The more housework man do at home, the higher rate of divorce

[singveld]

Fewer divorces if women do all the chores, study says

Couples who share housework duties run a higher risk of divorce than couples where the woman does most of the chores, according to a Norwegian study sure to get tongues wagging.

The divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50% higher than among those where the woman did most of the work. "The more a man does in the home, the higher the divorce rate," said Thomas Hansen, co-author of the study entitled Equality in the Home.

Researchers found little or no cause and effect. Rather, they saw in the correlation a sign of "modern" attitudes.

"Modern couples are just that, both in the way they divide up the chores and in their perception of marriage" as being less sacred, Hansen said, say-ing it was all about values. "In these modern couples, women also have a high level of education and a well-paid job, which makes them less depen-dent on their spouse financially. They can manage much easier if they divorce," he said.

There were only marginal aspects where researchers said there may be cause and effect. "Maybe it’s sometimes seen as a good thing to have very clear roles with lots of clarity... where one person is not stepping on the other’s toes," Hansen suggested.

"There could be [fewer] quarrels, since you can easily get into squabbles if both have the same roles and one has the feeling that the other is not pulling his or her own weight."

In Norway, child-rearing is generally shared equally between mothers and fathers (in seven out of 10 couples), said Hansen, from a park where he was minding his children.

But when it comes to housework, women in Norway still account for most of it in seven out of 10 couples.

The study points out that those women were largely satisfied with the situation.

 

[singveld]

'Higher risk of divorce when men do housework'

COUPLES who share housework duties run a higher risk of divorce than couples where the woman does most of the chores, a Norwegian study sure to get tongues wagging showed on Thursday.

The divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50 per cent higher than among those where the woman did most of the work.

"The more a man does in the home, the higher the divorce rate," Thomas Hansen, co-author of the study entitled Equality in the Home, said.

Researchers found no, or very little, cause-and-effect. Rather, they saw in the correlation a sign of "modern" attitudes.

"Modern couples are just that, both in the way they divide up the chores and in their perception of marriage" as being less sacred, Mr Hansen said, stressing it was all about values.

"In these modern couples, women also have a high level of education and a well-paid job, which makes them less dependent on their spouse financially. They can manage much easier if they divorce," he said.

There were only some marginal aspects where researchers said there may be cause-and-effect.

"Maybe it's sometimes seen as a good thing to have very clear roles with lots of clarity ... where one person is not stepping on the other's toes," Mr Hansen suggested.

"There could be less quarrels, since you can easily get into squabbles if both have the same roles and one has the feeling that the other is not pulling his or her own weight," he added,

In Norway, which has long tradition of gender equality, child-rearing is generally shared equally between mothers and fathers (in seven out of 10 couples), said Mr Hansen, speaking notably from a park where he was minding his children.

But when it comes to housework, women in Norway still account for most of it in seven out of 10 couples.

The study also pointed out however that those women were largely satisfied with the situation, and their overall happiness was very close to those women who lived in "modern" couples.

 

[singveld]

Couples who share the housework are more likely to divorce, study finds divorce rates are far higher among “modern” couples who share the housework than in those where the woman does the lion’s share of the chores, a Norwegian study has found.

In what appears to be a slap in the face for gender equality, the report found the divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50 per cent higher than among those where the woman did most of the work.

“What we’ve seen is that sharing equal responsibility for work in the home doesn’t necessarily contribute to contentment,” said Thomas Hansen, co-author of the study entitled “Equality in the Home”.

The lack of correlation between equality at home and quality of life was surprising, the researcher said.

“One would think that break-ups would occur more often in families with less equality at home, but our statistics show the opposite,” he said.

The reasons, Mr Hansen said, lay only partially with the chores themselves.

“Maybe it’s sometimes seen as a good thing to have very clear roles with lots of clarity ... where one person is not stepping on the other’s toes,” he suggested.

“There could be less quarrels, since you can easily get into squabbles if both have the same roles and one has the feeling that the other is not pulling his or her own weight.”

But the deeper reasons for the higher divorce rate, he suggested, came from the values of “modern” couples rather than the chores they shared.

“Modern couples are just that, both in the way they divide up the chores and in their perception of marriage” as being less sacred, Mr Hansen said. “In these modern couples, women also have a high level of education and a well-paid job, which makes them less dependent on their spouse financially.

They can manage much easier if they divorce,” he said. Norway has a long tradition of gender equality and childrearing is shared equally between mothers and fathers in 70 per cent of cases.

But when it comes to housework, women in Norway still account for most of it in seven out of 10 couples. The study emphasised women who did most of the chores did so of their own volition and were found to be as “happy” those in “modern” couples.

Dr Frank Furedi, Sociology professor at the University of Canterbury, said the study made sense as chore sharing took place more among couples from middle class professional backgrounds, where divorce rates are known to be high.

“These people are extremely sensitive to making sure everything is formal, laid out and contractual. That does make for a fairly fraught relationship,” he told the Daily Telegraph.

“The more you organise your relationship, the more you work out diaries and schedules, the more it becomes a business relationship than an intimate, loving spontaneous one.

“That tends to encourage a conflict of interest rather than finding harmonious resolutions.” He said while the survey applied to Norway, he was confident the results would be the same in the UK.

“In a good relationship people simply don’t know who does what and don’t particularly care. “Unless marriage is a relationship above anything else, then whenever there are tensions or contradictions things come to a head. You have less capacity to forgive and absorb the bad stuff.”

The survey appeared to contradict another recent one across seven countries including Britain that found that men who shouldered a bigger share of domestic responsibilities had a better sense of wellbeing and enjoyed a better work-life balance.

The researchers expected to find that where men shouldered more of the burden, women’s happiness levels were higher. In fact they found that it was the men who were happier while their wives and girlfriends appeared to be largely unmoved.

Those men who did more housework generally reported less work-life conflict and were scored slightly higher for wellbeing overall.

Experts suggested that, while this may be partly because they felt less guilty, the main reason could be that they had simply learnt the secret of a quiet life.

 

[singveld]

so print this out and give to your wife and excuse yourself from housework and watch ryder cup on tv. Hurray.

 

[drifter]

Good thread ... TS

 

[singveld]

Good thread ... TS

you must do all the houseworks, because your wife is recovering. So, this does not apply to you.

 

[drifter]

That's why during the 70s divorce rate is not as high as now .

 

[drifter]

you must do all the houseworks, because your wife is recovering. So, this does not apply to you.

Yes ... Sibey tired recently cause I never do housework at home when she is around . Men job is to bring home the bread period .

 

[Fook Seng]

Seems like you either have a traditional family which can last or a fair and equal family but you cannot have both. No wonder the Malaysian wives are starting a movement to pamper their husbands.

 

[drifter]

Seems like you either have a traditional family which can last or a fair and equal family but you cannot have both. No wonder the Malaysian wives are starting a movement to pamper their husbands.

You are right .. I agree with you completely .. You can't have the best of both world .

 

[Cruxx]

Seems like you either have a traditional family which can last or a fair and equal family but you cannot have both. No wonder the Malaysian wives are starting a movement to pamper their husbands.

Of course, traditional families tend to last. Why? Because the wives are fucking weak. If they leave their husbands, it's habis for them. Traditional families are built on responsibilities whereas egalitarian marriages are built on love. I know which one I would prefer.

 

[The_Hypocrite]

That is why,,a good wife is a maid of the house and a slut in bed...that is what maintains a marriage,,,anything else is bullshit

 

[Fishypie]

Wow..sobering thread, must show that to aLL Sinkiemen's wifeys at home...

 

[laksaboy]

Those pussy-whipped men who help 'darling' do household chores while friends are visiting... try this:

[video=youtube;HeHUQAnzpF0]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HeHUQAnzpF0[/video]

 

[cyberfish]

Wow..sobering thread, must show that to aLL Sinkiemen's wifeys at home...

The women's power ?

 

[johnny333]

In Spore, is having a maid saving a lot of marriages

 

[Equalisation]

In Spore, is having a maid saving a lot of marriages

Datok,

Interesting observation.

I reckon the most stable marriage is one where the husband do approximately a quarter of the housework.

For example, I clear all the empty heineken and chivas bottles every morning, do the gardening and get rid of the green moss of the pond once every fortnight. :o

 

[po2wq]

... For example, I clear all the empty heineken and chivas bottles every morning, do the gardening and get rid of the green moss of the pond once every fortnight. :o

siti do wat? ...

 

[Equalisation]

siti do wat? ...

Laksamana,

Siti do laundry, ironing, masak, mopping, vacuuming, marketing, feed fishes in pond, dusting, cleaning toilet, change toilet paper, wash shoes and dry, wash dua keretas every week, and most important .... uruting ...:o

 

[johnny333]

Datok,

Interesting observation.

I reckon the most stable marriage is one where the husband do approximately a quarter of the housework.

For example, I clear all the empty heineken and chivas bottles every morning, do the gardening and get rid of the green moss of the pond once every fortnight. :o

When the husbands lose their jobs & can no longer afford a maid, then you'll see a spike in the divorce rate. For many guys it will probably be welcome a relieve from the nagging they will have to face from their maid-less wives:p Due to the womens charter the husband will of course lose out.

You seem to have a more understanding wife are you an older uncle Many of the younger guys may not be so lucky. The newer generation females can be very heartless & calculative