You are falling for this woman whom you have not met for ages. Your only exposure to her is her photo in facebook.
Did she do anything to impress you? The answer is probably no.
This is why you find yourself fallen for her when she has done absolutely NOTHING.
This is dangerous as the next time you meet her, your affections will be too intense, so will be your expections.
You will probably frighten her with your sudden intense desire for her. Imagine yourself at a class reunion, this unattractive and obese classmate whom you have not met for ages suddenly comes to you and want to be your lover.
Funnily enough, if you guys read enough romance novels, the hero always expresses intense emotions. And oddly (to men), the women simply adore it.
Women adore passionate men. They like their heroes romantic and dashing. We aren't just talking looks here, we're talking attitude. It's in the books. Not all the romantic heroes are good looking but they are usually pretty "garang". :p
The same way men adore hot chicks. Guys like women who say "yes", because they don't like rejection, or simply like easy meat.
Actually, most times people fall in love, the other party usually didn't do anything other than being themselves. We're not talking puppy love nor crushes. We're talking about falling in love or just developing a liking.
Isn't that how we fall in love with classmates, neighbours, co-workers? No one did anything special or exciting. They just be themselves and somehow, their looks or qualities shine.
When we are in love, we feel emotions more strongly. So it's natural that we feel that our expectations about events are higher. Well isn't this because love aspires us to greater heights?
Speaking of looks, the beauty is often in the eye of the beholder. Seriously, how many of us are as good looking as Elvin Ng or Jeanette Aw? Does it mean that we all have to remain single? I find it very insulting as a plain looking person, that people are so superficial to only judge others based on looks.
Most of us plain looking people get attached and married in the end. Out of the couples we see on the streets, how many are star material?
As for weight issues, well if we look carefully, there are many plumper chicks with boyfriends and skinnier chicks with none. Don't you guys notice how many skinny pretty girls walk around in groups while their plainer and chubbier sisters have boyfriends?
Please don't discriminate against fat people, both male or female. I had a ex classmate who was rejected because he was overweight but when he lost weight (20kg), he became very good looking. The girls I was always introducing to him all kicked themselves. He was a real sweetheart in personality. If I hadn't had a boyfriend at that time, I'd have dated him too.
So if the next time someone plump comes up to you, just ask the person to lose some weight for health's sake. You'd be pleasantly surprised at the gem you find.