Do you expect your wife to be a Virgin?

[denzuko1]

.... Coz in future if you want your wife to b a virgin, then you either die as a bachelor or invest on a primary sch kid.. haha..

Well, you can ask the future wife to stitch it back and it is as good as new in no time, got blood some more.

As for those who are REAL VIRGIN, I doubt that their Himen is still intact due to the sports activities that they participate in school. I think most of them are already NOT Virgin even without experience of penetration before.

 

[Klash]

Actually virginity got nuthin to do with hymen. Virgin=never had sex.

 

[denzuko1]

Actually virginity got nuthin to do with hymen. Virgin=never had sex.

You are right about the definition of a Virgin, the indicator on the other hand is the Hymen. So stitching it back will tell people that you are a virgin, it is an indicator. As for the person concern, technically speaking she is an EXPERIENCE VIRGIN.

Question: If a person only experienced Oral and not Genital sex, will he or she considered as Virgin in your definition?

 

[Klash]

If she/he has taken it in the mouth and ass only, is he/she a virgin? Who knows. I think not, but some might say yes. To each his own.

But what I am sure of is if a young gal breaks her hymen thru sports, she is still a virgin.

 

[denzuko1]

If she/he has taken it in the mouth and ass only, is he/she a virgin? Who knows. I think not, but some might say yes. To each his own.

But what I am sure of is if a young gal breaks her hymen thru sports, she is still a virgin.

What I see here is that most men will consider a virgin is one with hymen intact. Therefore most will satisfy when they see blood = virgin.

Anyway, with Hymen being very fragile nowadays, it will be difficult to tell if the girl is virgin or not, you really have to take her word for it. As for the women, they are taking our word for it for generations.

For me, I have made known to my wife my virginity status since day one and indicated to her that she is getting a used one so I don't expect that she must be brand new.

 

[Big Sexy]

YES, cos i never like anything that is 2nd hand.

Do you expect your wife to be a Virgin while you are not?

 

[KHS05]

You need to find out first why she is no more a virgin, if it is because of reasons beyond her etc etc, then it is acceptable. But if is for the reason that is very horny and sleeps here and there, then sorry NOT ACCEPTABLE

 

[cantor]

Here is my personal view about this issue:

(1) I think there is nothing wrong for men to lose his virginity unlike women. Many women tell me that unlike men, they don't need sex. They even argue that the fact that men have to pay for sex is a proof of this. If that is the case, why would women still need to lose their virginities so as to enjoy sex? After all, they don't need sex as much as men do.

(2) During our grandparents and parents' times, it is less common for women to engage in premarital sex. But the media propagated the notion of premarital sex somewhere along the timeline and many impressionable girls thought that is was thus acceptable to be having premarital sex with the guys they love. It eventually became what appeared to be "the norm". People now even think that in this 21st century, if you are not engaged in premarital sex, there is something weird about the girl. In Japan, the girls believed that they themselves are not attractive if they do not have premarital sex.

(3) "Because everyone is doing it so it is acceptable" idea is still not a good argument for having sex, in my opinion.

"I love the guy so it is acceptable to give him my virginity to him even though we are not married" is not acceptable a reason to me.

Women will always remember the guy whom they lost their virginities to, not the third man who shagged her.

Many women whom I talked to still remember the romance with the man whom they gave their virginities to.

 

[denzuko1]

Here is my personal view about this issue:

(1) I think there is nothing wrong for men to lose his virginity unlike women. Many women tell me that unlike men, they don't need sex. They even argue that the fact that men have to pay for sex is a proof of this. If that is the case, why would women still need to lose their virginities so as to enjoy sex? After all, they don't need sex as much as men do.

(2) During our grandparents and parents' times, it is less common for women to engage in premarital sex. But the media propagated the notion of premarital sex somewhere along the timeline and many impressionable girls thought that is was thus acceptable to be having premarital sex with the guys they love. It eventually became what appeared to be "the norm". People now even think that in this 21st century, if you are not engaged in premarital sex, there is something weird about the girl. In Japan, the girls believed that they themselves are not attractive if they do not have premarital sex.

(3) "Because everyone is doing it so it is acceptable" idea is still not a good argument for having sex, in my opinion.

"I love the guy so it is acceptable to give him my virginity to him even though we are not married" is not acceptable a reason to me.

Women will always remember the guy whom they lost their virginities to, not the third man who shagged her.

Many women whom I talked to still remember the romance with the man whom they gave their virginities to.

Firstly when women said that they don't need sex, it is only a self consolation because no one is interested in having sex with them. Either that or they have never got an orgasm before. My ex for instance loved sex so much that she was the initiator most of the time. You may have been bought by the Singapore Serials that the females are the passive and unwilling partner. The fact is that if the man trigger enough, the woman will go for anything because she enjoyed it.

Secondly, less common in the past does not mean the cases were lesser. They simply put in more effort and doing a better job to hide what they were doing. Imagine that the movies in the 70s depict a pregnancy after spending a night together doing nothing, its like babies are result of pollenation by wind. If anything that could result in less cases in the past, pregnancy would be the only deterant, not moral values.

Thirdly, the "everyone is doing it" excuse is just to hide what they wanted deep within. They simply do not want to be accountable for their action. Like Ted Bundy said," porn made me kill all those women." Is porn really responsible for it, many read porn and yet they never kill.

Women are not the only one who remember their first love, I still remember mine including most of the passionate sessions (nope, not sharing them here), I mean even if you have so many (like 125 cases), you will still remember the first.

 

[Harry Lee]

I was Virgin when I married my wife

So I expect my wife to be also

I am not cheap thrash who go around sleeping with loose women....

Thrash culture is not for me.

 

[bonk_syt]

I like this posting.... a tough one for me...

Allow and pardon me for what is to be posted...

Do we only consider VIRGIN by birth as the only topic of our forum or are we opening up the spectrum... diversity... pluralism... to talk about today's context... today's technology... the cosmetic agenda...

COSMETIC VRIGIN will this be considered as virgin?

I was having this believe as.... if I am not informed and I am not aware... I will also fall into the believe of cosmetic virgin as real...

No flame please... just my one cent worth.

 

[sta1100]

Your wife is a virgin or not is not important, what more important is she slould have a good heart and love her as what she is

 

[ahbengsong]

The analogy is if a man wants his wife to be chaste.. is he chaste himself in the first place... likewise a man should not patronise geylang if he does not want his wife to patronise gigolo joints....

beng

 

[Tailok]

Old Chinese saying:

"Its better to take a prostitute as your wife than to have your wife protituting"

If the girl is good, whether she is a former prostitute is not a problem. If she's bad, no use even if she is a virgin. So wat. Marry oredi then go n have affair?? Lagi jialat.

If you read Sunday times a few months back. Prostitutes in Afganistan let customers have anal sex so that they can preserve their virginity!!!!

 

[Frankiestine]

whats with this obsession with the holy grail of sex? what price virginity? of course the rich one have been known to offer thousand just to have the first go but frankly of what benefits is it other then having bragging rights. does it really extend ones "yang" chi and make one particularly virile in bed?

 

[Frankiestine]

Prostitutes in Afganistan let customers have anal sex so that they can preserve their virginity!!!!

oooh the Ass word, monster years are tingling again....oops i forgot this is not the sex forum...hehehe just need to sneak this in...

THE ASS IS THE BEST IF YOU TRIED THE ASS YOU WON'T WANT TO TRY THE REST!!!!

 

[jbsmith]

If you love her so much, I guess virgin or not is not a big issue.

 

[Frankiestine]

If you love her so much, I guess virgin or not is not a big issue.

i dun think it is a matter of how much you love her but rather just have to be realistic...gals just like guys are getting promiscuous and the strike rate of meeting and finally marrying a virgin (if she can even keep it till the wedding day) is getting small...lets face it how many of us during courtship already started having sex with our partner but didn't end up marrying them....well my first oc was one but my second oc wasn't...

 

[yinyang]

In this time and day, aren't virgins endangered species:o?

 

[snrcitizen]

oooh the Ass word, monster years are tingling again....oops i forgot this is not the sex forum...hehehe just need to sneak this in...

THE ASS IS THE BEST IF YOU TRIED THE ASS YOU WON'T WANT TO TRY THE REST!!!!

Sounds like Sam's motto in his previous delhi forum.

Get an ass......you'll always look for the back.