What's Best: Abstinence or Safe Sex?
Have you ever wondered, "Which one is best, abstinence or safe
sex?" In my opinion and experience, abstinence is the best
choice. Abstinence is abstaining (to stay away from) from
drugs, sex and alcohol. You can just about abstain from
anything like your peers, even sex and drugs.
According to the dictionary, abstinence is forbearance from
any indulgence of appetite especially from alcoholic beverages
or any self-restraint, self-denial forbearance. As far as we
know and what statistics have proven, safe sex is using
methods of birth control, tying of the tubes, condoms or the
pull out method. The pull out method is when a boy says that
he is going to pull out when he feels himself about to
ejaculate.
Again in my opinion, safe-sex isn't really all that safe. You
can still get pregnant, contract STDs or to go deeper than
that, you can possibly feel like a low down whore or like
you've been used or tricked into doing something that you
didn't really want to do. Or as my parents and best friends
say, "looking for love in all the wrong places."
In the end he's gone to another girl and you're left with a
frown on your face and a broken heart full of lies versus
abstaining and standing for what's right and saving yourself
until you're married and financially stable for that kind of
decision or responsibility.
Another fact that has been proven is that people who wait
until they're married have a healthier relationship and a
better sex life, not only better but safer if your spouse is
trustworthy. Also in the Christian religion it states in the
Holy Bible that fornication (having sex before marriage) is a
sin in God's eyes; and when it's judgment day, God will judge
you according to what you did here on Earth.
From my personal experience also in my opinion, you should wait
for sex until you're married because it's not what everybody
makes it seem. Yes sex is full of pleasure and pain if it's your
first time, but honestly if I could give up anything in the
world to get my virginity back I would. To me it's just that
serious to have and it's something so special about it.
From what married couples have told me, there's nothing like
having sex or making love to someone whom you're committed to
versus somebody whom you think you're in love with and they
don't feel the same way about you. Also you may hear a lot of
people say "hit it and quit it," which means a boy will be
with you just for sex, but he'll play games with you until you
give in and have sex with him. Then he'll act like he doesn't
know you and treat you like a piece of trash on the side of
the road, but that's just the beginning. He'll also tell
everybody that you're easy to get and make you feel like you
did everything wrong.
To sum up my experience, I was tired of living that shameful
lifestyle so I decided to make a change and that's when I met
the Real Majority. The Real Majority is a group of teens
standing up for what's right and abstaining from sex, drugs
and alcohol. It changed my life tremendously and it showed me
that now I am one less girl who made statistics, caught STDs
and suffered through teenage pregnancy. Since I've made that
change, I'm rumor free, stress free and drama free. I am a
whole new person with a new reputation and I feel good about
myself since I've made that lifestyle change.
Now the fact of the matter is on you; it's your choice and
decision. This essay is meant to give you a second look and a
whole different perspective on what's better for you. The
question still remains the same, "What's best for you,
abstaining or safe sex?" Just remember, everyone is not doing
it.