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He lost money in stocks and I cheated on him, but we worked things out
Yee Pei cheated on her boyfriend, Kenneth, several times, and they still managed to pull through everything despite the other obstacles that came up.
She wrote:
"It all started on 11 August 2009.
"On this very day, as usual, Kenneth was getting himself stuck onto the computer screen playing games, and surfing the net. There he was, searching for friends on Tagged. And well, he came across my profile and he added me.
"Initially I thought it was just ANOTHER guy. And so, I accepted his friend request. We started messaging each other via Tagged Messages. And before we knew it, we exchanged our msn on the very day!
"Chatting with this 'just another guy' was very different with chatting with other guys.
"He seemed a lot more down to earth than most of the men I knew then.
"I remembered at that period of time, there were quite a few guys wooing me all at the same time.
"Honestly speaking, my first impression of him wasn't that fantastic. Or rather I thought he's definitely not MY cup of tea. My mind told my heart, 'This is not the man you want! Ignore him!'
"A few days later, Kenneth asked me out for breakfast at Ang Mo Kio. The moment he came out of the train gantry, I was totally shocked. Why? Simply because I didn't expect myself to date someone who's in his 20's but dressed like he's in his 30's! An old man polo T with jeans and a head of messy hair. Oh my gosh! What am I doing here meeting this old man?!
"Well, but I didn't walk away though. I forced myself to stay on and had breakfast with him. He walked me to school after that and on the way I was praying hard that none of my friends would ever see him. I didn't want any of my friends to know I dated such an 'old man'!
"But it was that day which changed things. He began to woo me officially. No flowers nothing. Just simple words and a sincere heart. I took a few days to think about it. Should I accept this old man or not? Hmmm...
"On August 18 2009, I decided to give him a chance.
"A chance for both of us actually. Everyone must be curious. Why did I choose this old man? Because he has a simple heart. In addition, I preferred older men. So since he looks and thinks quite like an old man, why can't I give him a chance?
"However, things aren't easy for the both of us. When we just got together, I just started my 10-week internship programme at a local company.
"Working the whole day means we hardly spend time with each other. For most couples, the first few months are always the honeymoon period. But for us, it was totally opposite.
"We quarrelled almost every single day. I almost wanted to give up on this relationship. But I told myself to give this relationship another chance.
"Soon, things got slightly better. We could go out for dinner without quarrelling. I would say, both of us were very happy although life was simple.
"And during this period, I still kept in contact with other guys. And well, I cheated on Kenneth. Not once, not twice, but a few times. He was kept in the dark. Until one day when he brought me to church, I told myself, I cannot do this to him anymore.
"He doesn't deserve a treatment like this from me. From a person he loved wholeheartedly. And from then on, I started to fall for him. I started to fall in love with this young 'old man'!
"In December 2009, we celebrated our first Christmas and New Year. Not just the both of us, but with his whole family too! He had a very heart warming family.
"One month passed, two months passed, three months passed. Kenneth and I always try to balance out our time spent alone and with his family. What makes me happy was that his parents were kind of satisfied with me! We always give each other our own personal space and the basic trust that each couple should have. That's what made us lasted I guess.
"Late last year was a very challenging period for us. Kenneth lost quite a sum in the stock market. He became very short-tempered and was irritated very easily. Being a polytechnic student who wasn't working, 2.2k losses incurred within 15 minutes in the U.S. stock market was heavy for him to bear. "Not only I was worried for him, I was very stressed up as well. He would throw tantrums at me, as well as at his family members. And that's not all.
"There were other amounts of losses incurred for the Singapore stock market. But well, we went through the difficult times together. Both of us tried to repay the losses together. Soon after the losses were all paid up, we quarrelled. I can't really recall what we quarrelled about, but it was pretty serious.
"Why did I say so? Because I cheated on him again. But this time round, I felt really guilty that I told Kenneth very honestly that I cheated on him again. The sadness in his eyes was something that I would never forget. I thought we're going to be over. But we didn't! He forgave me! I was so touched that I teared on the spot! He was indeed a very forgiving man.
"Although there were still many times that I almost wanted to give up this relationship, and many times friends around me asked me to give up on this relationship, but I didn't. Kenneth was one of those who was a very doting and loving boyfriend. And in the current society, it's really difficult to find someone who would treat you wholeheartedly and treats you like the queen of his life.
"Lastly, I would want to use this opportunity to tell something to Kenneth.
"Piggy, although there were many times when you and I threw temper at each other, but I still want you to know that I love you!
"We went through so many challenges in the past year. Thank you Piggy. Thank you for allowing me to be stubborn at times. Thank you for letting me to treat you as my maid at times. Thank you for accepting me for who I am; my past, and my present. Let's face the upcoming challenges together in our lives as we hold hand in hand and walk through our life journey. Piggy, I LOVE YOU! <3"
