Thanks for your reply.
The insignificant nobody me DO agree with your views, especially over being dragged & sinked to her level in engagement where in the end, none knows the differences between the two or the gang ups...
Each child is born innocent & there is still some good in each Human no matter how bad one had behaved.
Often fights begin with just a bad comment, perhaps made on a bad day with stresses in life, usually just to let off steam or in jest, but some others take it badly & responded in equal measure, which eventually leads to escalated battle of words - out of pride, ego, etc, into that cesspit of hate which mars one's natural positive outlook in life, as time meant to be well spent is instead spent on responding in hate & anger....
Ultimately, it is only words. What happened to 'sticks & stones may break my bones, but words will never kill me' ? She had never physically harmed anyone...
Perhaps some may be engaging with her using Shock Therapy, in the belief that it may electrify & energize her attitudes for better. However, Shock therapy is Negative engagement & often does not work, & worse, comes with life or death consequences....
Based upon her posts, she does seemed to have mental issues & need help. But not all of us are trained psychologists, thus it would be better to leave her alone or offer advices & then let her make her own choice, & walk away, before one's own mental health deteriorates in negative engagement with her. She would need Positive engagement & patience, which most of us in our busy life would have little time to spare. Best let Professionals help her...
Life is often stressful. Just take a deep breathe, count to ten, then release the air from the lungs. Such gives one time to calm down & think before engaging, or just chill with a cup of coffee or a drink, listen to some soothing music & think issues thru before responding.....rather then to react with clouded judgements & then regret later....as actions comes with consequences....
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Thanks for your reply, but I must disagree with some of your points. While words may not physically harm, they can poison a community when one person persistently manipulates and provokes others to gain attention.
This is not a case of someone having a "bad day." It is a calculated and repeated pattern of behavior that has lasted for almost a decade. Any sympathy at this point is completely misplaced. She is not here to learn, grow, or change. She is here to drag innocent people into her chaos.
No one is providing constructive shock therapy, nor would it work on someone like her. What is happening is a toxic loop where random people get sucked into her void, and she feeds off the attention, whether positive or negative. Responding only enables her.
For years, she has been given chances and even sympathy, yet she continues to provoke, manipulate, and disrupt the forum. The idea that we should keep offering advice or understanding is absurd. Compassion for the unworthy, for those who exploit it, is not a virtue.
You also suggest stepping back and not engaging, which I partially agree with, but let us not sugarcoat this. Allowing her free rein to pollute the forum as she has been doing is clearly not a solution. This is not about patience or guidance. It is about recognizing her actions for what they are: deliberate, destructive, and toxic.
By tolerating her, we foster a hostile and negative environment, all because some feel it is "unkind" to draw a firm line. This misplaced sympathy serves no one but her, at the expense of the rest of us, and it has gone on for years.
If she needs help, that is for professionals to handle, not this forum.
Our responsibility is to keep this space meaningful and productive, not a cesspool for her antics. Turning the other cheek to this kind of behavior does not make us better people. It simply allows her to thrive in the chaos she creates.
Enough is enough.
