I think we have to face up to the fact there are unsound pple ard.
I learned through experience that it is a mistake to try to reason with them.
Some are just fill with rage waiting for something to trigger an explosion.
A few yrs ago, a cyclist cycled through a bus stop nearly hitting a child.
I told the man, "Uncle, cycling path is just behind bus stop... ". He stop his bike and walk towards me likei
I just killed his dog. He asked me what is my problem.... he seem enraged at such a trivial thing .
Some pple have either anger problems or mental unsoundness. If you have a neighbor like that you tell him not to play music too loud, he will turn it up louder. You report him to police or HDB, he will think you are out to fix him when you just want peace and quiet. After that, your problems become endless as every step to use to solve your problem just provoke him more.
The best first move is to be tolerant and butter him up before you make a request.... and you have to do it gently to get him to play ball.
Chances are you can't reason it out with a matyoyo. Tolerance and buttering doesn't work on them.
Many years back, a matyoyo neighbor happened to shifted into my next door.
He and his wife takes care of their grand kids while his own children goes to work.
As a norm most matyoyo kids always thought they can become "Fandi Ahmad The 2nd".
Their grandkids started to play soccer in the narrow corridor everyday after school without fail.
To make things worse, their grand kids even brought along all their cousins to come to their house after school for the soccer game.
Each time these bunch of matyoyo kids play soccer, they will smash my front gate and also topple some of my flowerpots.
My parents was very frustrated and try to reason (talk nicely) it out with their grandparents.
The grandparents simply fxxk care (left ear in, right ear out) every time we try to talk it out with them.
Soon, the grand kids and their cousins knew about our complaining.
They started to play soccer more often and not even scared of anyone.
They are a bunch of spoiled kids who doesn't know the right place to play soccer.
We realized that we can no longer live that HDB block for long to continue tolerating such a neighbor.