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singapore mythology: poor helping the poor

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My legs are now so tired and weak’
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.By Andrew Loh
.Posts .By Andrew Loh | SingaporeScene – 12 hours ago....tweet18Share0EmailPrint.....

An elderly tissue pack vendor inspires with her courage and strength. (Getty Images)

My friend and I were having a late supper at a 24-hour food court in Hougang on Thursday. It was about 11:30pm.

She came up to us at the table. "Want to buy tissue?" she said. The voice sounded familiar to me. I turned around and indeed it was the same elderly lady whom I have seen in other parts of Hougang at other times, peddling her tissue packs at the neighbourhood coffeeshops.

She didn't wait for a reply. "2 packets for S$1.20," she said in the local dialect, Hokkien, as she laid the 2 tissue packs on the table. I reached into my wallet and gave her a S$2 note.

"You are working late," I said to her.

"I just came out of the hospital," she replied. "The other day I fainted and fell. They called an ambulance and sent me to the hospital."

She had been doing one of her rounds at the coffeeshops when it happened, three weeks ago. "Tan Tock Seng Hospital," she offered. "I had to stay there for three weeks and was only discharged three days ago." I asked her why she fainted, though I could guess the reasons.

“Please don't close the door until my legs are in the car.
- Madam LimLim, as she later told me her name was, is a frail-looking woman. The deep-set lines on her face, and the prominent sockets of her eyes, the paper-thin skin on her arms marked with liver spots or old age spots as they are sometimes called, and her severely hunched back tell a tale of struggle in making ends meet.

"I no longer sell 4-D tickets," she said, referring to the lottery tickets which she would sell for S$2.50 each, making 50 cents off each ticket. "When I fainted that day, I had 120 tickets with me."

She said the tickets were worth about S$300. As she was in hospital for an extended period, she could not sell or return them. So she lost that amount of money. This is why she now sells tissue paper. At least they do not have an expiry date like the tickets.

"You shouldn't work so late," I urged her.

"No choice," she replied. "Otherwise I won't have enough to eat."

A lady's kindness

Just then, another lady, perhaps in her 60s, came up to Lim and thrusted a S$10 note into her hands. "Aunty, take this," the lady said to Lim. But the older woman would not accept it.

"No, no! I cannot take this." The lady insisted as she continued to push the note into Lim's hands. After some to-ing and fro-ing, the elderly madam finally had no choice really but to accept the S$10.

"Thank you," she said to the other lady who quickly took her leave without saying much.

As it turned out, the lady who gave Lim the S$10, as my friend observed, was a cardboard collector. She had parked her trolly, which is evidently used for collecting card boards, outside the food court before approaching Lim to give her the money. Indeed, after having handed the note to the older woman, she went back to her trolly and left, pushing her trolly with her.

Lim, as I noticed, was a little embarrassed from what had just transpired which had attracted the attention of the patrons and stall owners in the food court. She quickly put the note in her pocket, and continued to make her rounds of the food court, with the bag which contained the tissue packs slung on her shoulders and a well-worn umbrella in her hands.

As she walked away, all hunched and in tentative steps, I was on the one hand sad for her while on the other full of admiration of her courage and strength.

It was by this time approaching midnight and we wanted to speak with Lim more. We went around the food court looking for her. She wasn't there anymore. So we went out of the food court and looked around the surrounding area. It was already dark and the shops were all closed. Only a handful of people were around -- but not Lim.

"She must have gone to the coffeeshop nearby," I told my friend. I am quite familiar with the area and knew that the coffeeshop wasn't far away. So we made our way there. And indeed, Lim was there, going from table to table to peddle her tissue packs. We didn't want to interrupt her and so we sat down at a table and waited.

10 minutes later, she was done and we saw her making her way out of the coffeeshop. We went to meet her. When she saw us, she said, "Want to buy tissue paper?"

I said, "We bought from you just now at the food court, remember?"

She smiled and replied, "Oh, you bought already."

A simple request

I asked her where she lived. "Just nearby, behind Hougang Mall." Then she asked me, "Do you drive?"

I replied, "No, I don't drive."

"Oh, I thought if you did, you could maybe send me home," she said. "My legs are now so tired and weak."

Just then, my friend, who did not hear the exchange between me and Mdm Lim, came up to me and asked if we could send her home. I had momentarily forgotten that my friend drives. "Oh aunty," I said to Lim, "My friend drives. We can send you home."

"Oh, that's good," she replied, clearly thankful and relieved that she would not have to make the long way home on foot.

When we got to the car, she asked me to help her. "My legs have no strength anymore." She then held my hands as she settled herself into the seat. "Please don't close the door until my legs are in the car," she told me.

In the car, I asked her about her family. "I have only one daughter," she replied. "But her husband has heart problems. For 20 years already, since he was in his 30s. He can't work because of this. Now in his 50s, they also have financial problems of their own. He needs to see the doctor, too."

Lim then told me that she had to pay S$4,500 for her three-week hospital stay. "That is a lot of money," she said. "But my daughter used her CPF to pay for me. My daughter is Singaporean. I am only PR, that is why so expensive. I have been in Singapore for 40 years but I am stupid, didn't know to apply for citizenship." She was visibly upset.

Lim would leave her home at 5.30pm each day to sell her tissue papers. It is a cooler time of day. She would only go home close to midnight. She makes about $10 or slightly more daily, just enough for her personal expenses.

As we reached her HDB block, she thanked us several times, wishing us prosperity. I realised that her home was quite some distance from the food court and coffeeshop and that it must take her quite an effort to trudge there everyday to do her rounds.

"Let me walk you to the elevator, " I offered.

"Ok," she said. "Can you leave only when the elevator door has closed?" she asked me.

I replied that I would, of course. She bade me goodnight and thanked my friend and I several times for driving her home.

Finally, the elevator arrived. I asked her to take care of herself, as the doors closed.

It was about 12.30am.

I am sure I will see her again around the neighbourhood.

She is 83-years old.

Andrew heads publichouse.sg as Editor-in-Chief. The site tells stories of the community and its people, capturing their many different and diverse aspects in interesting ways.

..andrew loh was the ex-editor of TOC. why he left TOC was still a mystery.
 
what andrew wrote could be a rare truth happening in sgp. the poor are more willing to help the poor than the rich more generous to help.

in most of the charity shows, the call-ins were mostly average struggling sgporeans donating and who were more understanding about the plight of being poor.

by comparision of generosity, cardboard auntie donated almost all her entire earning for the day to the tissue auntie knowing that the latter needed the money more desperately. for the rich donating in charity shows, it's all but a show-off for attention whoring and good wayang PR.

compassion does have many faces. it could authentic but many a times it's HYPOCRISY masquerading as COMPASSION to gain popularity or for another motive.
 
the gov is always boasting that "nobody shall be left behind...." that they are always helping the poor and needies (with increased GST, of course). then we keep seeing tissues selling old folks at hawker centres. we witness old folks picking empty drink cans, cardboard and etc. we even encounter beggars which we are quite confused whether they are singaporeans or "professional" FT beggars from the foreign beggar clan.

if the gov claims they are doing their best to help the poor and needies, why are such incidents getting to be more and more common?

what are the mps in their respective wards where such scenery plays out day after day doing anything to actually help?
 
The more powerful the individual, the lesser incentive he has to be sympathetic towards others.
 
The govt isn't gonna wipe my arse for me anytime soon. And I'm not about to wait for them. The same applies to charity. If people truly cared for the poor, they would have, at the very least, bought the packets of tissue paper from the poor at hawker centres rather than rebuffing them as I've observed all too often. Sinkie sheep deserve the government they voted for.
 
I have 1 very simple question for the very educated author of this article. Did she ever bother to tell this Ah Mah where to seek help. There is only so much the government or any charitable org can do. If they are not getting help, then pple like her who knows where to direct the Ah Mah should be stepping up and point them to the proper channels. Writing articles like that serve no real purpose and does not improve the quality of the Ah Mah's life. At best they general some publicity and get some donation which will only help for a few months.
 
I have 1 very simple question for the very educated author of this article. Did she ever bother to tell this Ah Mah where to seek help. There is only so much the government or any charitable org can do. If they are not getting help, then pple like her who knows where to direct the Ah Mah should be stepping up and point them to the proper channels. Writing articles like that serve no real purpose and does not improve the quality of the Ah Mah's life. At best they general some publicity and get some donation which will only help for a few months.


hi there


1. bro, no offence.
2. do you yourself try helping such under privileged individual getting assistance from those so-called aid agencies?
3. i have had tried some elderly that i am acquainted with.
4. the amount of forms and information required from those red tape kill man!
5. information on the individual's 3 generations shall suffice.
6. it is more than time consuming, it is just mind blogging.
 
hi there


1. bro, no offence.
2. do you yourself try helping such under privileged individual getting assistance from those so-called aid agencies?
3. i have had tried some elderly that i am acquainted with.
4. the amount of forms and information required from those red tape kill man!
5. information on the individual's 3 generations shall suffice.
6. it is more than time consuming, it is just mind blogging.

To answer your question
Yes I have 1 close relative and at least a couple of family friend on those schemes and yes I know there are a number of forms and some interviews involved.
And if you haven't notice already those forms are designed to make sure they give help to those who actually need it
And it doesn't matter if it's mind blogging or time consuming this pple need help, you think filling up a few forms is a big problem for them?
And at least from my own experience, there are pple to help and advise on the filling up the forms if you don't know how to
 
To answer your question
Yes I have 1 close relative and at least a couple of family friend on those schemes and yes I know there are a number of forms and some interviews involved.
And if you haven't notice already those forms are designed to make sure they give help to those who actually need it
And it doesn't matter if it's mind blogging or time consuming this pple need help, you think filling up a few forms is a big problem for them?
And at least from my own experience, there are pple to help and advise on the filling up the forms if you don't know how to



hi there


1. tsk, tsk, tsk!
2. at the end of the day, the assistance received is suffice to fill the "gap" between teeth.
3. come on! get ready with such agencies.
 
The "help" is to ensure you can put food on your table and not stave to death. If you expect it to be able to give U a car, broadband internet and pay for your condo then you will be very disappointed.
 
firstly, think the ah mah need to be told where to seek help...or at least the author, if he genuinely wants to help, shld alert MCYS about her case.

Also, as far as I know, many of these supposedly needy have 骨气, they would like to still work...n not sit idly waiting for help.
 
firstly, think the ah mah need to be told where to seek help...or at least the author, if he genuinely wants to help, shld alert MCYS about her case.

Also, as far as I know, many of these supposedly needy have 骨气, they would like to still work...n not sit idly waiting for help.

At least someone sees it the same way I do. Pple seem to like to jump up and accuse the government of not doing enough. Instead of politicizing the whole thing go out and actually help these pple. U think there will be any different if PAP gets kicked out? Of coz not, if this pple dun ask for help, how do you think SDP or WP would find out assuming they take over the government. Ultimately someone needs to alert the authorities or the person in need would be required to step up and ask for help.

If these pple seek help and it isn't given, wouldn't it be an even better weapon to use against the government to point out their faults?
 
I heard about a volunteer group at lorong 23 Geylang who provide food for the poor and sick , why not contact them for Mdm Lim so that she and her son-in-law and daughter can get help? It's call Willing Hearts , phone number 64765822, in case I got number wrong please check their website. Thanks
 
Are Singaporeans willing to pay more income tax?

If answer is No, then expect more aunties like her. Anyway country run by pia kia doesn't have much empathy for the poor.


I have 1 very simple question for the very educated author of this article. Did she ever bother to tell this Ah Mah where to seek help. There is only so much the government or any charitable org can do. If they are not getting help, then pple like her who knows where to direct the Ah Mah should be stepping up and point them to the proper channels. Writing articles like that serve no real purpose and does not improve the quality of the Ah Mah's life. At best they general some publicity and get some donation which will only help for a few months.
 
Are Singaporeans willing to pay more income tax?

If answer is No, then expect more aunties like her. Anyway country run by pia kia doesn't have much empathy for the poor.


I have 1 very simple question for the very educated author of this article. Did she ever bother to tell this Ah Mah where to seek help. There is only so much the government or any charitable org can do. If they are not getting help, then pple like her who knows where to direct the Ah Mah should be stepping up and point them to the proper channels. Writing articles like that serve no real purpose and does not improve the quality of the Ah Mah's life. At best they general some publicity and get some donation which will only help for a few months.
 
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