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By overthecounter, 28 July 2004 (personal diary)
Love has nothing to do with endless proclamations of affection, muttering sweet nothings into your significant others’ ears, hugging your date intimately while watching a movie together, or kissing each other while riding back home in a taxi. Love has nothing to do with the “show and the shell” --- the show we put up for each other, and the shell (sometimes empty) that we may get in return if we were not sincere in the first place.
Instead love is a process and a journey. It is about choosing to walk the path of life together, sharing weal and woe, fortune and prosperity, joy and sorrow. It is about being there for each other, holding each other’s hands to make sure the other person does not fall. It is about a special kind of union and commitment to each other. It is about the grace and ease of being a part of each other’s lives, effortlessly. That is what love is about.
Do not be fooled by appearances, by lofty declarations of eternal romance, by mighty proclamations of undying love, by extravagant gestures of mock friendship, by materialistic showmanship and flaunting of one’s generosity and superficial graciousness. Do not be taken in by the show and the shell.
Instead recognize that love, like respect, must be earned by being the powerful person that you are meant to be, and that there are no shortcuts, no way to purchase love by money, no method by which we can obtain the strength of love by appealing to the weakness of man.
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I penned this cute but meaningful (to me at least) piece over 10 years ago. I joking called this the "Empty Shell Theorem" - if you want to capture romantic love by appealing to another person's weakness or by being dishonest to each other, what you get in the end is an empty shell that will not last but will give you grief.
Love has nothing to do with endless proclamations of affection, muttering sweet nothings into your significant others’ ears, hugging your date intimately while watching a movie together, or kissing each other while riding back home in a taxi. Love has nothing to do with the “show and the shell” --- the show we put up for each other, and the shell (sometimes empty) that we may get in return if we were not sincere in the first place.
Instead love is a process and a journey. It is about choosing to walk the path of life together, sharing weal and woe, fortune and prosperity, joy and sorrow. It is about being there for each other, holding each other’s hands to make sure the other person does not fall. It is about a special kind of union and commitment to each other. It is about the grace and ease of being a part of each other’s lives, effortlessly. That is what love is about.
Do not be fooled by appearances, by lofty declarations of eternal romance, by mighty proclamations of undying love, by extravagant gestures of mock friendship, by materialistic showmanship and flaunting of one’s generosity and superficial graciousness. Do not be taken in by the show and the shell.
Instead recognize that love, like respect, must be earned by being the powerful person that you are meant to be, and that there are no shortcuts, no way to purchase love by money, no method by which we can obtain the strength of love by appealing to the weakness of man.
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I penned this cute but meaningful (to me at least) piece over 10 years ago. I joking called this the "Empty Shell Theorem" - if you want to capture romantic love by appealing to another person's weakness or by being dishonest to each other, what you get in the end is an empty shell that will not last but will give you grief.
