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Media (Introduction)

There are few things in life that have as much impact on us as mass media. Media has a tremendous influence on our culture, and we must be aware of the direct influence it can have on us. Let’s begin our study with a few questions:

What are we talking about when we say “media”?

“Media” is any form of communication that can reach or influence large numbers of people (example: movies, music, television, the internet, etc.)

. Is media good or bad?

Media in and of itself is not bad. Remember, media is just different forms of communication. However, the messages sent out by media can have a positive or negative impact. Media can promote God’s truth, or it can cross the line and become a negative thing.

How do we know when the media has “crossed the line”?

Everything we observe should be examined by Scripture. We need to take the messages that come out of the media and see how they match up with God’s truth. If the message is pushing us to think things we should not think, want things we should not want, or accept ideas we should not accept, then we can say that it has crossed the line.

How should we respond to the influence of the media?

We need to recognize when the media crosses the line and be willing to stand for God’s truth (Titus 2:11-12). Dismissing the negative elements of the media as being no big deal opens us up to accepting the messages they are sending out. In the lessons ahead, we will examine the topic of media and consider how each of us should respond to the various forms of media that impact our lives.

 

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Media (Part 1)

As we learned from our introduction, media is basically any form of communication that reaches or influences groups of people. With this in mind, we see that media is a way people can communicate their thoughts and beliefs about the world. A song about love, for example, would reflect what the songwriter believes love to be. People in the media who have a worldly perspective on things will view things differently than those who have a biblical perspective. Fill in the boxes below based on the different views on the following three issues:

Issue : Abortion

: If a mother doesn’t want a baby, she should have the right to abort it

Biblical View : God says all life is precious, that babies are a gift from Him, and all murder is wrong (Ps. 127:3; Ex. 20:13; Ps. 139)

Issue Profanity

Worldly View : Words are just words. If I offend someone, that’s their problem. I can say whatever I want.

Biblical View : Speech is for God’s glory, taking Lord’s name in vain is wrong, must watch our words (Col. 3:17; Ex. 20:7; James 3 )

Issue Marriage

Worldly View : Living with someone is basically the same as marriage. Commitment can be bad. Marriage should be redefined

Biblical View : A beautiful thing, life-long commitment between a man and a woman (Gen. 2:18-24; Malachi 2:16a; Eph. 5:22-33)

 In today’s media, which view is more common? Why? Worldly view. It’s more popular, many in media are non-believers.

 Do you think the various views that the media push are having an impact on people? In what way? Yes. More of their opinions/perspectives are being embraced by the culture.

As followers of Christ, we need to examine our views on issues to be sure we are listening to God’s Word rather than the world. Scripture says that our faith should be “not in the wisdom of men, but in the power of God” (I Cor. 2:5).

 

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Media (Part 2)

As we look at the media today, we see all sorts of messages telling us what we “need” in order to be happy. From songs about being rich and having exotic cars, to ads that make plastic surgery appear to be a necessity, we can easily be tempted to believe that these things are the “keys to happiness.” Explain in the boxes below the different views concerning the perspectives of the three following issues:

Issue: Money

Worldly View : Need a lot of money to buy expensive things. Money = happiness

Biblical View : The love of money is the root of all evil, we should seek treasure in heaven (Matt. 6:19-21; I Tim. 6:10)

Issue : Beauty

Worldly View : Must have perfect skin, hair, nails, teeth, body, in order to be happy. Must have the best beauty products.


Biblical View : Our main focus should not be looking good on the outside, but on the inside (I Sam. 16:7)

Issue : Fashion

Worldly View :

Wearing the newest fashions make you feel good about yourself. Expensive clothes = happiness.

Biblical View : Our effort/time shouldn’t go toward keeping up with newest styles, but on becoming Christ-like (I Peter 3:3-4)

 Do you think the media encourages people to become discontent? Explain. Yes. People never think they have enough & always want more, media often makes ‘getting more’ the solution.

 What danger do you see in someone focusing all of their attention on these worldly desires? It consumes their time and money; it is a false hope; it causes them to forget about God; etc. It may appear in the media that satisfaction and happiness can be found in “stuff,” but our Creator makes it clear that only lasting satisfaction and true happiness can be found in Him. As Psalm 37:4 says, “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.”

 

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Media (Part 3)

In our previous lessons, we have seen how media can impact what we believe and what we desire. In this study, we will look at how media can impact how we portray ourselves. Whether we recognize it or not, media can play a role in our own identity. Various forms of media idolize television stars, musicians, movie actors/actresses (etc.) in a way that may cause us to want to be just like them. We often feel the key to popularity and success is imitating the looks of famous Hollywood stars. Consider the following questions as to how this often plays out:

 Think about some of the most popular celebrities (actors, musicians, etc.). What qualities do these people have that make them popular? They are usually very beautiful/handsome, rich, very talented, funny, “smooth,” stylish, outgoing, (etc.).

 In what ways do you see people trying to be just like these celebrities? Dressing alike (copying their fashion, hairstyles, etc.), talking like them, acting like them, and imitating their lifestyle.

 Do you see any potential dangers in trying to be like these celebrities? Explain. Yes. We waste a lot of time/money trying to be like them. It is a wrong focus – trying to imitate the world.

 According to Eph. 2:10, how should we be identified? It should be clear that we are followers of Christ in how we look/act. The media offers a variety of personalities we can follow. However, trying to be just like these individuals will prove to be hopeless. And in many ways, it will prove to be anything but Christ-like. Scripture does not call us to consume all that the culture offers, but rather to use our gifts and talents to make an impact on the culture for Christ. It was for this reason that Paul was trying to imitate Christ (I Cor. 11:1). If we determine to do the same, people will recognize the difference as they see the power of Christ at work in our lives!

 

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Teen Topics Media (Part 4)

Our first three lessons have shown that media can influence our perspective on things, the desires we have, and how we want to portray ourselves. Because of this, the need for critiquing the media is obvious. In this lesson, let’s take a close look at main stream music and determine how we as believers should respond to its influences.

Music can influence:

Our beliefs : Our personal happiness is the most important thing in life. Love = sex. We don’t need to respect authority. We can solve all of our problems apart from God. Etc

Our desires : Living a carefree lifestyle. Money and earthly treasures (cars, houses, clothes) are emphasized, as is sexual intimacy outside of marriage. Etc.

How we should portray ourselves : Makes girls feel they need to dress provocatively. Makes men feel they need to be a rebel, arrogant, etc.

 With the influence that music can have on us, how important is it that we be wise in our choice of music? Very much so, since the music we listen to can have such a big impact on us.

 What advise can we get from these verses when deciding if certain music is appropriate to listen to: • Ps. 19:14 – Consider if the lyrics are acceptable to God. • Phil. 4:8 – Be sure the music focuses on what is true, pure, etc. • I Cor. 10:31 – Be sure the music is truly glorifying to God.

As we select music to listen to and as we select certain musical artists to follow, we must be sure that those choices please God. What we allow into our minds and hearts will either encourage or discourage our walk with Lord. Let us be sure that the music we listen to keeps our affections on Christ, rather than on the things of the world (Col. 3:2).

 

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Media (Part 5)

In this study, let us take a close look at the television and movie industry and determine how we as believers should response to their influences. Read the following made up sitcom episode recap and then answer the questions below. Bob and Ben are eating at a restaurant. Bob teases Ben for being a virgin, and convinces him to hit on the waitress. The waitress and Ben go on a date, but she is portrayed in a negative light, seen as being a goofy, religious nut. Afterward, Ben tells Bob she is an “old fashioned, Jesus freak,” who refused to even hold his hand.

Bob replied by saying the two virgins would be a “match made in heaven” (the audience laughs). Bob offers to give Ben $100 if he can get Diana to sleep with him. Ben then becomes a “Mr. Charming,” flattering Diana on the next date. The episode ends showing a parked car with foggy windows, and the voice of Ben telling Diana that he thinks he is going to be $100 richer. Diana answers with a confused “what?” (the audience laughs).

 What do you see in this episode that could influence our beliefs, desires, or how we portray ourselves? Immorality is seen as no big deal. Purity is viewed as outdated. Christians are portrayed as “freaks” who need to change and give into pressure if we want to be cool. In the end, Christians are seen as hypocrites.

 What does Matthew 6:22-23 say about the impact of the things we watch? Our eyes are very important members of our body, what we see can impact everything about us.

 When determining what to watch for entertainment, what advice does Ephesians 5:2-17 give? Those who practice sin, like we often see on television, await God’s judgment. Don’t allow yourself to embrace their philosophies, nor join in what they do.

Sadly, much of what is called “entertainment” today does not honor the Lord. For that reason, God wants us to be on guard, recognizing that the messages and viewpoints of what we watch can influence our thinking, and in turn, our actions. God cares about us enough to direct us away from such things. As a result, we need to be bold enough to avoid such things and find our enjoyment in things that please Him.

 

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Media (Conclusion)

It is easy to get caught up in the culture and think that we cannot be influenced by the media. I Corinthians 10:12 says, “Let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall.” Even as believers, we must not think that we are beyond the influences of the media. As we wrap up our study, let us “take heed” and consider a few final thoughts.

Helpful Questions to Ask Living in a culture where media quite often “crosses the line,” let’s consider these questions:

➢ What do our “entertainment” choices look like? Do we find our entertainment by taking in things that glorify worldliness and sin or things that honor God?

➢ What are we supporting by our entertainment choices? Are we spending our money and time on things that encourage sinful activities or godliness?

➢ Where is our focus being directed? Does the music we listen to, movies we watch, webpages we visit, (etc.) set our focus on the world or on Christ?

➢ What does God think about the media we choose to watch and listen to? What would be Jesus’ thoughts regarding the things you welcome into your life? Just because media is impacting our culture does not mean that we have to allow it to impact us. Being “in” the culture, does not mean we have to be “of” the culture (John 15:19).
Making Wise Choices

I Thessalonians 5:21-22 advises us to “test everything; hold fast what is good. Abstain from every form of evil.” If we listen to this verse, rather than being influenced by the media, we can be influencing others for Christ. When it comes to deciding which types of media we welcome into our lives, may we recognize the seriousness of this decision!

 

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Purity (Part 1)

The topic of sex seems to get people’s attention more than any other subject. When we think about sex, thoughts of love, beauty, intimacy and romance fill our minds. In this study, we will tackle this topic to see what God Himself says concerning what sex and sexual purity should mean to us!

The Origin of Sex

To understand sex, we must first know where it came from. Read Genesis 1:27-28 & 2:24-25. From the creation story, we see that God is the Creator of sex. Sex was God’s idea! Therefore, we can view sex as a gift from God. Adam and Eve were united, and their sexual activity was part of God’s creation! As we look at Scripture, we see a number of reasons God has given sex to be enjoyed between a husband and wife:

> Gen. 1:28 – To multiply and have children.

> Gen. 2:24-25 – To enjoy unity and intimacy.

> Prov. 5:18-19 – For physical pleasure.

> Song of Sol. 1:2; 3:1a – For companionship.

The Beauty of Sex Sex

is not a dirty word. Hormones are not bad. A sex drive is not our enemy! God has given us these in order for us to experience a unique and fulfilling relationship with our spouse one day! Sex is a beautiful thing that makes marriage special (Eph. 5:31). The intimacy of marriage is something to look forward to and treasure! Hebrews 13:4 says, “Let marriage be held in honor among all.” The key to sexual purity is to uphold God’s view and purpose for sex. When God’s plan for sex is distorted, sex then becomes a thing of guilt, shame, addiction and pain. We will look at this in more detail in our next lesson.

 

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Purity (Part 2)

Our previous lesson looked at God’s beautiful design and purpose for sex. However, in our culture today, the sexuality we see is far from what God intended. Premarital sex, pornography, sexting, prostitution and adultery (etc.) each express a terrible distortion of what God intends sex to be.

Mankind’s Distortion of Sex

Romans 1:18-32 explains mankind’s decline in the area of sexuality. Read this text and answer the following questions:

> Where does sexual sin begin? In the lust of our hearts (v. 21).

> What did mankind do with God’s plan for sex? Suppressed the truth, distorted it, exchanged it for a lie (vv. 18, 25).

> Who is the object of worship in sexual sin? Ourselves (v. 25). Sexual sin is nothing less than mankind doing what he wants to do regardless of what God says. Sadly, the effects of sexual sin are tragic: teenage pregnancies, abortions, fatherless homes, sexually transmitted diseases, sexual addiction, rape, etc. Even after marriage, the consequences can carry over, leading to regret, jealousy, lack of trust, and trouble having meaningful intimacy with your spouse.

A Greater Calling

We have all heard stories of tragic effects resulting from sexual sin. Some of us have even experienced this within our own families. The truth is that God does not desire any one of us to go through such pain. For this reason, God has called us to purity, as it is the solution to such problems (Eph. 4:17-21). It is easy to embrace the mindset that such tragedies only affect others and not us. We must guard against such lies (Num. 32:23; Gal.6:7), just as much as we guard against the sexual sin itself. The key to sexual purity is to take our calling to purity seriously. We’ll look at this further in our next lesson

 

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Purity (Part 3)

In order to be sexually pure, it takes an intentional effort on our part. In our study today, let’s consider some practical ideas for remaining pure in a world of temptation.

God’s Guidelines for Sex

Sexual purity begins with a desire to honor God by viewing sex as He views it and by following His guidelines for it. Scripture emphasizes the importance of standing out in the world by handling our bodies in a way that honors the Lord, especially in regard to sex (read I Thess. 4:3-8!). Successfully following God’s guidelines for sex takes more than just a desire to be pure; it takes a genuine commitment to purity!

A Plan for Success

A commitment to purity does not eliminate temptation. So, to be successful in your pursuit of purity, consider these tips:

> Be honest with God about your struggles. Talk it over with God; He knows what you are going through. A devotional time is essential for meaningful moments with God and for keeping your focus on Him. (Col. 2:6-15)

> Set personal standards. Guard what you think about and what you look at. Use wisdom in who you date and how you present yourself. Restrict internet use and who you talk to online. (Job 31:1; Rom. 12:1-2)

> Avoid temptation at all costs. Be honest with yourself and acknowledge your own weaknesses. Do what is necessary to eliminate temptation as much as possible. (Eph. 4:22)

> Confide in a friend. Get help and support from an accountability partner. Look for partner of the same gender who is spiritually mature. (James 5:16; Eccl. 4:9-10)

> Determine to be pure. Purity is a choice. Make the choice to be a leader in this area, not a follower. (Gal. 5:16)

 

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Purity (Part 4)

As we conclude our study on sexual purity, let’s consider what we must do in light of what we have discussed so far. Sexual purity is a lifestyle, and because of that, we must take an honest look at what it means to each of us as individuals.

A New Beginning

Temptation is real, as are the consequences for sexual sin. When you look at your life, you may see failures in the area of purity. You may have even experienced consequences for sinful behavior. The good news is that when we recognize and confess these failures as sin before God, He offers forgiveness and cleansing (I John 1:9). In order to move forward in purity, we must first put off things of the past (Col. 3:5-10). Examine your life. Is there business you need to do with God?

A Commitment to Purity

Christ is looking for followers who are sold out for Him! We cannot let sexual sin be a hindrance that gets in the way of what God desires to do in and through us! Consider what these verses say about living a life committed to purity:

> Heb. 12:1-2 – We must remove sin by focusing on Christ.

> James 4:7 – Submit to God and resist Satan = Satan flees.

> I Cor. 10:13 – God promises strength and a way of escape. Notice from these verses that a commitment to purity is a decision just as much as it is a call to action! The joy and blessings of purity come when we make changes in our lives that show a recognition that we are the Lord’s and that we are serious about living for Him (I Cor. 6:13, 18-21). As we wrap up our study on sexual purity, may we be driven to have lives described by II Timothy 2:22, “So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart! ''

 

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Security (Part 1)

The Issue: In our ever-changing world, it is easy to become filled with uncertainty and worry. Many people crave security, along with the peace and stability that comes with it. Sometimes people may feel like they need to “take control” to ensure that everything in life is good. Often times when they do this, however, they try to find security in the wrong places.

What does the Bible say?

Read these verses and note the insecure places people often try to find their security. Then give an example of each:

 Jeremiah 17:5 – In other people (friends, boy/girlfriend, etc.).  Job 31:24-28; I Tim. 6:17 – In wealth (money, status).

 Isaiah 31:1 – In material things (a car, house, etc.).

 Matt. 14:29-32 – In their surroundings (their home). Look at your answers above. Why is it that the things listed fail to provide the security people seek? People will let us down, money doesn’t have all the answers, things don’t satisfy, and our surroundings are not always what we think they should be.

What should I do?

It is very tempting to try and find our security in the things around us. However, the truth is that those things do not hold the answers we are looking for and will eventually disappoint us. God does not want us to lose sleep over the uncertainties of life, nor overwork ourselves trying to make our lives secure. Where have you placed your security? Are there things you feel like you need to have in order for “life to be good” (such as popularity, certain clothes, achievements or special talents)? God wants us to find our security in Him, for only in Him can we find the security that we seek (Ps. 16:8). We will look at this in more detail in our next lesson.

 

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Security (Part 2)

The Issue: In our last lesson, we looked at how many people turn to all sorts of insecure places to find security. The daily temptation to rely on things like popularity, possessions or achievements often leave us disappointed when we see how quickly these things can be lost. Our security must be found in a better place. Let’s see how Scriptures points to Christ as being where true security can be found.

What does the Bible say?

Notice how these verses describe the security offered by Christ:

 Ps. 55:22 – He takes our burdens and gives us strength.

 Ps. 112:6-7; Heb. 13:6 – He takes away our fears.

 Ps. 31:4-8 – He delivers us when in trouble/is trustworthy.

 Ps. 40:3 – He offers us true joy.

 Matt. 7:24-25 – He gives a solid foundation to live on.

What should I do?

Are you secure or insecure? When we are insecure, it will be evident by how we may feel hopeless if we do not have certain things in our lives. When we are secure, we show a confidence, contentment, and trust in Christ that is unshaken by the constantly changing world around us. A solid relationship with Christ (grounded on the forgiveness of sins provided by grace through faith in His death, burial and resurrection) is the answer to the endless searching for security.  In what areas of life do you find Christ’s security most reassuring? _____________________________________________ ___________________________________________________

 

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Understanding Our Parents (Part 1)

In order to understand our parents, we must first consider the world from their perspective. When you were born, your parents received a great bundle of joy (you!), as well as a great bundle of responsibility!

Bible Verses Relating to Parents

Considering that we are all accountable to God concerning how we obey His Word, let’s consider what our parents are answerable for. Here are a few of the many verses dealing with the role of a parent. Note the responsibilities they have:

> Prov. 22:6 – Train your child to live as God intends.

> Deut. 6:6-7 – Teach your child about the things of God.

> Prov. 13:24 – Parents must discipline out of love.

> Eph. 6:4 – Don’t stir your child to anger, yet instruct them.

Considering Life from a Parent’s Perspective

Looking at the above verses from your parents’ perspective reveals the real significance of what is being said:

> Your parents will one day stand before the God of the Universe and give account for how well they raised you (no matter how difficult you make things on them).

> Your parents must figure out how to effectively instruct, discipline, and raise you (all while keeping up with your other siblings, a house, job, other obligations, etc.). We are tempted to think life revolves around us, and so when our parents make rules that keep us from getting “our way” we get frustrated. We must remember that our parents sacrifice a lot of things they once cherished (extra time for friends, spouse, hobbies, etc.) in order to fulfill their role as a parent. When you think your parents are a hassle, remember the sacrifices and responsibilities that go into parenting. It shouldn’t take long before you appreciate all they do for you!

 

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Understanding Our Parents (Part 2)

Our previous lesson discussed responsibilities parents have within the home. This week, let’s discuss the responsibilities teens have. Just as parents have obligations, so do teens!

Bible Verses Relating to Teens

We know God will hold other people accountable for their actions, but we can’t forget that He will hold us accountable for our actions as well. Note the commands God give us:

> Eph. 6:1-3 – Obey and honor your parents.

> Col. 3:20 – Obey your parents in all things.

> Prov. 6:20-23 – Listen to your parents’ instruction/teaching.

> Also read Prov. 13:10; 15:1; Eph. 4:29-32; Col. 3:12-14.

Taking Your Role Seriously

Showing honor and obedience is not always easy. See what insights you can gather from these discussion questions:

> Are honoring and obeying your parents the same thing? Why are both important?

> For what reasons do you think God commands teenagers to honor and obey their parents?

> Why is it sometimes difficult to obey parents? Do any of these answers give you the right not to obey? Whether you think your mom and dad are the greatest parents or the worst human beings on the face of the earth, there are reasons God commands you to show them honor and obedience. Unless you are being forced to do something sinful, God calls you to obey! It is easy to point fingers when the relationship we have with our parents isn’t what we want it to be, but maturity drives us to examine ourselves first. Thinking about your relationship with your parents, how well do you show honor and obedience in your actions, words and attitude? In what specific ways can you do better?

 

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Understanding Our Parents (Part 3)

In our previous lesson, we discussed the importance of showing honor and obedience at home. At this point, some of you may be thinking, “I can work on these things, but the fact remains that my parents still drive me crazy!” With that in mind, let’s consider a few biblical principles that will help.

Bible Verses on Strengthening Relationships

Frustrations can result from being around anyone too long! But they do not have to ruin our relationships. Consider what these verses say regarding frustrations we may have:

> Matt. 7:1-5 – Don’t be overly critical, we all have faults.

> Heb. 12:15 – Don’t let bitterness build up/add more trouble.

> II Cor. 13:11 – Aim for restoration and live in peace.

> Rom. 12:18; 14:19 – Be intentional about making peace.

Doing Your Part to Maintain Harmony

If you have frustrations toward your parents that are clearly hurting the relationship, take an honest look at the following:

> Your parents are not perfect, nor will they ever be! You must embrace them for who they are, quirks and all! Instead of being overly critical about their clothes, style, jokes (etc.) that you may think are goofy, focus on their positive traits.

> Try having a good conversation with your parents! Express any concerns or issues you have with your parents and/or their parenting style. Open and honest conversations can do wonders for a relationship.

> Don’t add to the problem. If you think your parents nag you about your messy room, clothing choices, grades, (etc.), realize there may be truth to what they say and listen! When frustration gets blown out of proportion, the conflict that results is never good! Your parents want peace in the home just as much as you do! Do your part in making peace!

 

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Understanding Our Parents (Part 4)

Our previous lesson discussed how a correct perspective of our parents can help strengthen the relationship we have with them. Today, let’s consider how being actively involved in our parents’ lives will help strengthen the relationship as well. It is important to understand that our parents not only want us to be involved, but they need us to be involved!

Bible Verses on Showing Support

Consider the principles found is these verses that can apply to how we should be involved in the life of our parents:

> Gal. 6:2 – Help carry their burdens/be supportive.

> Eph. 6:18 – Take time and pray for our parents.

> James 1:19 – Be quick to listen to our parents.

> I Cor. 13:11 – Show maturity/begin acting like an adult.

Becoming a Part of Your Family

The relationship with our parents is often hindered because we aren’t intentionally developing it. Consider these points:

> Realize your parents need you. They have a lot on their plates, but you can lift the burden. Is your attitude and level of cooperation making things easier or harder on them? Be supportive, and they will greatly appreciate it!

> Spend time with your parents. If life is too busy to spend time with your parents, adjust your schedule (Eph. 5:15-16)! Eating meals together, running errands, playing sports or games (etc.) are great ways to get closer to your parents.

> Be involved around the house. Vacuum, do laundry, put away dishes (etc.). Surprise your parents by doing a chore they hate. Your parents will appreciate your sense of responsibility, and may just offer you more freedom as a result. In a typical day, how much time do you set aside for your parents? Do you need to put forth more effort to be involved?

 

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Understanding Our Parents (Part 5)

One of the things our study has revealed to us is that though our parents may not be perfect, they do make many sacrifices for us. For this reason, let’s consider the fact that we should be grateful for our parents, and willing to show it!

Bible Verses on Being an Encouragement

Note what we can learn from the following verses about how or why we should show gratitude to our parents:

> Prov. 31:28 – Recognize your mother for her good qualities.

> Eph. 4:29 – Speak encouraging words to your parents.

> I Thess. 5:11 – Try to encourage and build up your parents.

> I Thess. 5:18 – Be grateful for the parents God has given you.

Learning to Show Appreciation

Displays of appreciation are a tremendous encouragement to parents. With that in mind, take these points seriously:

> Even if there are moments of frustration in your home or things you wish your parents would change about themselves, be willing to recognize that there are countless things they do for you that deserve your gratitude.

> Consider all the reasons you should be grateful. If your parents love you, care for you and provide for you, you should be grateful. Can you list ten reasons that you can be grateful for your parents? (You may find it is easier than you think.)

> Show your appreciation. Consider how your parents like to be shown appreciation. Tell them you love them, give them a hug, write them an encouraging note, or do whatever special things you know would make their day! If you do not show your parents appreciation because you assume they already know you appreciate them, you are simply making excuses to be lazy in this area. Step up your game and show your parents the appreciation they deserve!

 

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Understanding Our Parents (Conclusion)

Our study has focused on the responsibilities parents and teens have toward each other, as well as ways the relationship we have with our parents can be strengthened. The purpose of this study was to help us understand our parents better so that we can better relate to them and appreciate what they do. Here are a few final thoughts as we conclude.

Understanding Our Heavenly Father’s Love

We cannot have a study on parents without mentioning God’s own self-description as a “Father.” The parent-child relationship is intended to be very meaningful and impactful, and it is on this level that God Himself desires to connect with us. There are several truths in Scripture on this topic that can be cherished, especially by those who may have experienced any type of mistreatment or abuse from a parent. We have a Heavenly Father who promises to comfort us (Is. 66:13), to bring emotional healing (Ps. 147:3), to care for us (I Pet. 5:7), and to never leave or forsake us (Deut. 31:8). Each of these qualities of our Heavenly Father gives us an example of how we can love our own children one day.

Where to Go from Here

Do your part in making the relationship the best it can be:

> Admit your own failures. When you are responsible for family issues, admit to it and be willing to apologize.

> Take steps to change. Consider what needs to be done to improve the relationship with your parents, and do it!

> Work toward harmony. Do not make the mistake of waiting to fix relationship issues later in life. Do it now! Being able to understand our parents may not always be an easy thing to do. But if we commit to living our lives in the home as God has directed us, we can be assured that our actions will honor Him and that His blessing will be upon us

 

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The Five Steps

Dear Friend,

Have you ever wondered what Heaven is like? Heaven is more beautiful than anything we could ever imagine. The city of God is made of pure gold and all kinds of precious stones. Twelve gates lead into the city, and the Bible says each gate is "of one pearl."

In Heaven, there is no need of the sun or the moon, because the glory of God lights this land. From the throne of God and of the Lord Jesus there flows the river of water of life, clear as crystal.

In Heaven there will be no sickness, no pain, no sin, and no death. There will be no sorrow, for God Himself will wipe away all tears from our eyes. Our loved ones who are there will know us and we will know them. Best of all, we shall see our Savior, the Lord Jesus, who made it possible for us to be in Heaven.

In Heaven, everyone loves and worships the Lord Jesus. You can walk the streets of Heaven for a million years and you will never hear anything but words of praise for Jesus.

Heaven is where Jesus is. Jesus called Heaven "My Father's house." Those who love the Lord Jesus will be with Him forever in this wonderful place called "the Father's house." For those who refuse Jesus and will have nothing to do with Him, there can be no Heaven.

Jesus Himself is the way to Heaven, the only way. When He talked to His disciples about Heaven, Thomas asked, "How can we know the way?" Jesus said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man comes unto the Father, but by Me" (John 14:6).

Now let us consider some very important questions:

• Where did we come from?
• Why are we here?
• Where are we going?

Life is full of questions, but these are the most important questions of all, and the Bible gives us the answers to them.

We came from God. The universe is not an "accident," and neither is man. God created the universe, and He created man. The Bible says,

"The Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul [person]" (Genesis 2:7).

Man is a created being. He did not come up from lower forms of life. Man was created as "a living person." Man is the highest of all God's creatures because he was created in the image of God. The Bible says, "So God created man in His own image, in the image of God created He him; male and female created He them" (Genesis 1:27).

In the beginning everything was good and beautiful because God made it that way. God was pleased with His work. The Bible says, "God saw every thing that He had made, and, behold, it was very good" (Genesis 1:31).

Today everything is not good and beautiful. There is hatred, fighting, stealing, lying, murders, wars, sickness, sin, and death in the world.

What went wrong? Man turned away from God! Man chose to go his own way instead of going God's way.

Even though man has turned away from God, God still loves man and wants to bless him. Man is God's special creation, made in the image of God. God has lost man, but He cannot bear to lose him forever.

God made us to have fellowship with Him so that He could enjoy us and we could enjoy Him. But sin has separated us from God. God has given us the Bible so we can find our way back to Him.

We are headed for eternity. You and I are going to live forever in one of two places—Heaven or hell. Where we live in eternity depends on the choice we make in this life. God wants us to choose to return to Him. God wants us to choose Heaven!


The Two Roads

Jesus told us that there are two roads in life. One road is a broad road leading down. Many people are on this road. The other road is a narrow road leading up. Few people are on this road.

Jesus told us where these two roads lead. The narrow road leads to Heaven. The broad road leads to separation from God, in hell, forever. How terrible!

To get on the narrow road to Heaven we must repent and take the Lord Jesus as our Savior. The Bible says, "God now commands all men everywhere to repent" (Acts 17:30).

What does it mean to repent? To repent means to "turn around." The reason we need to "turn around" is that we have been going the wrong way. We have been going our own way instead of God's way. The Bible says, "…we have turned every one to his own way."

When I can honestly say, "I see that I have been going the wrong way, but with God's help, I am turning to God," I have repented. This can take place in a moment's time, and it brings joy to God's heart.

If you are not saved, dear friend, you are lost from God. But God loves you, and He cannot bear to lose you forever. You are very valuable to God. You can know how valuable you are to Him by what He was willing to do to get you back. God showed His great love for you by giving His Son to die on the cross for you. But He will not make you come back to Him. You must choose to come.

Perhaps, right now, God is speaking to your heart. If you see that you have been on the wrong road, turn around! Say to Him, "Lord, I do not want to go the way of sin any longer. I want to go Your way, on the road to Heaven."

The Five Steps to Heaven
There are five steps that lead to the narrow road to Heaven. There are words on each step. Let us see what they say.

Start at the bottom and read up. Pause a moment and read the steps again. Say them quietly to yourself. Now let us talk about them. We will have a Bible verse for each step.

"For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God" (Romans 3:23).

The first step in becoming a child of God is to learn what I am in God's sight and to accept what He says about me.

God says that we are all sinners. We have all said wrong things and done wrong things.

Sin is a terrible thing. It hurts us and it hurts others. But the worst thing about sin is this—sin hurts God's heart. Do you know why sin hurts His heart? Because God is holy; and because He loves us so much.

We cannot undo a single wrong thing that we have ever said or done. We might wish that we could go back and change what we have done, but that is not possible. But we can be forgiven.

The Lord Jesus can forgive you of all your sins, and He wants to forgive you. He is "the Friend of sinners." He will never turn away anyone who comes to Him. He said, "…him that comes to Me, I will in no wise cast out" (John 6:37).

"For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life" (John 3:16).

Whom does God mean when He says "the world"? He means all the people in the world. That includes you and me!

Whom does God mean when He says "whoever"? He means anyone. You can put your name in this verse. Why not do it right now?

For God so loved ____________ that He gave His only begotten Son that ____________ believing in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.

Now read it out loud with your name in the blank spaces. There, that is good news, isn't it?

"God commends [shows] His love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5:8).

This is good news: God loves sinners! God is saying to us, "I really love you! I have shown My love for you in giving My Son to die for you."

God cannot overlook our sins or pretend that He does not know about them. What did God do about our sins? He paid the penalty of our sins Himself in the Person of His Son.

The Lord Jesus Christ died for sinners. He died for you and He died for me. You can say, "Christ died for me!" Say it right now—"Christ died for me!" Not only did Christ die for our sins, but He also rose from the dead. He is a living Savior! He has all power in Heaven and on earth. He can forgive your sins and make you a child of God.

Our next verse tells us how to become a child of God. The Bible says,

"As many as received Him [the Lord Jesus Christ], to them gave He power to become the sons of God… " (John 1:12).

To become a child of God, I must come as a sinner to the Lord Jesus and receive Him as my Savior.

God has given Jesus to me to be my Savior, but I must receive Him; that is, I must take Him as my own Savior.

I must make it personal. It is not simply, "We are all sinners," but "I am a sinner." It is not just, "Jesus died for sinners," but "Jesus died for my sins." It is not simply, "Jesus is the Savior," but "I take Jesus Christ as my Savior." When I take the Lord Jesus as my Savior, I become a child of God.

You take Him as your Savior by asking Him to come into your heart. Your heart is like a house with a door. Jesus said,

"Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: If any man [anyone] hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in…" (Revelation 3:20).

"He that believes on the Son has everlasting life…" (John 3:36).

This verse tells us that if we believe on the Lord Jesus, we have everlasting life. Say the verse to yourself right now— "He that believes on the Son has everlasting life."

There, you understand that, don't you? We have been talking for a long time. Are you ready to make your choice?

You want to choose the road that leads to Heaven, don't you? You can take Jesus as your Savior right now. You will always be glad that you did.

(Since this is just between you and the Lord, it will be best if you can find a quiet place where you can be alone for a few minutes. So, right now, before you read the next part, find a quiet place where you can be alone with the Lord Jesus.)

Now you are ready to talk to the Lord Jesus. Here is a prayer that will help you talk to Him:

"Lord Jesus, I know that I am a sinner. I know that I have been going the wrong way. I believe that You are the Son of God and that You died on the cross for my sins. Thank You for loving me so much. Please come into my heart and forgive me of all my sins. Right now, I take You as my Savior."
I can know that I am saved
We are saved by what God has done for us in the Person of His Son. When I believe that Jesus died for my sins and I take Him as my Savior, I am saved. God forgives me of all my sins and makes me His child. I have everlasting life.

How do I know that I have everlasting life? I know because God says so in His Word, and He cannot lie. The Bible says,

"These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that you may know that you have eternal life…" (1 John 5:13).

Whose word is this? It is God's Word, so we know that it is true.

God said it!

I believe it!

That settles it!

Being a child of God is the most wonderful thing in all the world, but let me tell you a secret: The Christian life will not be easy here on earth. Jesus said,

"In the world you shall have tribulation [trouble]: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world" (John 16:33).

We will have many troubles and trials as we travel to our home in Heaven. But if the Lord Jesus is living in our heart, we do not have to be afraid. He has promised, "I will never leave you, nor forsake you" (Hebrews 13:5).

If you have taken the Lord Jesus as your Savior, please tell us about it. At the bottom of your Question Page, you will find a place where you can tell us of your decision.

If you are not sure that you are saved, read this lesson over again and ask the Lord Jesus to make it clear to you. Remember, being saved is the most important thing in all the world. Jesus said, "For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul" (Mark 8:36).