You want a Chinese wife you must learn to understand the Chinese psychic.
CNY is the best opportunity for these people to unleash their agenda. When you are not satisfied with your life, your only satisfaction comes from comparison and being better than your peers.
So it's important to use every opportunity to REMIND your peers that you are better off. This reminder has to be camouflaged as CONCERN.
So if I were married to a fugly woman, I would draw consolation from a guy of or past marriageable age, and pop the question : "How old are you now? Why aren't you married?"
The insinuation is you are old, you have lost the opportunity to get married, you are a loser, I'm a winner.