Sir Choot, I suggest you go read the "new" concepts in leadership. For your sake, I post the link here.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Authentic_leadership
There are many papers written on the same and it is not far from what you have crudely postulated in this thread.
If you want to find elements of authentic leadership in yourself and how to energise those elements and create a better life for yourself and those you lead, I suggest you enrol in a course. It is a tough course and you need to be mentally prepared when you go. Your life may be turned upside down after this course. You are warned. I have seen some top executives quit their high paying jobs and become farmers after attending one of these courses! No joke.
The one conducted by Harvard is probably the best. Cheers