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No need to siam rah. Hoot Hoot Hoot!feeling bored again izzit??
i siam first...
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haiyah I cannot lah!!!No need to siam rah. Hoot Hoot Hoot!
I taken an oath to do no harm how to hoot?! In self-defence only can hoot.
Hoot ah!
Wait do I hear an owl?
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Ok..@ginfreely, @nightsafari just called you a SLUT!haiyah I cannot lah!!!
I taken an oath to do no harm how to hoot?! In self-defence only can hoot.
Hoot ah!
Wait do I hear an owl?
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*sigh* you really are bored aren't you....
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When she attack you, you are justified to hoot! Hokay? Lol
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whilst that is true. I should not be encouraging it. It bad for my karma....When she attack you, you are justified to hoot! Hokay? Lol
edit : trying to make up for too much hooting I did earlier in my life.
but you do have a sense of humour....
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The Big Read: Some men just don’t get it — more awareness but abuse of women in S’pore still a problem
Despite greater recognition from the Government on the broader issue of violence against women, there is still a long way to go at a societal and policy level, and in helping victims break free.
Woman lying in silence. (Photo: Unsplash/MMPR)
By Janice Lim
02 Apr 2019 06:50AM(Updated: 02 Apr 2019 08:12AM)
SINGAPORE: It was just a S$2.50 meal. Even then, Wendy (not her real name) had to get permission from her then-boyfriend to buy it.
And no, it wasn’t because Wendy was financially dependent on him — she graduated from Nanyang Technological University and was a former top banker before starting a business with her ex.
It was punishment for not being capable enough to generate more sales for the company. Or so, she was told.
What Wendy didn’t realise then was that she was being psychologically abused by her boyfriend, until her friend pointed it out to her.
The boyfriend flew into a jealous rage and threatened her with a knife. Afiqah, who did not want to reveal her full name, was three months’ pregnant at that time.
“He said to me, ‘I will make sure I end your life’,” said the 23-year-old.
Both Wendy and Afiqah are among the growing number of unmarried women who have been abused by their close partners.
READ: A culture of unwanted advances and the persistence of workplace sexual harassment, a commentary
They were frustrated with the lack of avenues they had to protect themselves even when they approached law enforcement agencies.
Wendy said she was told by the police that she couldn’t file a restraining order because she wasn’t married.
While Afiqah was able to file for a Personal Protection Order (PPO) for her daughter after she left her abusive ex, she is unable to get one herself because she wasn’t able to produce a marriage certificate.
Filing for a PPO is one way abuse victims can seek protection. Their abusers cannot use any form of violence — whether physical or emotional — against them once a PPO has been granted by the court. However, it only applies to family members.
This is partly why, after leaving the relationship two years ago, Afiqah said she still has nightmares and sometimes fear that he might hurt her again.
A woman bows her head in pain. (Photo: Unsplash/Volkan Olmez)
More help for victims like Afiqah and Wendy could be on the way with legal changes to be tabled in Parliament “in the next few months”, said Law and Home Affairs Minister K Shanmugam about a month ago.
The proposed changes to the Protection from Harassment Act (POHA) will make it easier for both married and unmarried victims to seek legal protection.
The changes include setting up a new Protection from Harassment Court, quicker applications for a Protection Order, expanding the coverage of such orders to include the victim’s parents and children, as well as allowing arrests to be made without a warrant when perpetrators breach the Protection Order.
While still small, the number of casework involving dating violence has gone up from 6 to 17 between the financial years of 2015 and 2017, according to family violence specialist centre Pave.
READ: What took us so long to move against marital immunity for rape?
Last week, the Association of Women for Action and Research (Aware) revealed that it received over 4,000 calls to its Women’s Helpline last year, a 32 per cent increase from the year before.
The not-for-profit organisation, which advocates for gender equality and provides critical support services for women in Singapore, tends to field an average of 3,000 calls yearly.
STATS 'DON'T SHOW THE FULL PICTURE'
The number of PPOs filed averaged around 2,768 cases each year over the last five years, according to statistics from the Family Justice Courts.
There were over 2,500 PPOs filed in 2008, increasing to over 3,100 in 2013 before gradually declining to almost 2,500 last year.
While the overall figures do move up and down over the years, the percentage of applicants that are women has consistently been at around 70 per cent.
Though unmarried victims are not able to apply for PPO, they will be able to file for a Protection Order under POHA.
Abusers served with the Protection Order cannot threaten, stalk or harass their victims. If found to have breached conditions, they can be fined or jailed.
However, there is no available data from the State Courts on the number of Protection Orders filed as a result of intimate partner violence, since POHA also covers other forms of harassment, such as those occurring in the workplace.
According to family violence specialist centre Trans Safe, the number of cases it handles involving relationship abuse has also fluctuated over the past decade.
When both physical and psychological abuses were included, the centre saw 54 such cases in 2008, 172 in 2013 and 102 last year.
(File photo: AP)
As for Pave, the numbers have stayed quite consistent, with about 175 in 2008, and 184 in 2013 and 2018.
However, social workers have said that it is difficult to draw a “substantive conclusion” just from the numbers alone, as it is mostly a function of reporting.
Similarly, an increase in reporting may not necessarily mean that there is an increase in the incidence of violence but could be a reflection of better access to social and legal support.
Ms Anisha Joseph, head of care services at Aware, said that the declining number of PPOs could also be a result of women not wishing to apply for them out of fear of being seen as the one who “broke up the family”, or out of fear of their abusive partners.
“We need to triangulate more data like (police) statistics, statistics from family violence specialist centres, family service centres, hospitals, educational institutions and even public surveys to understand the true landscape of incidences of violence and trends of reporting or seeking legal remedies,” she added.
Pave’s vice-president Alan John also said that the general view it takes is that those who come forward and report their abuse represent “a fraction of those who are actually experiencing it” and that there are probably many other victims who are still suffering in silence.
READ: When a rap song sparks a bitter, long-needed gender debate in South Korea, a commentary
'HE DIDN’T HIT ME’
Beyond the numbers, social workers and lawyers also said that they see a growing number of cases involving psychological and emotional abuse, compared with the past where physical violence was predominant.
In fact, for family lawyer Gloria James-Civetta, she is seeing fewer cases involving physical violence.
“Ten years ago, I did not have a client who came to me and said, ‘my husband is a narcissist’. It was straightforward domestic violence. Now women are reading about it (psychological abuse) and becoming more aware,” said the head lawyer for Gloria James-Civetta and Co.
READ: When children say they’ve been sexually abused, believe them, a commentary
Psychological abuse can take the form of hurling of vulgarities, constant criticisms or the use of demeaning words towards one’s partner. Issuing threats, constantly surveilling one’s partner and isolation from other friends and family also constitute psychological abuse.
Ultimately, abusers want to exert dominance and have power and control in a relationship, be it through physical or psychological means, social workers say.
Whenever Nina (not her real name) told her husband about a job she was interested in applying for, he would always tell her that the working hours were too long and she wouldn’t have time for their daughter. He would also constantly mock her and criticise her whenever they have disagreements.
“Everytime he brought up our daughter, I would give in. I would feel so guilty, that I’m not a good mother,” said the Singaporean permanent resident who is from China.
Nina quit her job when she moved over to Singapore to be with her husband, also from China, and who is working as a doctor in Singapore.
When her husband decided to divorce her and not provide any allowance for her and her daughter’s daily expenses, she filed for a maintenance order.
That however sent her husband into a blind rage and he attacked her in their matrimonial home, resulting in her falling onto the floor. He then hit her head against the floor repeatedly, causing it to bleed.
(Photo illustration: Ngau Kai Yan)
She has filed for a police report and a PPO.
Beyond the physical pain, Nina said her self-esteem has also taken a blow as friends have told her that she has changed and is no longer as self-confident as before.
Psychological abuse also increases the hold an abuser has over his victim. Afiqah said her ex-boyfriend did not allow her to return to her home and even took her phone away.
He also did not allow her to go to work, leading her to quit her job, nor have any friends.
“Words have just as much of an impact as physical abuse,” said Ms Kanniga Gnanasekaran, senior social worker at SINDA Family Service Centre, which takes in cases from all ethnic communities in Singapore.
“It’s the way he looked at me, like ‘Oh my god, you are the scum of the earth and you look so stupid’. He would physically point a finger right up to my face, inches from my nose and go ‘Oh, look at you’,” said the 43-year-old, who has a law degree and has many years of experience working in the financial sector.
The Big Read: Some men just don’t get it — more awareness but abuse of women in S’pore still a problem
Despite greater recognition from the Government on the broader issue of violence against women, there is still a long way to go at a societal and policy level, and in helping victims break free.
Woman lying in silence. (Photo: Unsplash/MMPR)
By Janice Lim
02 Apr 2019 06:50AM(Updated: 02 Apr 2019 08:12AM)
SINGAPORE: It was just a S$2.50 meal. Even then, Wendy (not her real name) had to get permission from her then-boyfriend to buy it.
And no, it wasn’t because Wendy was financially dependent on him — she graduated from Nanyang Technological University and was a former top banker before starting a business with her ex.
It was punishment for not being capable enough to generate more sales for the company. Or so, she was told.
What Wendy didn’t realise then was that she was being psychologically abused by her boyfriend, until her friend pointed it out to her.
He told me, ‘I trusted you with all these business leads and you didn’t deliver.’ It’s the slow chipping of your mind, it starts getting very messed up. You think, ‘maybe I’m really that bad'.
In another case three years ago, Afiqah’s then-boyfriend saw some old Facebook messages she sent to her previous lover.The boyfriend flew into a jealous rage and threatened her with a knife. Afiqah, who did not want to reveal her full name, was three months’ pregnant at that time.
“He said to me, ‘I will make sure I end your life’,” said the 23-year-old.
Both Wendy and Afiqah are among the growing number of unmarried women who have been abused by their close partners.
READ: A culture of unwanted advances and the persistence of workplace sexual harassment, a commentary
They were frustrated with the lack of avenues they had to protect themselves even when they approached law enforcement agencies.
Wendy said she was told by the police that she couldn’t file a restraining order because she wasn’t married.
While Afiqah was able to file for a Personal Protection Order (PPO) for her daughter after she left her abusive ex, she is unable to get one herself because she wasn’t able to produce a marriage certificate.
Filing for a PPO is one way abuse victims can seek protection. Their abusers cannot use any form of violence — whether physical or emotional — against them once a PPO has been granted by the court. However, it only applies to family members.
This is partly why, after leaving the relationship two years ago, Afiqah said she still has nightmares and sometimes fear that he might hurt her again.
A woman bows her head in pain. (Photo: Unsplash/Volkan Olmez)
More help for victims like Afiqah and Wendy could be on the way with legal changes to be tabled in Parliament “in the next few months”, said Law and Home Affairs Minister K Shanmugam about a month ago.
The proposed changes to the Protection from Harassment Act (POHA) will make it easier for both married and unmarried victims to seek legal protection.
The changes include setting up a new Protection from Harassment Court, quicker applications for a Protection Order, expanding the coverage of such orders to include the victim’s parents and children, as well as allowing arrests to be made without a warrant when perpetrators breach the Protection Order.
While still small, the number of casework involving dating violence has gone up from 6 to 17 between the financial years of 2015 and 2017, according to family violence specialist centre Pave.
READ: What took us so long to move against marital immunity for rape?
Last week, the Association of Women for Action and Research (Aware) revealed that it received over 4,000 calls to its Women’s Helpline last year, a 32 per cent increase from the year before.
The not-for-profit organisation, which advocates for gender equality and provides critical support services for women in Singapore, tends to field an average of 3,000 calls yearly.
STATS 'DON'T SHOW THE FULL PICTURE'
The number of PPOs filed averaged around 2,768 cases each year over the last five years, according to statistics from the Family Justice Courts.
There were over 2,500 PPOs filed in 2008, increasing to over 3,100 in 2013 before gradually declining to almost 2,500 last year.
While the overall figures do move up and down over the years, the percentage of applicants that are women has consistently been at around 70 per cent.
Though unmarried victims are not able to apply for PPO, they will be able to file for a Protection Order under POHA.
Abusers served with the Protection Order cannot threaten, stalk or harass their victims. If found to have breached conditions, they can be fined or jailed.
However, there is no available data from the State Courts on the number of Protection Orders filed as a result of intimate partner violence, since POHA also covers other forms of harassment, such as those occurring in the workplace.
According to family violence specialist centre Trans Safe, the number of cases it handles involving relationship abuse has also fluctuated over the past decade.
When both physical and psychological abuses were included, the centre saw 54 such cases in 2008, 172 in 2013 and 102 last year.
(File photo: AP)
As for Pave, the numbers have stayed quite consistent, with about 175 in 2008, and 184 in 2013 and 2018.
However, social workers have said that it is difficult to draw a “substantive conclusion” just from the numbers alone, as it is mostly a function of reporting.
Similarly, an increase in reporting may not necessarily mean that there is an increase in the incidence of violence but could be a reflection of better access to social and legal support.
Ms Anisha Joseph, head of care services at Aware, said that the declining number of PPOs could also be a result of women not wishing to apply for them out of fear of being seen as the one who “broke up the family”, or out of fear of their abusive partners.
“We need to triangulate more data like (police) statistics, statistics from family violence specialist centres, family service centres, hospitals, educational institutions and even public surveys to understand the true landscape of incidences of violence and trends of reporting or seeking legal remedies,” she added.
Pave’s vice-president Alan John also said that the general view it takes is that those who come forward and report their abuse represent “a fraction of those who are actually experiencing it” and that there are probably many other victims who are still suffering in silence.
READ: When a rap song sparks a bitter, long-needed gender debate in South Korea, a commentary
'HE DIDN’T HIT ME’
Beyond the numbers, social workers and lawyers also said that they see a growing number of cases involving psychological and emotional abuse, compared with the past where physical violence was predominant.
In fact, for family lawyer Gloria James-Civetta, she is seeing fewer cases involving physical violence.
“Ten years ago, I did not have a client who came to me and said, ‘my husband is a narcissist’. It was straightforward domestic violence. Now women are reading about it (psychological abuse) and becoming more aware,” said the head lawyer for Gloria James-Civetta and Co.
READ: When children say they’ve been sexually abused, believe them, a commentary
Psychological abuse can take the form of hurling of vulgarities, constant criticisms or the use of demeaning words towards one’s partner. Issuing threats, constantly surveilling one’s partner and isolation from other friends and family also constitute psychological abuse.
Ultimately, abusers want to exert dominance and have power and control in a relationship, be it through physical or psychological means, social workers say.
Whenever Nina (not her real name) told her husband about a job she was interested in applying for, he would always tell her that the working hours were too long and she wouldn’t have time for their daughter. He would also constantly mock her and criticise her whenever they have disagreements.
“Everytime he brought up our daughter, I would give in. I would feel so guilty, that I’m not a good mother,” said the Singaporean permanent resident who is from China.
Nina quit her job when she moved over to Singapore to be with her husband, also from China, and who is working as a doctor in Singapore.
When her husband decided to divorce her and not provide any allowance for her and her daughter’s daily expenses, she filed for a maintenance order.
That however sent her husband into a blind rage and he attacked her in their matrimonial home, resulting in her falling onto the floor. He then hit her head against the floor repeatedly, causing it to bleed.
(Photo illustration: Ngau Kai Yan)
She has filed for a police report and a PPO.
Beyond the physical pain, Nina said her self-esteem has also taken a blow as friends have told her that she has changed and is no longer as self-confident as before.
Psychological abuse also increases the hold an abuser has over his victim. Afiqah said her ex-boyfriend did not allow her to return to her home and even took her phone away.
He also did not allow her to go to work, leading her to quit her job, nor have any friends.
Every single day, every hour, every second, I need to be with him. At first I thought it is because he cares for me and loves me. Now I realise, it is not, he was trying to control me.
Social workers stressed that it is wrong to perceive psychological abuse as a less extreme form of violence than physical abuse.“Words have just as much of an impact as physical abuse,” said Ms Kanniga Gnanasekaran, senior social worker at SINDA Family Service Centre, which takes in cases from all ethnic communities in Singapore.
You’ll always feel you’re not good enough, you feel you’re the one in the wrong, and that’s what happens to victims all the time.
For Jane (not her real name), the shouting and put-downs she endured from her ex-husband were “far more damaging” than the instances where he grabbed and pushed her.“It’s the way he looked at me, like ‘Oh my god, you are the scum of the earth and you look so stupid’. He would physically point a finger right up to my face, inches from my nose and go ‘Oh, look at you’,” said the 43-year-old, who has a law degree and has many years of experience working in the financial sector.
He made me think that there was something wrong with me. In any case, the only way I could defuse the situation was to agree and say ‘Yes it is me, you’re right. This is my fault’. It eroded my self-confidence and my self-worth.
Social workers said the increasing number of such cases being reported could be a result of greater awareness of what sort of behaviour constitute psychological abuse, not because such forms of abuse did not exist before.
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If you or someone you know have faced sexual assault (including sexual harassment), please contact us through the (SACC) Helpline number 6779 0282 (Monday – Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m. except public holidays).
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Call Back Request Form
If you are unable to reach the Women’s Helpline, and would like us to call you back, please leave your details here. We will call you back at a time that suits you.
Your safety matters to us
At AWARE, we take confidentiality very seriously. All conversations you have with us will be kept confidential. However, in certain situations we may have to let local authorities, including police or Child Protective Services, know some of your information.
Such situations include the following examples:
- You have told us about a situation in which you or another person is unsafe, and we are unable to ensure your safety merely by listening and talking to you about safety options.
- You are a minor (a person under the age of 16) at risk of harm, or have let us know that a minor is at risk of harm, and we are unable to ensure safety.
- Legal requirements compel us to disclose what you have said to us—for example, if the police request access to your records.
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妇女行动与研究协会
我们的援助服务为那些身处痛苦或正面临人生困惑的女妇女提供信息和帮助。
援助热线 (1800 777 5555) 于星期一至星期五早上10点到晚上6点开放服务
性侵害援助中心（SACC）
遭受性侵害的受害者可以拨打SACC热线以寻求帮助，热线于星期一至星期五开放。
早上10点至晚上10点，请拨打 6779 0282
您也可发电邮联系我们：[email protected]
SACC义工会陪伴性侵犯受害者到警察局、医院或法院，提供信息和支持。
Hubungi kami di 1800 777 5555, (Isnin-Jumaat, 10 a.m. sehinnga 10 p.m.) untuk bercakap dengan Helpliner terlatih dan menerima sokongan melalui telefon. Helpliner kami boleh membantu pemanggil dengan pelbagai perkara yang membimbangkan, empati terhadap masalah yang dihadapi, memberi sokongan dan maklumat serta dorongan jika anda memerlukannya. Anda juga boleh membuat temu janji untuk bercakap dengan kaunselor, peguam atau meminta seorang befriender menemani anda ke balai polis, mahkamah atau hospital. Kesemua panggilan dan juga kes-kes yang dikendalikan akan dirahsiakan. Talian Helpline AWARE dikendalikan oleh wanita, untuk wanita.
Sekiranya anda atau orang yang anda kenali mengalami keganasan seksual (termasuklah gangguan seksual), sila hubungi kami di talian Helpline Pusat Perkhidmatan Mangsa Penderaan Seksual (SACC) 6779 0282 (Isnin – Jumaat, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m. kecuali pada hari cuti umum).
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திங்கள் முதல் வெள்ளி வரை மதியம் 10 -மணி முதல் இரவு 6 மணி வரை தொலைபேசி மூலம் எங்களின் பயிற்சி பெற்ற உதவியாளருடன் பேசி ஆதரவு பெறுங்கள். நீங்கள் அழைக்க வேண்டிய எண் 1800 777 5555.
அழைப்பவர்களின் பல்வேறு கவலைளுக்கு எங்கள் உதவியாளர்கள் உதவி அளிப்பது மட்டுமன்றி தங்களுக்கு தேவைப்பட்டால் கணிவு, ஆதரவு, தகவல் மேலும் ஊக்கம் வழங்குவார்கள்.
நீங்கள் முன்பதிவு மூலம், எங்களின் ஆலோசகரிடம் , சட்ட வல்லுனரிடம் ஆலோசனை பெறவும் அல்லது எங்கள் நண்பர் சேவகருடன் காவல் நிலையம், நீதிமன்றம் அல்லது மருத்துவமனை செல்லவும் ஏற்பாடு செய்ய முடியும்.
உங்களின் அனைத்து அழைப்புகள் மற்றும் வழக்குகள் உரிய பாதுகாப்புடன் கையாளப்படும்.
AWARE தொலைதொடர்பு உதவி, பெண்களால் பெண்களுக்காக நடத்தப்படுகிறது.
நீங்களோ அல்லது உங்களுக்கு தெரிந்தவர்களோ பாலியல் துன்புறுத்தலை எதிர் கொண்டால், நீங்கள் எங்களது பாலியல் துன்புற்றுதல் மையத்தின் (SACC) 6779 0282 என்ற தொடர்பு எண்ணை (திங்கள் முதல் வெள்ளி வரை காலை 10 மணி முதல் 10 மணி வரை, பொது விடுமுறை தவிர்த்து) அழைக்கலாம்.
3 வேலை நாட்களுக்குள் உங்களுக்கு பதில்கள் அனுப்பப்படும்.
மேலும் கேள்விகள் உள்ளனவா? அடிக்கடி கேட்கப்படும் கேள்விகள் பற்றி அறிய இங்கே கொடுக்கப்பட்ட இணையத்தை அழுத்துவம்.
எங்களின் உதவி மையத்தில் உதவியாளராக சேர இங்கே கொடுக்கப்பட்ட இணையத்தை அழுத்துவம்.
Jail term extended for man who beat wife
Deterrence remains the key sentencing principle in cases of domestic violence, said an appeal judge, as he increased the prison term of a 34-year-old man who assaulted his wife after returning home drunk.
Judge of Appeal Tay Yong Kwang imposed five weeks' jail on Satesh Navarlan after allowing an appeal by the prosecution for a harsher sentence.
Satesh was originally sentenced by a district court to a short detention order of 14 days, and a day reporting order of nine months.
In the early morning of Feb 1 last year, his wife and five-year-old daughter were in the bedroom when he returned home in an intoxicated state.
He snatched his wife's blanket away, grabbed her right leg and bit it. About 10 minutes later, when she asked him to wash up, he responded by rolling around on the bed. Worried for their daughter, his wife took the girl out to the living room. He followed them out and a heated argument followed.
Satesh threw several punches at his wife, who tried unsuccessfully to block the blows with an umbrella. He then wrested the umbrella away and hit her with it, while sarcastically telling her: "This is how it works!"
Satesh's wife fled the flat with her daughter after he threw her mobile phone on the floor when she tried to call the police.
Since then, she has been staying at a community shelter, the court heard.
Satesh pleaded guilty to one charge of contravening a Personal Protection Order (PPO) and one charge of causing hurt to his wife.
A district judge imposed a day reporting order to ensure that Satesh would follow through with his promise to deal with his drinking problem and a short detention order for deterrent effect.
However, prosecutors appealed, arguing that the district judge had given too much weight to rehabilitation when deterrence should be the dominant principle in this case.
In a judgment released yesterday, Justice Tay agreed with the prosecution.
Satesh's relentless assault greatly affected his wife's and young daughter's sense of security and peace of mind, he said.
He noted that Satesh continued to drink excessively even after his wife took out a PPO against him for pushing her while he was in an intoxicated state.
Justice Tay said Satesh, who has been jailed twice for drink driving, lacked rehabilitative prospects and his decision to enrol with Alcoholics Anonymous appeared to be a "tactical move" for his mitigation plea.
Noting that community-based sentences were intended to target regulatory offences and offences involving younger perpetrators and people with minor mental conditions, he said the present offences did not fall under such categories.
A version of this article appeared in the print edition of The Straits Times on May 09, 2019, with the headline 'Jail term extended for man who beat wife'. Print Edition | Subscribe
Deterrence remains the key sentencing principle in cases of domestic violence, said an appeal judge, as he increased the prison term of a 34-year-old man who assaulted his wife after returning home drunk.
Judge of Appeal Tay Yong Kwang imposed five weeks' jail on Satesh Navarlan after allowing an appeal by the prosecution for a harsher sentence.
Satesh was originally sentenced by a district court to a short detention order of 14 days, and a day reporting order of nine months.
In the early morning of Feb 1 last year, his wife and five-year-old daughter were in the bedroom when he returned home in an intoxicated state.
He snatched his wife's blanket away, grabbed her right leg and bit it. About 10 minutes later, when she asked him to wash up, he responded by rolling around on the bed. Worried for their daughter, his wife took the girl out to the living room. He followed them out and a heated argument followed.
Satesh threw several punches at his wife, who tried unsuccessfully to block the blows with an umbrella. He then wrested the umbrella away and hit her with it, while sarcastically telling her: "This is how it works!"
Satesh's wife fled the flat with her daughter after he threw her mobile phone on the floor when she tried to call the police.
Since then, she has been staying at a community shelter, the court heard.
Satesh pleaded guilty to one charge of contravening a Personal Protection Order (PPO) and one charge of causing hurt to his wife.
Noting that community-based sentences were intended to target regulatory offences and offences involving younger perpetrators and people with minor mental conditions, the judge said the present offences did not fall under such categories.
She had taken out the PPO in 2014 to restrain him from using violence on her.A district judge imposed a day reporting order to ensure that Satesh would follow through with his promise to deal with his drinking problem and a short detention order for deterrent effect.
However, prosecutors appealed, arguing that the district judge had given too much weight to rehabilitation when deterrence should be the dominant principle in this case.
In a judgment released yesterday, Justice Tay agreed with the prosecution.
Satesh's relentless assault greatly affected his wife's and young daughter's sense of security and peace of mind, he said.
He noted that Satesh continued to drink excessively even after his wife took out a PPO against him for pushing her while he was in an intoxicated state.
Justice Tay said Satesh, who has been jailed twice for drink driving, lacked rehabilitative prospects and his decision to enrol with Alcoholics Anonymous appeared to be a "tactical move" for his mitigation plea.
Noting that community-based sentences were intended to target regulatory offences and offences involving younger perpetrators and people with minor mental conditions, he said the present offences did not fall under such categories.
A version of this article appeared in the print edition of The Straits Times on May 09, 2019, with the headline 'Jail term extended for man who beat wife'. Print Edition | Subscribe
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Fun bags before the kiddos arrive, down grade to $3 chai png when the kids come along.
Gravity does its job well too
Both belongs to the husband, when the kid comes along, they share and suck on one each.
@ginfreely do you breast feed your husband, your father and his father? Two take one breast each, the last one take CB.
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you know, I'm curious about this. some women, no matter what they do, it's still bouncy and perky relative to age. others young already dangling like pendulums. I wonder what makes the difference?Fun bags before the kiddos arrive, down grade to $3 chai png when the kids come along.
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Gabrielle, 48, created an artwork titled Speak Up And Reach Out, part of a roving exhibition by the Ministry of Social and Family Development that features art by survivors of family violence. She said: "When I feel very low, I often share with my close friends and talk to God. I need to speak up, so they know my needs." PHOTOS: MINISTRY OF SOCIAL AND FAMILY DEVELOPMENT
Abigail, 10, who drew Failure, said: "Whenever I see my mum hurt by my family members, I feel afraid and hopeless... I want people to treat one another well and not hurt anybody.PHOTOS: MINISTRY OF SOCIAL AND FAMILY DEVELOPMENT
Beatrice, 14, while reflecting on her work of art, Embrace, said: "The bright warm sun shines through the gloomy clouds, like God saving a hurting soul. Shall I welcome and embrace the friendly smile?" PHOTOS: MINISTRY OF SOCIAL AND FAMILY DEVELOPMENT
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