by insisting that graciousness itself is to be needed to be enforce, would not turn one or the society into a graceful society, but instead turn the society into a freak of nature where behaviors are not real but were been forced upon.
Graciousness comes from within, Upbringing, education & culture; in which many of us here in SINgapore are lacking.
It is not difficult to see what upbrining the children these days have..look around...how you expect the children to have good upbringing, in which they lear from theri parents, when they have maids, their nannies , their grandparents, their...whoever, looks after them from birth?
And their parents, were brought up that way..so it is a cycle...never mind about edcuation..too lengthly to discuss..
Culture..we have lost that heritage, The Chines, The Malays, The Indians, The Eurasians, The Peranakan's the...
Furthermore...we have a government that is short on graciousness...so, what do you expect the people to behave?
Monkey see. monkey do...and to make the monkey obey...either you starve the monkey..or BEAT IT!