It takes all kinds of people to make the world. I am healthy and happy, but yet in your eyes, I am a failure, were I to be your son/daughter. This means you may have other expectations that you have not flagged to your consciousnesses. I suggest you assess what other subconscious expectations you may have, so as not to impose them inadvertantly on your daughter and cause unintended conflicts. To love, have/adopt children and see them grow up as healthy and happy is indeed a good thing.