Spore divorcees have to take course if they want to remarry

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PAP to force divorcees to undergo mandatory marriage preparation course before remarrying

September 14th, 2010 |

Author: Your Correspondent

The PAP regime, which is obsessed in micromanaging every single thing in Singapore will now interfere in the private lives of citizens yet again with another ridiculous proposal to force divorcees to undergo mandatory marriage preparation course before remarrying in a desperate bid to stem the rising divorce rates among Singaporeans.
Under a series of proposed amendments to the lop-sided Women’s Charter which is already biased against Singapore men, divorcees who intend to remarry must go for marriage preparation courses before getting married as if they are being “penalized” for their failed marriages.
Marriages and divorces are ultimately private decisions made by two individuals and the state has absolutely no business in judging couples who decide to go their separate ways.
Singapore’s rising divorce rates mirrors that of other developed countries and is a reflection of the changing status of women in our society.
Another proposal is that couples with children under the age of 21 must attending counselling and mediation should they decide to divorce which serves little purpose if the marriage is already beyond salvation.
When interviewed by the Straits Times, lawyer Foo Siew Fong said:
“An order compelling them to attend counselling may be a waste of resources if they feel compelled to do so and only want to pay lip service.”
[Source: Straits Times]
This is not the first time that the PAP regime has interfered in the private lives of citizens. Back in 1982, PAP strongman Lee Kuan Yew introduced the unpopular “graduates mother scheme” to encourage female graduates to marry and bear children on the false pretext that their offspring will endowed with “higher intelligence” than others which backfired spectacularly causing the PAP to lose votes in the 1984 elections leading it to be aborted eventually.
Still unrepentent over his bigoted views, Lee defended his attempts at social engineering using economic progress as his shield again:
“I am often accused of interfering in the private lives of citizens. Yes, if I did not, had I not done that, we wouldn’t be here today. And I say without the slightest remorse, that we wouldn’t be here, we would not have made economic progress, if we had not intervened on very personal matters – who your neighbour is, how you live, the noise you make, how you spit, or what language you use. We decide what is right. Never mind what the people think.”
[Source: Straits Times, 20 April 1987]
It won’t be a surprise if the obnoxious PAP regime which seems to suffer from obsessive-compulsive disorder decide to legislate the number of times a couple must make love a week and the positions they should adopt to boost Singapore’s declining birth rate one day

 

[hotbot]

let's say if a couple is unhappy and want to divorce,after thinking that they may need to go for prep course if they want to remarry. Will that discourage them and make them stuck in an unhappy marriage?

 

[hochiminhcity]

marriage preparation course should be conducted by religious organisation not the state.
if a marriage is irretrievably broken down and there is no love left then it is not easy to fixed

 

[scoobyhoo]

will they teach them not to have sexual intercourse by those religion institutions? or will they provide life demo as many couples might be blurr kings.

 

[po2wq]

Spore divorcees have to take course if they want to remarry ...

oh! ...

dey have 2 have inter course b4 dey remarry ... :(

 

[chootchiew]

let's say if a couple is unhappy and want to divorce,after thinking that they may need to go for prep course if they want to remarry. Will that discourage them and make them stuck in an unhappy marriage?

I guess a hefty fine for divorce and remarriage, if imposed would further discourage them.

 

[jw5]

People should have to take courses if they want to have children, not if they want to marry or remarry.
If they have children and bring their children up badly or neglect or abuse their children, the lives affected will include the children and everyone the children have contact with.
If they marry or remarry and mess it up, they only mess up their own lives, which they may have done anyway even if they didn't marry.

 

[Soul_Reaper]

marriage preparation course should be conducted by religious organisation not the state.

What marriage preparation course?
They will have better results if they amend or repeal the Womens Charter.
It is this bloody Womens Charter that is driving the divorce rates upwards cos the women see it as an easy way out to take advantage of the men instead of working to solve the problems and save the marriage.

F*CK THE WOMENS CHARTER !!

:oIo: :oIo:

 

[Devil Within]

Why do feel like Singapore is becoming more and more like a Communist country?

 

[IR123]

The Government is right in making divorcees take up a course before going for another marriage. It all depends on the course content.

The course is limited in that it imparts knowledge but not values. Values which contributed to the breakup of the marriage are part of the character and thus that depends on the individual concerned to change himself/herself for the better.

It will be even better if the course is 1 year in length. This means that they will have to wait at least one year before remarrying. This will prevent remarriage on the fly. But this aspect will not go well with divorced women who want to remarry because of adultery for obvious reasons. It will however be good for divorced men who committed adultery and want to remarry because it gives them enough time to come to their senses.

It will be best if there is a psychologist evaluation on their suitability for remarriage as part of the course. That will be a messy matter as the people concerned are unlikely to face their failures with objectivity.

In short, even if it is just a short course, it still be beneficial especially if it forces them to examine their reasons and thus give them an option to back out of remarriage. In addition to repeated failure which is very very high, there is the issue of step-children and step-parents, the alimony and child maintenance, the ability to provide, the willingness to provide, the emotional problems and relevant to singapore - the cost of living. How expenses will be shared, what if you lose your job - will your spouse be willing to provide for the step-children, what about educating the step-children and so on.

As you can see, remarriage is an emotional decision born out of lowered self-esteem in one case and adultery in another case but it carries the seeds of its own failure if it is not addressed. I am glad that the Government realized that having more marriages and more children is NOT the answer to Singapore's replacement needs, but rather having more quality marriages and happy families is the answer. Especially as the foreign citizens provided an alternative to children.

A course helps but a bit. If I can give a wish, I wish all marriages and remarriages to be happy ones.

 

[eatshitndie]

course 100: conversational discourse to help couples in their verbal skills

course 200: recreational obstacle course to help couples overcome challenges and difficulties in their relationships

course 300: procreational intercourse to help couples with intimacy issues and the joy of sex

couples are not allowed to take course 300 unless they have mastered 100 and 200.

 

[hotbot]

your description is ideal. For my case, I have told my ex we should go see a marriage counselor then but she refused. Till today, not only she suffer, i also suffer along. we had hurt each other a lot. Sometimes, i have to believe that between me and her, our character clashed very badly according to the Chinese almanac. It may be a pity that it's over but there were good times too,before marriage that I fondly remember...

The Government is right in making divorcees take up a course before going for another marriage. It all depends on the course content.

The course is limited in that it imparts knowledge but not values. Values which contributed to the breakup of the marriage are part of the character and thus that depends on the individual concerned to change himself/herself for the better.

It will be even better if the course is 1 year in length. This means that they will have to wait at least one year before remarrying. This will prevent remarriage on the fly. But this aspect will not go well with divorced women who want to remarry because of adultery for obvious reasons. It will however be good for divorced men who committed adultery and want to remarry because it gives them enough time to come to their senses.

It will be best if there is a psychologist evaluation on their suitability for remarriage as part of the course. That will be a messy matter as the people concerned are unlikely to face their failures with objectivity.

In short, even if it is just a short course, it still be beneficial especially if it forces them to examine their reasons and thus give them an option to back out of remarriage. In addition to repeated failure which is very very high, there is the issue of step-children and step-parents, the alimony and child maintenance, the ability to provide, the willingness to provide, the emotional problems and relevant to singapore - the cost of living. How expenses will be shared, what if you lose your job - will your spouse be willing to provide for the step-children, what about educating the step-children and so on.

As you can see, remarriage is an emotional decision born out of lowered self-esteem in one case and adultery in another case but it carries the seeds of its own failure if it is not addressed. I am glad that the Government realized that having more marriages and more children is NOT the answer to Singapore's replacement needs, but rather having more quality marriages and happy families is the answer. Especially as the foreign citizens provided an alternative to children.

A course helps but a bit. If I can give a wish, I wish all marriages and remarriages to be happy ones.

 

[hotbot]

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[halsey02]

The crux of the problem, is the every growing numbers of a certain race ( not to mention for sensitivity sake); which is a common knowledge out there, of teenage marriges & divorce, remarry & so forth. Each & subsequent broken marriages, produces children, which become a burden to society & the people that produces them.

We must resist CPF giving out privilege information on our working history; this open the doors to abuse.

 

[Ash007]

1) Counseling courses for remarrying. Declare it a success and apply it for all marriages in the future.

2) Since all marriages can now be "successfully" counciled through courses, eliminate marriages. Instead the state shall decide who gets to "partner" with who with the appropriate courses assigned to each couple as the need arise.

3) ????

4) After years of state manipulated, genetic experiment through partnering, the government have found the ideal "Singaporean". Ready to go to NS without a whim, ready to be retrenched after 40 by suiciding. Ready to accept and welcome FTs without any question asked. This "neCitizen" would be cloned in the millions to ensure the survival of the island state.


Aiyah, no need courses lah, want to up the birth rate, just "fine" couples that don't have children loh. Call it the CBF, Child Bearing Fund. For every year the couple do not have a child, just deduct off their salary and give it to Temasick for "investment" loh. Win-win situation, state gets a share of your salary while you don't have kids. You get to watch your "investment" grow.

 

[jimmyfallon]