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Mediacorp's Rui En Bares Her Private Painful Past

Porfirio Rubirosa

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In today's Life! section, singer-actress, Rui En gets interviewed by the straits times. She revealed alot about her pasteven though she is usually tight-lipped about her personal life, especially about her broken family. Rui En started off by saying that if she could live her life again, she would change the first 24 years of her life. Rui En is the only child of a property agent and a housewife. Her parents fought all the time. Her parents divorced when she was 17. Her father remarried three years later and her mother did the same a year ago. She now lives with her dad, stepmother and grandmother. Her career started when she was about 20 but she atarted acting when she was a child. She has always been looked at as an outsider since her secondary school life till even now, at MediaCorp. She took up ballet when she was in Primary 5 and stopped at secondary 1 because the feeling of rejection deepened and the whole not fitting in idea got to her. This was when she was drawn to a schoolmate who was from a worse background than hers and yet seemed so strong, streetwise and cool. That started her period of delinquency during which she began to experiment with cigarettes and alcohol. She admitted that she dd all these just to get attention from her parents. Yet, she would always study at the last minute for her major exams and do well. While waiting to enter university, she did modelling in 2001. In 2002, she made her first album. She added that she got into show business for the wrong reasons. In 2004, she started an overhaul of her life. She realised on her own. how her teenage delinquency, modelling, singing and acting career were all symptoms of her insecurity and she thought that fame was the only answer to her problems. So from 2002 to 2004, it was just about her ego. She said that she regretted that part of her career as the only thing that she could see in her eyes while she as acting, was the hunger for fame and popularity. After that, she decided to take stock of her whole life. She realised that she was just allowing herself to be a victim. She adds that she didn't want to be a victim anymore. She didn't want to use her broken family as an excuse for her behaviour and that she had to grow up! So, she quit smoking and drinking and also the idea of wanting to be famous and popular. As for her career, she quit doing kissing and intimate scenes. The result of her desicion is that her opportunities now are very limited as such kissing scenes are required. Ironically, she stuck a knife in her own career when it was just beginning to blossom. Even so, she doesn't seem to worry about it. Lastly, she added that, "I am hoping that kids who read this might realise that no matter how bad your family situation is, you have a choice not to be a victim."
 

Porfirio Rubirosa

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"Many people say no when asked if they would change anything about their lives. Well, I would change the first 24 years of my life." (For me of course, it wouldn't be first 24 years of my life as I'm not that age yet, though I feel more like her age).

- "I used to be really angsty. That's the thing I like about getting older. You accept yourself a little bit more. I used to hate myself." (Well, I still hate myself, but not as much. And I gotta learn to accept myself a little bit more each day).

- "I was looking for ways to fill the emptiness that I felt." (People are always looking for ways to fill the emptiness in them, including me).

- ["I didn't want to be a victim anymore. I didn't want to use my broken family as an excuse for my bad behaviour anymore. I had to grow up." -> So she quit smoking and drinking. She quit wanting to be famous and popular. And most significantly for her career, she quit doing kissing and intimate scenes.] (Taken from the article, well actually, all of the quotes are. This was the time around 2004, therefore, since then no more kissing and intimate scenes were seen in her characters. And the result of that decision is that her opportunities now are very much limited, because generally, such kissing scenes are required.) < -> (Nevertheless, she will have us, ardent fans and supporters of hers. I know there are fans of hers, me included, who still hope for that slight possibility of just a kissing scene that is more than a peck on the cheeks or lips, but whatever her decision, we'll still support her. As for me, I still smoke and drink, BUT OCCASIONALLY).

- "I don't understand why people are fearful of being alone. I love being alone." (One more thing in common between us. Just that there are times I don't want to be alone, but very seldom. I'm actually alone most of the time, like 90% of the time when I'm home).

Also, she seems to have a fear of relationships. Currently single, she says she regrets all the romantic relationships she had till now and admits she might never get married.
"My mother is quite upset and has said to me, 'Please don't use us as an example'. But when you grow up in that environment, you become careful. I would rather not put my welfare or my fate in the hands of somebody else."
Then why did she do this heart-to-heart interview, which certainly requires a great amount of trust?
"I am hoping that kids who read this might realize that no matter how bad your family situation is, you have a choice not to be a victim," she says. (I, for one, am trying not to be a victim, though my situation is somewhat different from hers. I don't know my dad, but saw a pic of him before. It's ok to ask me about my dad, though I don't know him. And you don't have to apologize when I say I don't have a dad, because I simply don't know him).
 

dysentry

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parents divorced big fuck, just a spoilt child...

since she so lonely, can come surf sammyboy forum...
 

lolabunny

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Lastly, she added that, "I am hoping that kids who read this might realise that no matter how bad your family situation is, you have a choice not to be a victim."

My goodness! Did you just summarize everything?

Actually, I was just thinking of Rui En's case when reading your reply in the other thread. I'm not sure what her parents are like in real life, but to keep fighting in front of the kids all the time, is just really bad for their interpersonal development.

I think women going for mysterious bad boys are just setting themselves up for a marriage like Rui En's parents had. And the guys doing that will just have wives who like them for shallow qualities like what you mentioned.
 

Zeitgeist

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Lesson 101.xxxxxx......... Do not draw any conclusions about what you've read if you don't have more in-depth knowledge of the person you are reading about! A pinch of salt to adulterate with would be safer going down into your processing core!
 

Porfirio Rubirosa

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LOL, no lah was searching for the actual article but this was the best that I could come up with, as I don't subscribe to ST online:biggrin:

I must say that I was quite surprised by Rui En appearing to bare her 'soul'.

My goodness! Did you just summarize everything?

Actually, I was just thinking of Rui En's case when reading your reply in the other thread. I'm not sure what her parents are like in real life, but to keep fighting in front of the kids all the time, is just really bad for their interpersonal development.

I think women going for mysterious bad boys are just setting themselves up for a marriage like Rui En's parents had. And the guys doing that will just have wives who like them for shallow qualities like what you mentioned.
 

Porfirio Rubirosa

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Ah so I take it you fall into the cynical camp eh?

Lesson 101.xxxxxx......... Do not draw any conclusions about what you've read if you don't have more in-depth knowledge of the person you are reading about! A pinch of salt to adulterate with would be safer going down into your processing core!
 

Zeitgeist

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Ah so I take it you fall into the cynical camp eh?

So desu! At her age and the fact that she had spent so many years in that House! Actress ! Actress! DJ with cancer cured and returned! Mediacorp products! Someone call an ambulance! I'm choking on my own vomit!:rolleyes:
 

jw5

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LOL, no lah was searching for the actual article but this was the best that I could come up with, as I don't subscribe to ST online:biggrin:

I must say that I was quite surprised by Rui En appearing to bare her 'soul'.
She didn't say very much.
Lots of people have parents who were divorced these days and have made changes in their lives.
 

STUCK_HERE

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In today's Life! section, singer-actress, Rui En gets interviewed by the straits times. She revealed alot about her pasteven though she is usually tight-lipped about her personal life, especially about her broken family. Rui En started off by saying that if she could live her life again, she would change the first 24 years of her life. Rui En is the only child of a property agent and a housewife. Her parents fought all the time. Her parents divorced when she was 17. Her father remarried three years later and her mother did the same a year ago. She now lives with her dad, stepmother and grandmother. Her career started when she was about 20 but she atarted acting when she was a child. She has always been looked at as an outsider since her secondary school life till even now, at MediaCorp. She took up ballet when she was in Primary 5 and stopped at secondary 1 because the feeling of rejection deepened and the whole not fitting in idea got to her. This was when she was drawn to a schoolmate who was from a worse background than hers and yet seemed so strong, streetwise and cool. That started her period of delinquency during which she began to experiment with cigarettes and alcohol. She admitted that she dd all these just to get attention from her parents. Yet, she would always study at the last minute for her major exams and do well. While waiting to enter university, she did modelling in 2001. In 2002, she made her first album. She added that she got into show business for the wrong reasons. In 2004, she started an overhaul of her life. She realised on her own. how her teenage delinquency, modelling, singing and acting career were all symptoms of her insecurity and she thought that fame was the only answer to her problems. So from 2002 to 2004, it was just about her ego. She said that she regretted that part of her career as the only thing that she could see in her eyes while she as acting, was the hunger for fame and popularity. After that, she decided to take stock of her whole life. She realised that she was just allowing herself to be a victim. She adds that she didn't want to be a victim anymore. She didn't want to use her broken family as an excuse for her behaviour and that she had to grow up! So, she quit smoking and drinking and also the idea of wanting to be famous and popular. As for her career, she quit doing kissing and intimate scenes. The result of her desicion is that her opportunities now are very limited as such kissing scenes are required. Ironically, she stuck a knife in her own career when it was just beginning to blossom. Even so, she doesn't seem to worry about it. Lastly, she added that, "I am hoping that kids who read this might realise that no matter how bad your family situation is, you have a choice not to be a victim."

What a crybaby! At least God gave you good looks, you can become famous! There are many others who are fugly and come from broken homes, then how? Count your blessings and fuck off.
 
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