Bullied and ignored in sec school, I was even once nearly committed to IMH

[TerrexLee]

After reading about the murder of a 13-year-old boy at at RVHS, I felt powerless and depressed. My friends were worried — I always get affected by incidents like these. Especially so, when:


- My friends' friend committed suicide 2 weeks ago.

- Multiple teachers telling me that their students committed suicide during a recent dialogue.

- Ashlee's case.

- A suicidal girl who penned a letter to PM Lee.

- Last but not least... My case that went under the radar: bullied, misdiagnosed and denied an education.

The one thing that ties all of these cases together is the fact that mental health is a very real problem that is sadly going unnoticed in the larger MOE system.
Too many cases. Too little action. After much consideration, I decided to reveal my story here to show the harsh reality of cases that fall through the cracks of the system, i.e. outliers. This is going to be a long post, so bear with me.

My story

I attempted suicide back in 2011. Why? Because I was bullied by my classmates for the way I looked and talked. Yes, you heard it right; you can get bullied for being too ugly. Some also undertook a cyberbullying campaign attacking me, which my school simply dismissed as "you're being too sensitive" and "how can you be so sure they are talking about you".

I slowly developed depression which I eventually came to know as social anxiety. I also had a severe phobia of school that led me to skip classes most of the time. If I were to somehow attend school, I would actively avoid eating at the canteen because I was afraid of being bullied by my peers. I will spare you guys the details, and instead highlight some of the treatments I received - things that no school should ever do unto their students.

- Once, out of desperation, I wrote an essay about suicide for my English exam in 2012. Rather than receiving help, I was mocked by both teachers and students alike in public. Parts of my essay (regarding my suicide attempt) were read aloud in class and folks had a real good laugh about it.

- My school maintained the stance that mental health conditions do not exist and that it was all in the mind, and I was merely making life difficult for various teachers.

- I suffered a panic attack that made me hurt myself publicly. My teacher summarily dismissed the affair, insisting that I was just an attention-seeker.

I eventually came to view my school as a prison. The people there did many, many things that severely impacted my mental state of mind. There was no way out, especially with my traditional family upbringing believing that "the school is always right". Fast forward to 2014, my teachers used physical force to "coax" me into a room for some small chat. (Yes. They actually used those words.) Seeing that they refused to let me approach the school counselor, I called the police out of self-defense and begged for them to intervene. The school counselor subsequently blamed me for making matters worse, despite having not helped me a wee bit throughout my journey. On the other hand, the principal, who had always maintained that I was just a rebellious student and had no mental health condition, informed the police that I was mentally unsound and they need not come down to the school.

More at https://www.domainofexperts.com/2021/07/bullied-and-ignored-in-sec-school-i-was.html​

 

[Leongsam]

Darwin's law... survival of the fittest. The weak are supposed to fall by the wayside in order for the species to continuously improve.

If we mollycoddle the weak and allow them to breed the net result is a decline in the quality of the gene pool to the detriment of society as a whole.

I know this sounds harsh but it's the truth. One of the reasons why depression has become a major problem in society is because we have wrapped those with a genetic predisposition to depression in cotton wool and told them that they are normal and that they have a right to be functioning members of society.

Believing what they hear they go forth and multiply and the net result is what you see today ie a proliferation of suicidal youth who cannot handle life's pressures.

 

[mojito]

We should help crazy people by locking them up.

 

[bobby]

Liddat go NS sure die....

 

[syed putra]

Many are born different. These people cannot fit in and should have a option of home schooling with weekend tutorials.The rest can continue as they please.

 

[Papsmearer]

After reading about the murder of a 13-year-old boy at at RVHS, I felt powerless and depressed. My friends were worried — I always get affected by incidents like these. Especially so, when:


- My friends' friend committed suicide 2 weeks ago.

- Multiple teachers telling me that their students committed suicide during a recent dialogue.

- Ashlee's case.

- A suicidal girl who penned a letter to PM Lee.

- Last but not least... My case that went under the radar: bullied, misdiagnosed and denied an education.

The one thing that ties all of these cases together is the fact that mental health is a very real problem that is sadly going unnoticed in the larger MOE system.
Too many cases. Too little action. After much consideration, I decided to reveal my story here to show the harsh reality of cases that fall through the cracks of the system, i.e. outliers. This is going to be a long post, so bear with me.

My story

I attempted suicide back in 2011. Why? Because I was bullied by my classmates for the way I looked and talked. Yes, you heard it right; you can get bullied for being too ugly. Some also undertook a cyberbullying campaign attacking me, which my school simply dismissed as "you're being too sensitive" and "how can you be so sure they are talking about you".

I slowly developed depression which I eventually came to know as social anxiety. I also had a severe phobia of school that led me to skip classes most of the time. If I were to somehow attend school, I would actively avoid eating at the canteen because I was afraid of being bullied by my peers. I will spare you guys the details, and instead highlight some of the treatments I received - things that no school should ever do unto their students.

- Once, out of desperation, I wrote an essay about suicide for my English exam in 2012. Rather than receiving help, I was mocked by both teachers and students alike in public. Parts of my essay (regarding my suicide attempt) were read aloud in class and folks had a real good laugh about it.

- My school maintained the stance that mental health conditions do not exist and that it was all in the mind, and I was merely making life difficult for various teachers.

- I suffered a panic attack that made me hurt myself publicly. My teacher summarily dismissed the affair, insisting that I was just an attention-seeker.

I eventually came to view my school as a prison. The people there did many, many things that severely impacted my mental state of mind. There was no way out, especially with my traditional family upbringing believing that "the school is always right". Fast forward to 2014, my teachers used physical force to "coax" me into a room for some small chat. (Yes. They actually used those words.) Seeing that they refused to let me approach the school counselor, I called the police out of self-defense and begged for them to intervene. The school counselor subsequently blamed me for making matters worse, despite having not helped me a wee bit throughout my journey. On the other hand, the principal, who had always maintained that I was just a rebellious student and had no mental health condition, informed the police that I was mentally unsound and they need not come down to the school.

More at https://www.domainofexperts.com/2021/07/bullied-and-ignored-in-sec-school-i-was.html​

Are u sure this was not written by Pinky?

 

[Papsmearer]

Darwin's law... survival of the fittest. The weak are supposed to fall by the wayside in order for the species to continuously improve.

If we mollycoddle the weak and allow them to breed the net result is a decline in the quality of the gene pool to the detriment of society as a whole.

I know this sounds harsh but it's the truth. One of the reasons why depression has become a major problem in society is because we have wrapped those with a genetic predisposition to depression in cotton wool and told them that they are normal and that they have a right to be functioning members of society.

Believing what they hear they go forth and multiply and the net result is what you see today ie a proliferation of suicidal youth who cannot handle life's pressures.

There is no Darwin's Law that a 9mm can't fix.

 

[Leongsam]

There is no Darwin's Law that a 9mm can't fix.

Here's how nature is supposed to work. If you're strong enough you reach the other side. If you're not up to it you perish.

 

[Scrooball (clone)]

Mentally ill people should be closely monitored. And with his track record of having committed suicide , I am surprised that he’s even allowed to buy an AXE online.

 

[Leongsam]

Mentally ill people should be closely monitored. And with his track record of having committed suicide , I am surprised that he’s even allowed to buy an AXE online.

What exactly do you mean by "closely monitored"?

 

[Leongsam]

Mentally ill people should be closely monitored. And with his track record of having committed suicide , I am surprised that he’s even allowed to buy an AXE online.

Had he committed suicide this murder would not have taken place.

 

[red amoeba]

Schools are the best training grounds. That’s why students from ah Beng schools are always the most hardy and tough folks. Whereas from elite schools you get paper generals and strawberries.

 

[Scrooball (clone)]

Had he committed suicide this murder would not have taken place.

Yeah yeah…. Attempted suicide.

hey here’s something fun for u to read.

pls advice me to take your advise.

 

[tanwahtiu]

There is no Darwin's Law that a 9mm can't fix.

8 inch long 2 inch girth can fix.

 

[syed putra]

It will be nice if we can get the family background of killer.
Most of the time, people just don't have the patience to listen to those with serious problems. Some kids have serious health issues and go to school in pain.

 

[Papsmearer]

Mentally ill people should be closely monitored. And with his track record of having committed suicide , I am surprised that he’s even allowed to buy an AXE online.

everyone in singapore is closely monitored

 

[Scrooball (clone)]

It will be nice if we can get the family background of killer.
Most of the time, people just don't have the patience to listen to those with serious problems. Some kids have serious health issues and go to school in pain.

For a start, whether the mother has remarried for the 5th time.

Whether the dad just came out of prison for drug abuse.

Whether they claim full reimbursement for their education.

 

[Loofydralb]

I beg to differ.
Society grows stronger when the weaker ones are given attention and resources to move with the herd. Inherent in that process is the advancement in science, technology and development that benefits not only the weak but has applications for the strong too.
When you dispose of the weak under the excuse that they retard the rest, you end up eventually killing each other.
Now we are somewhere along that lines with capitalism so rampant.

Darwin's law... survival of the fittest. The weak are supposed to fall by the wayside in order for the species to continuously improve.

If we mollycoddle the weak and allow them to breed the net result is a decline in the quality of the gene pool to the detriment of society as a whole.

I know this sounds harsh but it's the truth. One of the reasons why depression has become a major problem in society is because we have wrapped those with a genetic predisposition to depression in cotton wool and told them that they are normal and that they have a right to be functioning members of society.

Believing what they hear they go forth and multiply and the net result is what you see today ie a proliferation of suicidal youth who cannot handle life's pressures.

 

[Scrooball (clone)]

I agree. We need the weak to control and manipulate. Just like in an ant colony, we need the worker ants.

 

[syed putra]

For a start, whether the mother has remarried for the 5th time.

Whether the dad just came out of prison for drug abuse.

Whether they claim full reimbursement for their education.

This type will only commit suicide with a bomb strap onto their body in the middle of chinatown.