you neglected when you were young?
That could explain your indifference towards the needy.
You make a lousy psychologist..when you are neglected, you show compassion to the needy; for you know what is like to be left out.
Obviously, he was the most pampered of the 14 grand children, the apple in the eyes of grandma..and is given much..and have nocompassion at all, for others...
You're worse than a twit... you're a halfwit. My grandma raised HER OWN CHILDREN.... all 14 of them.
They obviously don't teach basic English comprehension in school anymore.
what you said is not the bible truth.
hence the proof, unless it's in the bible..
You stand there & wait..may take a while..while I head to the Archives..oral history section...or I go down on my knees and pray for an answer...but I might take some time like Mosses up in the mountains..but be patient..in the meantime...beware of listening to the golden calf..
the proof is in the pudding..what proof is needed?
Life was a lot harder in those days. There was less money, more hard work, no medical care, no electricity and no running water.
If I am not wrong, life in those days .....
- mother let kids run wild like those in chicken farms,
- there were no worries about education then because they believed it was the schools' responsibilities or they simply couldn't help at all,
- mother never worry much about what the kids eat and what kind of milk they drink as long as they were fed,
- there were no shrinks to say kids have ADD, are autistic or what not,
- and the list goes on......
u purposely left out his last line ...dun worry, there are still places like this....If I am not wrong, life in those days .....
- mother let kids run wild like those in chicken farms,
- there were no worries about education then because they believed it was the schools' responsibilities or they simply couldn't help at all,
- mother never worry much about what the kids eat and what kind of milk they drink as long as they were fed,
- there were no shrinks to say kids have ADD, are autistic or what not,
- and the list goes on......
you just need to find them...
i think its a tradition in mainland china that the grandparents be the main caregiver of the grandchildren ...
my china colleagues asked me in an incredulous tone (they find alot of our ways incredulous) ... 'why elderly in singapore do not like looking after grandkids ? they say they're tired after bringing up kids, so want nothing to do with grandkids ! and they would rather go work in a foodcourt cleaning other ppl's mess ?'
sometimes after mixing with these FTs, i find some of their views to be really food-for-thought ...
over in mainland, families are closely-knit ... in singapore not so, bcos of daily grind & stress pry families apart ...