Living in JB

[wuqi256]

The ones that the doted on will become spoilt and pamper and hence not able to feel for them at all. And the ones that they neglected will grew up to be unhappy/unsatisfied adult that hated them right from the start. In the end, where got filial children?

Got, there are those who they hated and didn't love at all.

1. He still bought them houses and smiled when other neighbours thought that it was them who gave houses to him.
2. He just smiled when a relative said, you are lucky as your dad loves you so much, he must have seen you through to
university unlike my two sons whose dad just beats them up and never sent them to university.
3. He didn't say a word when his younger sister told him that he doesn't have a future after 30 years of age and should give up his
chance of furthering his studies so that she could. He continued to support the family while this sister goes after degree after
degree yet complains no one supports her and she has to study and work full time.
4. He took his parents to more than 6 countries so far including US and Korea
5. He paid 90% of all his fathers debts. Redeemed all the things that were taken away, before he upgraded his tv set, got his dads house a 50" one
6. Lions share of his dad and mum's household bills. 100% of utilities, phone and petrol all bourne by him.
7. He went to find his ancestors grave, hired men to clear the forest and renovated the grave. Only his younger sister chipped in.
8. He still pays the most out of every single trip to the doctors, joss stick shop and shopping plus pays the bulk of every big and small expenses that are related to relatives and extended family.
9. He brought his grandma and extended family out almost every week for 2 years straight. Most of the meals and expenses paid by him.

Despite all this, the dad remarked to his son's staff recently, i thought my son would never amount to anything as he is too softhearted,
hence i didn't groom him, i still hope my 2 daughters will be more successful as they are way smarter than him.

Despite hearing that, the son still took the dad and family for a holiday recently and still planning for another one as he had promised his
mum he will take her to Japan. He still remembers that promise.

This is not being fillial, this is doing the duty as a son and as a only son, thats what he must deliver.

 

[wuqi256]

agreed!!! usually e most they doted on doesnt even care abt them....

But the one they discarded, the one they didn't love. The one they gave stale coffee too and rice to eat on the floor.
He might still grow up and loving them even to the extent of quarrelling with his wife when he put a 2nd house name
under them.

 

[Sanur]

But the one they discarded, the one they didn't love. The one they gave stale coffee too and rice to eat on the floor.
He might still grow up and loving them even to the extent of quarrelling with his wife when he put a 2nd house name
under them.

I know how it feels :( that's life. But truly, GOD will bless this lots!

 

[crystal_tiong]

But the one they discarded, the one they didn't love. The one they gave stale coffee too and rice to eat on the floor.
He might still grow up and loving them even to the extent of quarrelling with his wife when he put a 2nd house name
under them.

Bro Wuqi
I think the current whole world only 1 u who is still fillial and doing as a duty as child despite being treated that way ....

 

[yonglip]

Got, there are those who they hated and didn't love at all.

1. He still bought them houses and smiled when other neighbours thought that it was them who gave houses to him.
2. He just smiled when a relative said, you are lucky as your dad loves you so much, he must have seen you through to
university unlike my two sons whose dad just beats them up and never sent them to university.
3. He didn't say a word when his younger sister told him that he doesn't have a future after 30 years of age and should give up his
chance of furthering his studies so that she could. He continued to support the family while this sister goes after degree after
degree yet complains no one supports her and she has to study and work full time.
4. He took his parents to more than 6 countries so far including US and Korea
5. He paid 90% of all his fathers debts. Redeemed all the things that were taken away, before he upgraded his tv set, got his dads house a 50" one
6. Lions share of his dad and mum's household bills. 100% of utilities, phone and petrol all bourne by him.
7. He went to find his ancestors grave, hired men to clear the forest and renovated the grave. Only his younger sister chipped in.
8. He still pays the most out of every single trip to the doctors, joss stick shop and shopping plus pays the bulk of every big and small expenses that are related to relatives and extended family.
9. He brought his grandma and extended family out almost every week for 2 years straight. Most of the meals and expenses paid by him.

Despite all this, the dad remarked to his son's staff recently, i thought my son would never amount to anything as he is too softhearted,
hence i didn't groom him, i still hope my 2 daughters will be more successful as they are way smarter than him.

Despite hearing that, the son still took the dad and family for a holiday recently and still planning for another one as he had promised his
mum he will take her to Japan. He still remembers that promise.

This is not being fillial, this is doing the duty as a son and as a only son, thats what he must deliver.

Reminds me of a section in "Di Zi Gui"


"When our parents love us, it’s easy to be good to our parents"
"When our parents detest us, then it’s truly virtuous to be good to parents"

 

[wuqi256]

Reminds me of a section in "Di Zi Gui"


"When our parents love us, it’s easy to be good to our parents"
"When our parents detest us, then it’s truly virtuous to be good to parents"

I did something mean last time, though i apologised, i still felt bad towards my dad.

When he saw on news how some kids were ill treated and tortured by their parents, he said:
"Since they don't love the kids, how come give birth to them"
"Since they are born to you, you must treat them well"

I turned to him and said, "I shouldn't have been born then."

 

[ODYSSEY]

This is just something that I wanted to share with all those lurking in the background of the forum looking for information or reasons to living in JB. If you are still contemplating, my advice is to please don’t analyse until paralysed. You will never be able to convince everyone no matter how hard you try – so stop trying already!

Do yourself a great favour by reading this thread from start to end – seriously! It took us 2 weeks to read the entire thread, luckily for us it was until page 389 at that time. It may take you longer, and why not, since you are about to make one of the biggest decision in your life. In the beginning you will have some writing to question the wisdom of living in JB. This is good as they help to clear our thinking. If after reading, you are still not convinced, then I will say that living in JB is not for you, move on.

If you like what you are reading so far about living in JB, then proceed to read for information on how to make the move and living in JB.

For us, we diligently copied and pasted every helpful bits of information that Wuqi and many others had posted onto a word file, often word for word. I am truly indebted to these pioneering people – salute! Topics they shared included the dos and don’ts, like,

Finding a reliable contractor,
Which bank to go with, and what’s the loan process like,
Great eating places (yummy!),
Where to get your lightings, aircon, and electricals from,
Best time to use the Causeway or 2nd Link, how they coped with school going children,
and countless other very relevant topics that affects our living in JB!

We find the people writing in this thread very civil and giving in their sharing (very unlike other threads), perhaps espousing the values and tone unknowingly set earlier by the thread starter. So, to those still lurking in the shadow of this thread, come forward and seek the answer you are looking for. Nobody is going to bite you haha and we can definitely learn from each other. There are many “kapo” (in a loving way) bros and sis’es here ever ready to help.

Thank you all, you have been instrumental in my decision to living in JB!

 

[jasonjst]

This is just something that I wanted to share with all those lurking in the background of the forum looking for information or reasons to living in JB. If you are still contemplating, my advice is to please don’t analyse until paralysed. You will never be able to convict everyone no matter how hard you try – so stop trying already!

Do yourself a great favour by reading this thread from start to end – seriously! It took us 2 weeks to read the entire thread, luckily for us it was until page 389 at that time. It may take you longer, and why not, since you are about to make one of the biggest decision in your life. In the beginning you will have some writing to question the wisdom of living in JB. This is good as they help to clear our thinking. If after reading, you are still not convinced, then I will say that living in JB is not for you, move on.

If you like what you are reading so far about living in JB, then proceed to read for information on how to make the move and living in JB.

For us, we diligently copied and pasted every helpful bits of information that Wuqi and many others had posted onto a word file, often word for word. I am truly indebted to these pioneering people – salute! Topics they shared included the dos and don’ts, like,

Finding a reliable contractor,
Which bank to go with, and what’s the loan process like,
Great eating places (yummy!),
Where to get your lightings, aircon, and electricals from,
Best time to use the Causeway or 2nd Link, how they coped with school going children,
and countless other very relevant topics that affects our living in JB!

We find the people writing in this thread very civil and giving in their sharing (very unlike other threads), perhaps espousing the values and tone unknowingly set earlier by the thread starter. So, to those still lurking in the shadow of this thread, come forward and seek the answer you are looking for. Nobody is going to bite you haha and we can definitely learn from each other. There are many “kapo” (in a loving way) bros and sis’es here ever ready to help.

Thank you all, you have been instrumental in my decision to living in JB!

Bro ,
In the course of your recent house hunting , will you mind sharing what is your perception/ price trench of the various tamans that you being through ? Seem like there are still real gems to be found in the resales market ? Are the resales now on par with developer offering ? Look like house hunting in JB is getting tougher ? Thks for input , if any .

 

[ODYSSEY]

Guys, bros and myself can verify Odyssey account, he really bought.
He is a real fellow Singaporean and a good bro of mine did go around
some parts with him. It always amazes me at how fast things are moving.

Yes, things are truly moving very fast! When I was hunting for my humble house in HH the adverts coming in were quoting prices higher and higher by the week. Each day I wake up praying that we will find our house this weekend. I also selfishly wished that people and the media will stop reporting and publishing on new developments thats going to happen around Iskandar area, haha. I am ashamed......

For those buying from sub-sale, we heed the advice of the people here - that is to CALL direct! dont email or sms as the agents are just too busy right now to respond. I am sure some of you had realised this already, you 've just got to CALL.

Forgive me....if I sound like a bull here, just trying to share my experience and be helpful.

 

[checkers]

Yes, things are truly moving very fast! When I was hunting for my humble house in HH the adverts coming in were quoting prices higher and higher by the week. Each day I wake up praying that we will find our house this weekend. I also selfishly wished that people and the media will stop reporting and publishing on new developments thats going to happen around Iskandar area, haha. I am ashamed......

For those buying from sub-sale, we heed the advice of the people here - that is to CALL direct! dont email or sms as the agents are just too busy right now to respond. I am sure some of you had realised this already, you 've just got to CALL.

Forgive me....if I sound like a bull here, just trying to share my experience and be helpful.

forgive me ....u don't sound a bull ...u sound like an agent ... just joking

 

[checkers]

Yes, things are truly moving very fast! When I was hunting for my humble house in HH the adverts coming in were quoting prices higher and higher by the week. Each day I wake up praying that we will find our house this weekend. I also selfishly wished that people and the media will stop reporting and publishing on new developments thats going to happen around Iskandar area, haha. I am ashamed......

For those buying from sub-sale, we heed the advice of the people here - that is to CALL direct! dont email or sms as the agents are just too busy right now to respond. I am sure some of you had realised this already, you 've just got to CALL.

Forgive me....if I sound like a bull here, just trying to share my experience and be helpful.

so you've only seen HH?

 

[crystal_tiong]

Yes, things are truly moving very fast! When I was hunting for my humble house in HH the adverts coming in were quoting prices higher and higher by the week. Each day I wake up praying that we will find our house this weekend. I also selfishly wished that people and the media will stop reporting and publishing on new developments thats going to happen around Iskandar area, haha. I am ashamed......

For those buying from sub-sale, we heed the advice of the people here - that is to CALL direct! dont email or sms as the agents are just too busy right now to respond. I am sure some of you had realised this already, you 've just got to CALL.

Forgive me....if I sound like a bull here, just trying to share my experience and be helpful.

But buying resale have to absorb a lot of legal fees which add up could be quite expensive.

 

[checkers]

Actually ...things are not moving that fast lah...i keep seeing the same advertisements on houses for sale . as far as i know...they are there for already half a year ...

 

[wuqi256]

so you've only seen HH?

I heard from a bro, they went to a few places before deciding.
Very nice folks and certainly no agent as far as i heard.

 

[wuqi256]

Actually ...things are not moving that fast lah...i keep seeing the same advertisements on houses for sale . as far as i know...they are there for already half a year ...

Some of the guys don't bother to take down old adverts, some are overly priced (at least for now) and some are for rental actually when i called.
Been calling for friends and checking, best to go direct is my 2 cents worth be it developer or directly to owner.

 

[jasonjst]

Actually ...things are not moving that fast lah...i keep seeing the same advertisements on houses for sale . as far as i know...they are there for already half a year ...

I supect things in the resales are catching up sooner than we think . Just 6 months ago , no one will think of buying from the resales.

 

[wuqi256]

But buying resale have to absorb a lot of legal fees which add up could be quite expensive.

Yes it is, best still to get direct from developer unless you really like the particular development

 

[yonglip]

Thank you all, you have been instrumental in my decision to living in JB!

lets all welcome another SUCKER into the club!..hahaha.

jus joking hor.

 

[crystal_tiong]

Yes, things are truly moving very fast! When I was hunting for my humble house in HH the adverts coming in were quoting prices higher and higher by the week. Each day I wake up praying that we will find our house this weekend. I also selfishly wished that people and the media will stop reporting and publishing on new developments thats going to happen around Iskandar area, haha. I am ashamed......

haha , i have the same thought as u .... now my developer just told me the new phase price has increased a lot and the current phase which i am eyeing will be selling fast ...

 

[Skippy]

Well said Skippy! Keep your chin up!

Jiayou Skippy, you are a fillial daughter, most won't even care about their parents. I know of relatives who have 4 kids. All of them have cars and drive. Yet none of them take her out on the weekends. All these are educated people and 2 of them at least have presidential scholarships. When their mum couldn't walk and had to see doctor, my dad even had to use his car to send her.

I may not be of much help but anytime you need any advice or simply an ear, most of the bros/sisters will be glad to listen.

Got, there are those who they hated and didn't love at all.

1. He still bought them houses and smiled when other neighbours thought that it was them who gave houses to him.
2. He just smiled when a relative said, you are lucky as your dad loves you so much, he must have seen you through to
university unlike my two sons whose dad just beats them up and never sent them to university.
3. He didn't say a word when his younger sister told him that he doesn't have a future after 30 years of age and should give up his
chance of furthering his studies so that she could. He continued to support the family while this sister goes after degree after
degree yet complains no one supports her and she has to study and work full time.
4. He took his parents to more than 6 countries so far including US and Korea
5. He paid 90% of all his fathers debts. Redeemed all the things that were taken away, before he upgraded his tv set, got his dads house a 50" one
6. Lions share of his dad and mum's household bills. 100% of utilities, phone and petrol all bourne by him.
7. He went to find his ancestors grave, hired men to clear the forest and renovated the grave. Only his younger sister chipped in.
8. He still pays the most out of every single trip to the doctors, joss stick shop and shopping plus pays the bulk of every big and small expenses that are related to relatives and extended family.
9. He brought his grandma and extended family out almost every week for 2 years straight. Most of the meals and expenses paid by him.

Despite all this, the dad remarked to his son's staff recently, i thought my son would never amount to anything as he is too softhearted,
hence i didn't groom him, i still hope my 2 daughters will be more successful as they are way smarter than him.

Despite hearing that, the son still took the dad and family for a holiday recently and still planning for another one as he had promised his
mum he will take her to Japan. He still remembers that promise.

This is not being fillial, this is doing the duty as a son and as a only son, thats what he must deliver.

Thanks Bro ODYSSEY & Wuqi....
I wouldn't dare to claim i'm being fillial... i also feel that this is my duty as a child. I can't take the illness from him (i told my mom if i can i would rather be the one having the disease)... all i can do minimally is to ensure that his comfort, both TCM and hospital medical bills, fetching him for all treatments and general expenses are all taken care of. I told him not to worry instead all he needs to know and remember is to get well and get ready to shift into our new house. I told him i know i've not been a good gal... even how i dun wan him to worry. It's very important that he needs to go for treatments and follow ups even to see TCM. I dun have the luxury of siblings hence it's all on my shoulders. My side of the story would be i dun have the enjoyment of getting pamper... Dad always tells me if you wan to study, you pay for yourself. So since Poly days... i learnt that i need to make my own $$ if i wan to further my head knowledge and paper qualifications. (actually i started partime since sec school days during the school holidays). As said i'm not the smart alec and earning powerful pay checks... i come from a humble small family however in the eyes of our extended family... my parents has always been pin down becos NO $$, NO big house, No car. i told myself to work hard and if i would to have all these one of these days, i would not end up and become proud but instead share the joy and be glad of my blessings. Planting is a long process.... u need a lot of patience... plough the soil... feed the soil and plant seed by seed... but when harverst... that's the time pple awe at your hard work... even then some may still say nasty remarks (wow so few fruits only ah) and doubt at you... all i know is i grow them with my bare hands, see it grew and now share my joy moments... like that i can say i've live w/o any regret.. at least i've tried my best.

As many bros & sisters here... i'm again thankful for your kindness and encouragements. I'll try my best to keep up and keep it going. The battle has just begin.... i know at the end it shall be a beautiful and bright. Keeping in my mind and spirit.