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From somebody to nobody

ShyGuy

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I spoke to a retired.MNC Englishman senior management who had left the company's end of last year. He was my assigned mentor when he was still EVP.

This afternoon, I met up with him for lunch and something he said struck me deeply.

He said since his retirement last year, he had to transition himself from somebody to nobody.

He said the transition was tough because he was no longer an EVP with 'authority', and also because his self identity was so entangled with his job.

Reflecting on what he had said, I guess all or if not most of us will reach that stage one day. Perhaps its like the seasons 春夏秋冬.

Any experiences to share here, given that the bulk of members here are Boomers.
 
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sweetiepie

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Any experiences to share here, given that the bulk of members here are Boomers.
My uncle already had transited from somebody to nobody since the day he became a wise men. The difference is that he has not leetired hence he tends to always give wise advices to workers holding higher post than him.
 

ShyGuy

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Did he run to Jesus for solace.
Nope. He is a rich man having been an EVP earning easily in excess of £25k per month. But despite this, he said he couldn't cope with the loss of authority because he has become a nobody.
 

butoh6050

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I once know of a Air force RSM who retired and became a security guard. Still think he has the power and started to yell at people passing through.
People wanted to fight with him, some told him to fuck off. I dunno if he kenna wacked or not.
 

Peace Maker

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That is a normal for people holding position with authority over others. The day they retired or resigned, they will feel a lost of power. Same as parents, when the children were young, they listened to what you told them, once they became adults, they will argue with you to prove you are wrong. That is part of our life, we must learn to let got our pride, what goes up will come down one day. Our running counters are coming to an end soon to return our IC. Always treat people with humanity even you have high authority over them, you will live your life better.
 

zeddy

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Hmmm right now I worry day and night dreading the day I'm going to work under this CB Kia Pappy supporting Dog of a Manager. Fucking bastard is big time dictator in the office. You can call him a Mini LKY since he still idolise the old Fart even when he already turned into ashes. Recently I received a big time promotion but on condition that I will work under this CB Kia as my big boss in an offshore overseas project that my company managed to win early this year. Fucker is a big time corrupted scumbag, in the past before Covid always receiving KTV treats from his favourite contractors. Don't know what Siam barang he wearing but it seems that he would always escape from any troubles that comes his way.
 

Eisenhut

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Thats why its better to tie self esteem to how many fls you piak, and to how many siam diu you chiong, cos when retirement, siam diu will still be there for you
 

Eisenhut

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Nope. He is a rich man having been an EVP earning easily in excess of £25k per month. But despite this, he said he couldn't cope with the loss of authority because he has become a nobody.

Is it,? My EVP always shirk responsibility and ask ka kia go face customers de...
 

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5 Stages of Retirement Everyone Will Experience

wildpineresidence.ca

four seniors on a hike
Author: Eric Paquette
Category: Retirement Living

Retirement is a time that marks the passage from a life of work to a life of accomplishment, leisure, and choice. As most people feel defined by their job, that transition is not always easy.

Like other major life transitions, it can be filled with various emotions and concerns. But throughout the stages of retirement planning, you can gain an awareness of what to expect and how to better navigate this new chapter in your life.

While adjusting to retirement stages and life after retirement may be challenging at first, it’s never too late to be proactive and start planning for a fulfilling lifestyle.
To help you with the transition, here’s a look at the common stages of retirement that most people experience at some point in their journey.

The 5 Stages of Retirement
Everyone Will Go Through​

First Stage: Pre-Retirement​

The stage before you actually retire involves imagining your new life and planning for it. This stage can last 5 to 15 or more years before your actual retirement date.

Most people shift their focus from building their careers to focusing on the financial planning aspect of retirement. But many don’t usually spend enough time on emotional planning—making sure you have fun and find purpose in this stage of your life.

Along with your finances, you need to consider what will make you happy and fulfilled while you transition. By doing so, you can have a much smoother experience.

Emotional planning should be part of your budget. Making lifestyle decisions, such as downsizing to have more financial freedom and the ability to age in place, will help you plan for both your financial and emotional well-being.

For many, this stage is a time of excitement and anticipation. But it can also be a time for worry and doubt, especially in the year or two before retirement. Anxiety tends to set in when people worry that they won’t have enough money saved for when you actually retire.

Second Stage: Full Retirement​

The liberation or honeymoon phase of retirement occurs at the official beginning and can last from one to two years after retirement.

The liberation phase includes feelings of excitement, relief, and freedom from the stress and responsibilities of your day-to-day working life.

People in this stage are usually busy reconnecting with family, friends, and spouses, and spending time on hobbies, travelling, and starting new businesses.

Instead of a taking a honeymoon vacation-like path in this stage, some people choose to settle into a routine immediately, waking up each morning with a plan in place, and often continuing activities that were part of their busy schedules during their working life. And others opt for rest and relaxation after years of working demanding jobs that drained all their energy.

Third Stage: Disenchantment​

Once the emotional high of retiring has worn off, and the honeymoon phase is over, many people feel a sense of disappointment and disillusionment. They have spent so much time looking forward to retirement, so once it sets in, it can feel less exciting than it was hyped up to be. And they may end up feeling like something is missing in their lives.

There can be downsides such as boredom, loneliness, and feeling useless. And if not addressed, it can be easy to slip into a depression during this stage.

Fourth Stage: Reorientation​

Often considered the most challenging stage, reorientation usually occurs after retirees quickly go through their retirement to-do list, feel a loss of purpose, and begin to evaluate their retirement experience.

Reorientation involves creating a new identity, and it can take some time and effort to accomplish. But once you have built a new identity, you can gain a sense of closure from your working days and move on to enjoy retirement as it’s meant to be enjoyed.

To avoid falling into a rut and depression, it’s crucial that you find something that gives you a sense of meaningful purpose later in life, such as pursuing a passion, volunteering, and adding new fun activities to your daily routine.


Fifth Stage: Reconciliation & Stability​

This final stage may start up to 15 years after the official start of retirement.

Retirees in this stage are content and hopeful in their transition and will experience less depression and anxiety.

In this stage, retirees are settled into a fun and rewarding retirement lifestyle, doing things that make them feel fulfilled. They prioritize simplifying their lives and living relaxing lifestyles.

Health conditions may be more prevalent during this stage, so retirees focus on maintaining their health and independence, sometimes by moving to retirement communities where they can age in a place with access to healthcare, amenities, activities, and friends nearby.

While not every person will experience each stage as intensely or for the same amount of time as others, most retirees will experience this process in some form once they stop working.

Like with any major transition in life, retirement comes with a whole array of emotions and worries. But if you thoughtfully plan for your transition to take care of yourself both financially and emotionally, you can help ease the overwhelming emotions of this significant life transition, and spend more time enjoying your new life to the fullest.
 
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