Today I had 1 to 1 lunch meeting in office with my lady line manager boss

[bigcockman]

During the 1-1 lunch meeting in her office room, she asked me how I rate my performance for 2021.

I said I did my best and have delivered good performance milestones and should be able hit my project targets by end of year.

She look at my project updates I have prepared and sent her this morning. She agreed with me.

I then asked if she is putting me up for promotion to the next salary grade for Year 2022.

She hesitated. Then she says she is not too sure. I asked her why as I am a consistent performer.

She added that I lacked EQ, so she will adopt a "wait and see" approach before deciding nearer the end of the year.

I asked her to list examples of where I lack in EQ.

She listed as follows;:

1. Refusal to speak Mandarin to Mainland Chinese clients when I am fully conversant in Mandarin,

2. Overreacting over a mooncake gift as bribe from a fellow colleague,

3. Refusal to have lunch meeting with her to discuss work at her home,
4. Always deep in thoughts in office like day dreaming to the extent that I am not aware of her presence in office,

and a few more other instances like always copying her in my emails over matters that I have the authority and power to deal with.

So I argued with her over all these examples she listed.

Then she said I have a very argumentative character too.

I was like wanting to scold her Fucking Smelly Chow Chee Bye Slutty Bitch, I QUIT!!!

But I managed to control myself and now deep in thoughts sitting in my workstation.

Do you think she is making my life difficult on purpose by citing all these non performance related issues?

Or she has ulterior motives to make me her toy boy??? Am I being sexually harassed by her?

I feel very exhausted and sian with low motivation now. Sigh..... :(

 

[Byebye Penis]

got photos of her?

 

[bigcockman]

got photos of her?

Yes but it is wrong to post online. That's unethical.

 

[bigcockman]

Any lawyers to advise me on whatever I have a case to sue for sexual harassment in court or do I have a valid complaint to MOM?

 

[A Singaporean]

I told you the china boy will replace you. Lumbar 1 on her list and the most critical to her.

 

[red amoeba]

It’s work hours and U are surfing Sammyboy. Definitely up for promotion from employed to unemployed.

 

[vamjok]

heng i not drinking kopi when reading this. my coffee sure fly

 

[batman1]

Warning ! A lot of superiors are smiling tigers.

 

[bigcockman]

I told you the china boy will replace you. Lumbar 1 on her list and the most critical to her.

If it is really true, I will engage a lawyer and sue her.

 

[bigcockman]

Warning ! A lot of superiors are smiling tigers.

Sigh. :(

 

[bigcockman]

I told you the china boy will replace you. Lumbar 1 on her list and the most critical to her.

If push comes to shaft, and I need my job when she executes her devious plan, maybe I will just sacrifice my dignity and let her physically "abuse" me :(

 

[LordElrond]

Are these just stories or are they real? Cos’ what she said was exactly what I was thinking.

 

[sweetiepie]

During the 1-1 lunch meeting in her office room, she asked me how I rate my performance for 2021.

I said I did my best and have delivered good performance milestones and should be able hit my project targets by end of year.

She look at my project updates I have prepared and sent her this morning. She agreed with me.

I then asked if she is putting me up for promotion to the next salary grade for Year 2022.

She hesitated. Then she says she is not too sure. I asked her why as I am a consistent performer.

She added that I lacked EQ, so she will adopt a "wait and see" approach before deciding nearer the end of the year.

I asked her to list examples of where I lack in EQ.

She listed as follows;:

1. Refusal to speak Mandarin to Mainland Chinese clients when I am fully conversant in Mandarin,

2. Overreacting over a mooncake gift as bribe from a fellow colleague,

3. Refusal to have lunch meeting with her to discuss work at her home,
4. Always deep in thoughts in office like day dreaming to the extent that I am not aware of her presence in office,

and a few more other instances like always copying her in my emails over matters that I have the authority and power to deal with.

So I argued with her over all these examples she listed.

Then she said I have a very argumentative character too.

I was like wanting to scold her Fucking Smelly Chow Chee Bye Slutty Bitch, I QUIT!!!

But I managed to control myself and now deep in thoughts sitting in my workstation.

Do you think she is making my life difficult on purpose by citing all these non performance related issues?

Or she has ulterior motives to make me her toy boy??? Am I being sexually harassed by her?

I feel very exhausted and sian with low motivation now. Sigh..... :(

KNN you should have just licked her jibye on the spot and get promoted KNN

 

[nayr69sg]

Are these just stories or are they real? Cos’ what she said was exactly what I was thinking.

I believe him. They are real.

 

[LexLuthor]

Your lady line manager (LLM) is playing the power game, and she is telling you in no uncertain terms to submit your dignity to her.

 

[eatshitndie]

bigcockman is actually bigtalkcockman.

 

[maxsanic]

During the 1-1 lunch meeting in her office room, she asked me how I rate my performance for 2021.

I said I did my best and have delivered good performance milestones and should be able hit my project targets by end of year.

She look at my project updates I have prepared and sent her this morning. She agreed with me.

I then asked if she is putting me up for promotion to the next salary grade for Year 2022.

She hesitated. Then she says she is not too sure. I asked her why as I am a consistent performer.

She added that I lacked EQ, so she will adopt a "wait and see" approach before deciding nearer the end of the year.

I asked her to list examples of where I lack in EQ.

She listed as follows;:

1. Refusal to speak Mandarin to Mainland Chinese clients when I am fully conversant in Mandarin,

2. Overreacting over a mooncake gift as bribe from a fellow colleague,

3. Refusal to have lunch meeting with her to discuss work at her home,
4. Always deep in thoughts in office like day dreaming to the extent that I am not aware of her presence in office,

and a few more other instances like always copying her in my emails over matters that I have the authority and power to deal with.

So I argued with her over all these examples she listed.

Then she said I have a very argumentative character too.

I was like wanting to scold her Fucking Smelly Chow Chee Bye Slutty Bitch, I QUIT!!!

But I managed to control myself and now deep in thoughts sitting in my workstation.

Do you think she is making my life difficult on purpose by citing all these non performance related issues?

Or she has ulterior motives to make me her toy boy??? Am I being sexually harassed by her?

I feel very exhausted and sian with low motivation now. Sigh..... :(

Having managed a sizable regional department in a MNC before, here's my thoughts on your situation. What I'm going to say probably isn't going to sound pleasing, but here goes:

1) Your entire thought process of thinking meeting project milestones should lead to a promotion is wrong in the first place. All it demonstrates is you are competent in your current assignments, perhaps a case can be made that you should be given a performance bonus, but promotion implies capability to fill a bigger role which is a different ball game altogether.

2) Generally most jobs tend to slant more towards stakeholder engagement and less on individual technical competency the more senior it gets. Some of the examples cited by your boss (I assume it's true as you did not dispute any of them as not factual) do seem like you have difficulty in managing both your external (customers) and internal (colleagues, subordinates and boss) stakeholders.

While most companies and bosses are more tolerant of such inadequacies as long as you can do your basic job correctly, such competency gaps become more glaring and detrimental the higher you climb in the corporate ladder. In short, doing/saying what you feel like as long as you get the job done without caring too much about the impact on stakeholders and the organization around you is a luxury for juniors only.

3) You have admitted you argued with your boss over all the points she raised. That is further evidence of a) You still haven't grasp the change in mindset required to move to a higher position and b) You do not know how to handle your most important stakeholder, the boss. That's not exactly very confidence inspiring for any manager to put you up for promotion.

4) Although you managed not shout to out expletives directly in front of your boss, the fact is internally you have already gotten all emotional over a very common scenario of your boss communicating a few areas of improvement she would like to "wait and see" before deciding. Maybe she's just procrastinating and has no intention to promote you, but that's not the main issue here. What I'm trying to say is your going mentally ballistic is not evidence of the emotional stability required for moving up to larger roles.

Hope this helps.

 

[bigcockman]

KNN you should have just licked her jibye on the spot and get promoted KNN

That will be sacrificing my integrity.

 

[bigcockman]

Your lady line manager (LLM) is playing the power game, and she is telling you in no uncertain terms to submit your dignity to her.

Why should I? I am a competent worker.

 

[bigcockman]

bigcockman is actually bigtalkcockman.

I swear I am telling what has happened today. Please be not add to my depressed emo.