Unfortunately Joyriders and Anza are the main groups out there. Don't worry too much about being in her good books, not many people give 2 flying f**ks about that. Just be friendly with the riders you encounter and you'll be fine. Nobody needs her damn approval to join the rides, especially in light of how she manages the club's money. In fact, if you've bought the jersey already you don't owe her shit. Just go join the rides, make friends and I'm sure other riders will eventually invite you to join smaller private rides.
No, I've not told her about this forum and I've not purchased jersey from her.
I'll probably continue to ride with ANZA.