Sat, Nov 14, 2009
The New Paper
High-IQ husband obsessed with sex
by Vivien Chan
HE MADE her watch pornography and e-mailed links to such websites even when she was working overseas.
When she said she disliked watching porn, he accused her of having a “prudish attitude towards sex” and told her she was “lousy” in bed.
That “lousy” remark was tame compared to other humiliating remarks he made against her, and his intimidating behaviour. The result: She claims she was reduced to a nervous wreck, leading to heart palpitations, anxiety and hair loss.
His obsession with sex, his insults and tantrums eventually led to the break-up of their 9-year-old marriage.
She was first granted a divorce in May this year.
But he refused to let her go.
Last month, his appeal against the divorce was dismissed with costs.
Theirs was a marriage that seemed bright. Both were academically brilliant.
The childless couple, in their 30s, met in 1989 while studying in the same junior college, and started dating in 1998.
They were married two years later.
She studied at the National University of Singapore, while he went on a Government scholarship to study at a top university in the United States.
He was a member of Mensa, a non-profit organisation for those with high IQ, and even made it to the Dean’s list in his first three years in university.
But he dropped out in his final year because he had pneumonia, depression and mental anxiety.
His parents paid off his Government bond. He went on to get a job in New York with a management consulting firm where he worked from 1997 to 1999.
But again he quit.
He was “burnt out”.
He returned to Singapore and has been jobless since then.
Called wife names
She relocated to work in the US in 2001 while he remained in Singapore to receive treatment for problems over his weight, depression and fatty liver.
In several e-mails between husband and wife while they lived apart, he scolded her, called her names, and humiliated her.
The husband’s e-mails were submitted as evidence of his treatment towards her.
In them, he called his wife “a lousy lay”, “a liar” and “a bimbo”, among other things.
They lived apart for almost three years, save for annual December vacations when the wife returned to Singapore.
In her affidavit, she said he was a sexual deviant who spent his days watching pornographic films.
He also e-mailed her links to pornographic websites despite “knowing full well that she did not appreciate or enjoy such things”.
Once, he asked her to buy certain sex books and get her friend to carry it back to Singapore for him.
In one e-mail which he sent with a link to a pornographic website, he wrote: “You look much better even though you are older. But your prudish attitude towards sex and experiment makes you a lousy lay.”
The New Paper
High-IQ husband obsessed with sex
by Vivien Chan
HE MADE her watch pornography and e-mailed links to such websites even when she was working overseas.
When she said she disliked watching porn, he accused her of having a “prudish attitude towards sex” and told her she was “lousy” in bed.
That “lousy” remark was tame compared to other humiliating remarks he made against her, and his intimidating behaviour. The result: She claims she was reduced to a nervous wreck, leading to heart palpitations, anxiety and hair loss.
His obsession with sex, his insults and tantrums eventually led to the break-up of their 9-year-old marriage.
She was first granted a divorce in May this year.
But he refused to let her go.
Last month, his appeal against the divorce was dismissed with costs.
Theirs was a marriage that seemed bright. Both were academically brilliant.
The childless couple, in their 30s, met in 1989 while studying in the same junior college, and started dating in 1998.
They were married two years later.
She studied at the National University of Singapore, while he went on a Government scholarship to study at a top university in the United States.
He was a member of Mensa, a non-profit organisation for those with high IQ, and even made it to the Dean’s list in his first three years in university.
But he dropped out in his final year because he had pneumonia, depression and mental anxiety.
His parents paid off his Government bond. He went on to get a job in New York with a management consulting firm where he worked from 1997 to 1999.
But again he quit.
He was “burnt out”.
He returned to Singapore and has been jobless since then.
Called wife names
She relocated to work in the US in 2001 while he remained in Singapore to receive treatment for problems over his weight, depression and fatty liver.
In several e-mails between husband and wife while they lived apart, he scolded her, called her names, and humiliated her.
The husband’s e-mails were submitted as evidence of his treatment towards her.
In them, he called his wife “a lousy lay”, “a liar” and “a bimbo”, among other things.
They lived apart for almost three years, save for annual December vacations when the wife returned to Singapore.
In her affidavit, she said he was a sexual deviant who spent his days watching pornographic films.
He also e-mailed her links to pornographic websites despite “knowing full well that she did not appreciate or enjoy such things”.
Once, he asked her to buy certain sex books and get her friend to carry it back to Singapore for him.
In one e-mail which he sent with a link to a pornographic website, he wrote: “You look much better even though you are older. But your prudish attitude towards sex and experiment makes you a lousy lay.”
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