I happen to think that most of them are spoilt brats and a nuisance in public areas and will contribute very little to the world.
hey you were once a child before, how can you say that? like dat not fair to the rest of the children lah.
let me tell you my experience. i use to hate kids alot, when i see them screaming and shouting on top of their voices....i mean nahbay, how come their parents neber teach them basic manners ones, and let them run like crazy around public places. feel like given them a tight slap to discipline them.
but later, when i grew older, i realized that my biological time clock have arrived, i feel my life is missing something. I have what i wanted in my life, a wife, home, papers....but still my life is bloody empty, there's no life in my home. it's so quiet everytime i am at home. super boring man. everyday sleep and eat and entertainment, there's no purpose in life. i said to myself? for FUCK?
there's another time, when i was waiting for the bus, a man carried his kid on his shoulders, and the cute girl girl say hello at me....my heart melted....so sweet....then on the bus, i imagined that someday i have a kid of my own. i imagine that i could play with my kid. so i prayed to Jesus, and let Him know my desires, even though he already knew what i wanted.
then my wife got pregnant, i wasn't excited, but i was glad and have joy in my heart, because i knew Jesus would answer my prayers. for the 9 months i was with my wife when she went for checkups and ultrasounds.
the first ultrasound, i saw something move in my wife tummy, i was overwhelmed with emotions! there's life in my wife tummy! we have both created life!! God have made it happend!! i couldn't imagine it has happend and i nearly cried. i was so touched! i think this is the greatest gift man could ever received from God! because children are God's blessings. Jesus loved children!! i watched with excitement everytime we went for the ultrasound and watch my baby grow.
when the baby first arrived, we had to wakeup at night a few times during the first few weeks. was very tiring initially but after a while we got used to it. not easy during the first few months, because of the crying, you don't really know what your baby wanted, but after a while my baby settled down and had regular schedules. thanks to my wife, who read alot to keep her updated on how to handle my baby.
now we have to re-adjust our schedules to fit with the baby. i mean we have to focus our time for our precious darling. mom stayed at home to look after the baby, so only me worked. i think it is important for mom to look after the baby for the first 3 years because that will determine how the kid will be like when they grow up. don't give your baby to maid or other child care givers, because they are not trained to look after a baby or may not have the love and tender care of a mom, after all the baby is her flesh and blood. who else can take care of the baby other than mom herself? furthermore they are not going to educate your baby for you! and they could take away the kids affection for you!
as your baby grew older, it's becoming more and more fun, they can interact with you. say funny things and do funny actions...your toddler filled your home with "life" and "spirit". a gentle kiss from my toddler really melts my heart. i cannot explain the feeling here, but it's a good feeling when you are in it. it's like you have joy in your heart and you are fulfilled. okay sometimes my toddler is a bit naughty and screams and played tantrums and run around the house!! i thought to myself, hey! they are still kids!!! give them a break lah!! when they have gone overboard, sometimes we have to discipline my child too. no physical punishment required. Just stare at my toddler eyes, and be firm. Explain the rational for discipline them. Even though they can't speak, they could understand. don't be surprised!
i really thank God for giving us such a wonderful child. how my kid will turn out in future, it's up to His will.
