is it wrong to 讲情讲义？

[krafty]

so many times, I have been disappointed by doing so. I think the best way to survive is still be a lan jiao lang.agree?

 

[Ash007]

There are no 讲情讲义in Singapore. If you want that don't stay in the country. Singapore government, PAP,MIWs etc has always emphasized $$$, just look at the million dollar pay they are getting. Also look at the Fthrash policy, they don't even want to talk or care about the impacts to the locals. Its about "meritocracy" and "elitism", both these do not talk about 情 or 义.

 

[krafty]

But isn't 讲情讲义 the way to build a more cohesive society? How old are you btw,do you practise this to your friends?

There are no 讲情讲义in Singapore. If you want that don't stay in the country. Singapore government, PAP,MIWs etc has always emphasized $$$, just look at the million dollar pay they are getting. Also look at the Fthrash policy, they don't even want to talk or care about the impacts to the locals. Its about "meritocracy" and "elitism", both these do not talk about 情 or 义.

 

[downgrader]

but it is okay to 打情骂俏 as long as it doesn't amount to sexual harassment

 

[Ash007]

But isn't 讲情讲义 the way to build a more cohesive society? How old are you btw,do you practise this to your friends?

I am not in Singapore anymore. From a young age my father has always emphasized that the Singapore government 不讲情不讲义 as I grow up, start to work, I slowly understand what he meant by it. Its not just in the civil, social, government department. This "philosophy", if you want to call it, is being permeated throughout the social, private structure of the country. I am in a more cohesive, social country now, and has not regretted since. There are many examples about this that other forumners would point out.

 

[shOUTloud]

nothing wrong with 讲情讲义. problem most prob is you are doing with the wrong crowd.

 

[krafty]

can you 拉我一把？I have been wanting to get out of sg but lack the resources?

I am not in Singapore anymore. From a young age my father has always emphasized that the Singapore government 不讲情不讲义 as I grow up, start to work, I slowly understand what he meant by it. Its not just in the civil, social, government department. This "philosophy", if you want to call it, is being permeated throughout the social, private structure of the country. I am in a more cohesive, social country now, and has not regretted since. There are many examples about this that other forumners would point out.

 

[krafty]

most notable one is a friend from secondary, few years back, borrow some money from me and run road to china,never contact me after.
I was just hoping that one day he do well and 拉我上岸。

nothing wrong with 讲情讲义. problem most prob is you are doing with the wrong crowd.

 

[Ash007]

most notable one is a friend from secondary, few years back, borrow some money from me and run road to china,never contact me after.
I was just hoping that one day he do well and 拉我上岸。

You should not expect anything if you are helping someone. That is the wrong way of helping someone. Your "friend" has the foresight to run road to china but not you. It does not matter if he pays back you or not. The important thing is what do you want? There are many information in the emigration folder that tells you of the various countries you can go to.

 

[SneeringTree]

You will feel better once you've stopped smoking.

 

[krafty]

i think you got me wrong,I never expect anything in return when I help someone. I said i was "hoping" something like this will happen. Another case, cousin borrowed money also act blur after so many years.
I also never want to ask back from him even when I was in dire straits sometime ago,but he not auto,so forget it.

You should not expect anything if you are helping someone. That is the wrong way of helping someone. Your "friend" has the foresight to run road to china but not you. It does not matter if he pays back you or not. The important thing is what do you want? There are many information in the emigration folder that tells you of the various countries you can go to.

 

[lolabunny]

You will feel better once you've stopped smoking.

NO SMOKING! It's bad for health!!

Who's the smoker here? Own up!

 

[Queen Seok Duk]

i think you got me wrong,I never expect anything in return when I help someone.

You're deceiving yourself. If you had no expectation that your 情義 will be reciprocated, you wouldn't be making noise here. I believe you didn't expect to be reciprocated in monetary terms, but you expected something. At the very least, you expected 情義 to be reciprocated with 情義. As your act of 情義 brought tangible benefits to your friends, your expectation of reciprocation will also harbour hope of tangible benefits.

What does a person gain by being honest ? I tell you the reward of being honest is honesty itself.

 

[Ash007]

The days of 爱拼才会赢and 世界第一等 are long gone in Singapore. Old school Ah bengs Ah sengs are no longer in Singapore. Its who is an elite and who is not. Who can have million dollar salary and the ones that have to "compete" with the FTs.

 

[Lord Imperious]

so many times, I have been disappointed by doing so. I think the best way to survive is still be a lan jiao lang.agree?

"What profits a man if he gains the world but loses his soul?" So long as you can live with yourself go ahead.

 

[lolabunny]

"What profits a man if he gains the world but loses his soul?" So long as you can live with yourself go ahead.

I believe in the concept. But I've been disappointed many times because it takes two people to believe in it. Nowadays, I still believe in it. But I will observe if the other party also believes in it.

And profit does not have to come as a sacrifice to soul. That's outdated and not creative.

 

[wikiphile]

so many times, I have been disappointed by doing so. I think the best way to survive is still be a lan jiao lang.agree?

Dear Krafty, it took you that long to figured that out?

 

[wikiphile]

NO SMOKING! It's bad for health!!

Who's the smoker here? Own up!

*puffing Marlboro* who me???? Who say one? :o

 

[po2wq]

松鼠也有情有義 ...

a feisty squirrel was cot on camera trying 2 scare off crows fr feasting on his dead companion’s carcass ...

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[lolabunny]

松鼠也有情有義 ...

a feisty squirrel was cot on camera trying 2 scare off crows fr feasting on his dead companion’s carcass ...

Oh I saw this before. It's so sweet and sad! :(

The crows are so bad. If I was there, I would have shooed them away.