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You are half correct. Correct on the part regarding creepy counsellor who come and tell you that he is here to help you but wrong for the part on the reaction to the slap. It takes a matured person not to respond to physical violence with aggressive reaction.
Most trained counselors behaves like Vincent. They were taught that way. I know this good Samaritan who help wayward kids in their study. They go to his house for tuition. He doesn't preach nor reason. He speaks the way the kids do, give them work to do. Don't go home until work is completed properly. If kids become restless, give money to go buy coffee. Accompanied kids to school to meet principals when they got into trouble. No lecture on why it is wrong, just do it as requested. Very weird way but it works. Hie explained that this kids are not stupid. They know what is wrong . The more you reason, the more they will go against you He has changed many ah bengs.
You are right !! That menthod work best for people like Amos . Amos is very intelligent , if you want to send your message across you have to speak his language and use logic to convinced him . You can't just push him around he won't buy it . These kids can tell the different between conditional love and non-conditional love . Because many people in their life have expected a lot from them so they don't need another control freak that pissed them off instead of helping them . It's not easy being a counsellor , you need a big and very patient heart . That's why many counsellor quit their job after a few years
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