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about my good friends

I have a few good friends but we stopped contacts for some reasons.
think I missed my friends, they sometimes call/sms me on my HP but I decide not to call or sms back in return even though I want to.

That's life, some things cannot be undone, there's no turning back the clock.

That means you have bad friends then, and so they aren't really your friends.
 
I don't think it's about a case of bad friends; it's a natural cycle in social life. Times past, times change, friends come, friends go, all move on; memories remain, if any, good or bad. Even between kins and relatives, such cycle moves on and on.

小时亲兄弟,大时各乡里。
天下无不散之宴席。

Perhaps that's why Chinese value the new year eve reunion dinners and visits so much, and westerners value Christmas eve dinners and greetings so much. Just a means to keep ties that bind reminded and renewed, for as long as possible.
 
come to think abt it again, Ego problem exists too...
I don't think it's about a case of bad friends; it's a natural cycle in social life. Times past, times change, friends come, friends go, all move on; memories remain, if any, good or bad. Even between kins and relatives, such cycle moves on and on.




Perhaps that's why Chinese value the new year eve reunion dinners and visits so much, and westerners value Christmas eve dinners and greetings so much. Just a means to keep ties that bind reminded and renewed, for as long as possible.
 
you remind me of another good friend, a fighter, very steady kind of person. He knew our existing problem and avoid all outings with us,only reply sms and calls. He might have felt inferior as he held only O level. But I held him in high regards cos' of his "steadiness".:)

He once told me of this problem but i thought never mind,as friends,give and take.Now,i realise what he meant.:(

That means you have bad friends then, and so they aren't really your friends.
 
The pain I am going thru is emotional. Their beastly doings have affected me in many ways. For instance,I was once a sociable person,nowadays,i tend to be wary of pple i meet. There are still many many bastard things they did but I can't write them as there is no witness or evidence. This is a costly lesson just because I decided not to side with PAP.

too many unfortunate(man-made) happened to me together. The impact is just too big for me to ignore. No money,got family like no family,got friends like no friends, wife left me, was laughed at,verbally abused while making a living driving cab.

You can't imagine what I have been thru...I have tried moving on but for a while, if you are in my shoes, can you move on?

Well there is nothing much to drag on, things happen , you can't undone what has been done.

You do have a choice, to Start and move on or just torturing yourself with what happen in the past.

The choice is yours, you can be happy or just drown in your own prison.:):):)
 
you remind me of another good friend, a fighter, very steady kind of person. He knew our existing problem and avoid all outings with us,only reply sms and calls. He might have felt inferior as he held only O level. But I held him in high regards cos' of his "steadiness".:)

He once told me of this problem but i thought never mind,as friends,give and take.Now,i realise what he meant.:(

That's your problem, really. You subconsciously catergorised "your friend" into "O" level and what else and that reflects the real you. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Being cryptic does not help too...
 
hi, i dare to say i am a subconsious wary person. When I state that he O level, i meant to tell you guys that this is how i get the feel abt what he is feeling. But I nvr classify my friend according to their edu or social status,pls dun say me like tht. I have friends from all walks of life,it's just that I dun know how to tell them my story abt how i was being made a scapegoat by ST's SS whose father is ISD related.Who will believe me? When I last put it in this forum, some of you guys say that I am shcizo, what will my friends think?

Just in case, I swear that what happened to me and what i state in this forum are genuine,real stuff! Until today,i can't believe that these things happened to me.:(



That's your problem, really. You subconsciously catergorised "your friend" into "O" level and what else and that reflects the real you. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Being cryptic does not help too...
 
Just in case, I swear that what happened to me and what i state in this forum are genuine,real stuff! Until today,i can't believe that these things happened to me.:(

It will be helpful if you list out the things that has happened to you.
 
golden rule of friendship..... dont ever borrow or lend money

live a simple life if cannot afford to buy certain things
 
Want to turn your life around?

If you could forgive these people, repay them with kindness, you may eventually experience a spiritual calling, you will rise from these ashes of life's cruel experience into a better human being.

After this you may experience a spiritual calling and become a pastor or monk or a motivational speaker to benefit humankind.


The pain I am going thru is emotional. Their beastly doings have affected me in many ways. For instance,I was once a sociable person,nowadays,i tend to be wary of pple i meet. There are still many many bastard things they did but I can't write them as there is no witness or evidence. This is a costly lesson just because I decided not to side with PAP.

too many unfortunate(man-made) happened to me together. The impact is just too big for me to ignore. No money,got family like no family,got friends like no friends, wife left me, was laughed at,verbally abused while making a living driving cab.

You can't imagine what I have been thru...I have tried moving on but for a while, if you are in my shoes, can you move on?
 
hi, i dare to say i am a subconsious wary person. When I state that he O level, i meant to tell you guys that this is how i get the feel abt what he is feeling. But I nvr classify my friend according to their edu or social status,pls dun say me like tht. I have friends from all walks of life,it's just that I dun know how to tell them my story abt how i was being made a scapegoat by ST's SS whose father is ISD related.Who will believe me? When I last put it in this forum, some of you guys say that I am shcizo, what will my friends think?

Just in case, I swear that what happened to me and what i state in this forum are genuine,real stuff! Until today,i can't believe that these things happened to me.:(

I am sorry if I misread you, but a friend in need is a friend indeed.
Don't dwell into all those selfish 'golden rules' about not loaning or getting a loan off friends because that is a sign of selfishness. If I am your friend and you are in the deep hole and only money can bail you out and if I refused to bail you out, am I still a friend? Am I qualified to be your friend when your future is on the hinge and I am pretending to be blur-blur ?

My advice is: Don't ever put a price on friendship, it is priceless, for the rest you got MasterCard, hahaha sad but true.
 
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