Commentary: One of the primary reasons that it is so damaging to a female (and to a lesser extent a male) at having many sexual partners is that there are not only experiential issues that arise but also biochemical ones. Women produce oxytocin with sex, which is known to have pretty strong effects toward a female bonding with a male. This happens every time, at least until maybe she hits a burnout point. Despite the rhetoric that has been put out there that women can sleep around like men do, what ends up happening is that woman after multiple sexual experiences has bonded on some level with a lot of men. She then craves that, and begins to desire those attributes (good or bad) in the future men she chooses.
The problem with this, of course, is that she will be inherently unsatisfied. Her current partner won't have Tom's chiseled jaw, or Brad's long dong, or yank her hair like Pablo did, or have the baritone voice that made her quiver like Chris. She ends up looking for an amalgamation of men, often cycling between trying to break out of doing that by finding a "nice guy" only to be bored because she craves the anxiety and excitement only to then ruin that and fall back in with men who use her...which fuels her victim complex and she seeks yet another nice guy to "fix" her.
Those who encouraged this behavior in women knew exactly what they were doing and they knew exactly how damaging it would be. They did so not out of some misguided ignorance but with the deliberate and socio/psychopathic intent to break the bonds between the sexes for their own gains.
Men on the other hand have a very different experience with this. It does harm men when they sleep with a lot of women, but not in the way that most meatbags think. Men have a hormone called vasopressin which is similar to oxytocin except that it creates more of a possessive mate-guarding style of behavior. It's what pushes men to be protective toward women, aside from the greater physical size and strength. This hormone doesn't negatively effect a man particularly regardless of partner count...but what does is the observable reality of the females themselves. It's very possible, and indeed more normal than monogamy through human history, for a single man to have a harem of women he cared for and protected (and/or were chattel, depending).
In other words, once a man becomes highly successful with women...he starts to see what they really are. How they really think. How easy they are to manipulate. How he can keep them off balance and hooked. He grows cold, and while he may not be beating them (though some do) he certainly can't ever look at women the same way again. There is a saying that goes "You can understand women or you can love them, you can't do both." That's what is meant by this.
While a woman seeks a man who has some patchwork blend of desirable things from the men she has been with before and gets inherently disappointed...the man often sees that all the women he's been with really are mostly the same and also has learned just how fickle and untrustworthy and gullible and dangerous they can be.
Sometimes ignorance is bliss. Once the paper is crumpled up, it can't be perfect again. You cannot unsee what you have seen.
Either way, this reckless behavior on the part of both men and women has had catastrophic consequences within our society just as it has through numerous societies in the past when this style of behavior was allowed to flourish. When you do not restrain toxic behaviors exhibited by both sexes....you have just plotted your course for inevitable destruction as a society.
