Serious Need help to identify type of infidelity

[bluephotos]

Hello everyone,

I can't seek help from people I know as it involves my family, so I am hoping the online community can share your insights and expertise on this.

I'll try to keep it simple.

I have suspected my father to be cheating since I was in primary school, as I had seen text messages such as "dear I wish I could..." between him and another woman, obviously not my mother. Of course growing up I heard my parents quarrelled about his infidelity a lot, but as no one has ever caught him red-handed, my father was always able to deny it (and still act like he has been maligned).

Even in recent years, there were a couple of times when my father accidentally called me while he was in the car, and I could hear him talking to another woman. These were times when he claimed to be working on a weekend. But I couldn't make out the content of the conversation.

The other day when i was teaching him how to use Whatsapp Web, I glimpsed that he had a conversation in chinese with an unsaved number and a pretty girl picture. Like those fake model pics or whatever you call them (sample below). My sibling has also seen such similar conversations before, but we have never been able to actually access and read the messages because these are just chance encounters with his phone.

Anyway, my main question is: Based on your understanding of cheating, extra services, etc, what sort of cheating can my father been doing (especially based on the whatsapp convo)? He is in his 60s, educated but not suave, has a stable income but not earning more than 10K a month.

I am wondering if he is in those scam relationship where the "woman" just keeps exacting money in exchange for giving pictures, or something along that lines. I am not well versed at all in that aspect, so please enlighten me. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you!

 

[Leongsam]

Sounds like a minor issue and nothing to get worked up about. Let your poor dad enjoy himself after all life is short for all of us.

 

[bluephotos]

Sounds like a minor issue and nothing to get worked up about. Let your poor dad enjoy himself after all life is short for all of us.

yeah I get that sometimes men needs to source for company elsewhere. But I am concerned about what type of relationship he is having, especially whether it's a scammer type of relationship?

Despite his decent income and the fact that he has average household expenses (all of my siblings and myself work and give our parents allowances), my dad has raked up more than $100,000 of debts from moneylenders twice (and I think he still borrows now). My mother and my siblings and I paid for all these debts.

While I can still try to accept it that my father needs to get sex elsewhere, I am not willing to pay for it. So I would really like to know what possible types of relationship my father could be engaging in..

 

[Semaj2357]

Sounds like a minor issue and nothing to get worked up about. Let your poor dad enjoy himself after all life is short for all of us.

agree absolutely and i'm with you on this - if the father still puts food on the table (while getting a side-dish on the side and is wiping his mouth clean), it's happy endings for all concerned

 

[kaninabuchaojibye]

velcum back bigcockman
haaaa

 

[laksaboy]

If there's money changing hands, I doubt it's just pictures they're exchanging. Try 'body fluids'.

 

[countryman]

Let your dad enjoy himself as long as he has been fulfilling his duties to the family. Men eating outside is more of a sexual lust than anything else...
So what if u catch him red handed? It might put a strain on your relationship with your dad.

 

[theblackhole]

aiyah small matter lah. my father had many quickies outside of marriage.
as long as he takes care of the family. there is nothing to be suspicious of.
unless you are in love with your dad which is very common. anyway, your dad will retire one day.
and he will sit at home and diy. so no need to worry so much. my dad enjoyed himself until a full ripe age.
no problem with my mum and no problem with anyone of us. let the man enjoy lah.

 

[red amoeba]

Your dad like you have two heads. Surely he knows what he is doing. Sometimes after eating a certain diet for too long it’s perfectly fine to eat something else.

Encourage your mum to go out more often and socialise. It helps to keep things fresh.

 

[ginfreely]

aiyah small matter lah. my father had many quickies outside of marriage.
as long as he takes care of the family. there is nothing to be suspicious of.
unless you are in love with your dad which is very common. anyway, your dad will retire one day.
and he will sit at home and diy. so no need to worry so much. my dad enjoyed himself until a full ripe age.
no problem with my mum and no problem with anyone of us. let the man enjoy lah.

Tsk tsk tsk a bunch of double standard liar sons of whores in this thread. Man got infidelity is ok woh your mum ok you ok but stranger woman that you think got infidelity want to attack. Pui!

 

[Leckmichamarsch]

Tsk tsk tsk a bunch of double standard liar sons of whores in this thread. Man got infidelity is ok woh your mum ok you ok but stranger woman that you think got infidelity want to attack. Pui!

...............your sons no doubt

 

[rushifa666]

40% divorce rate what is stopping you?

 

[Thick Face Black Heart]

Don't worry about it. It is natural for men to like women. It is natural for many men to love multiple women.

Don't fret over a such petty stuff.

 

[CHAOTIC]

aiyah small matter lah. my father had many quickies outside of marriage.
as long as he takes care of the family. there is nothing to be suspicious of.
unless you are in love with your dad which is very common. anyway, your dad will retire one day.
and he will sit at home and diy. so no need to worry so much. my dad enjoyed himself until a full ripe age.
no problem with my mum and no problem with anyone of us. let the man enjoy lah.

U are already 60 plus then your father 90plus?

 

[ginfreely]

...............your sons no doubt

No doubt then swear if I am 0.01% virgin with annulled marriage you liar son of whore be burnt to death. Pui!

 

[ginfreely]

40% divorce rate what is stopping you?

what else but scared lose his inheritance. scared his father cpf and hdb won’t go to him.

 

[bluephotos]

Haha thanks for all your replies.

My main question was to find out what kind of relationship he is likely to be having, and whether it is a scam relationship, as my father rakes up a lot of debt despite earning a substantial salary and none of his children are dependent on him. Like I mentioned earlier to another user, he's raked up >100K of debt before, and it's not like he is a compulsive gambler, and neither does he drink or smoke. So likely the money is spent on a woman/ women. I don't think I am being unfilial or selfish when I say that I am not interested in helping him solve these debts incurred from spending on these woman/women.

So back to my question... usually how do these sort of relationships start? Like go for dirty massage and establish a relationship from there?

Even if I don't bust my father's ass and just let him be, I want to know.