Stocktaking my mediocre existence. Any views? Thanks in advance.

[bigcockman]

This morning on MRT to work, I decided to do a stocktake of my life to date. Now in office toilet cubicle, I shall put my thoughts in words.

I'm single, going to be late 30s soon. I am averagely happy with my life, ie., sometimes happy, sometimes unhappy, sometimes melancholic, sometimes positive. It's sort of like a balance of ups and downs.

I have not (yet) given up on my life,but I wouldn't say I am living a fabulous life, in the sense that I feel I just live and exist on a daily basis. Nothing fantastic in my view.

My goal is to just make it through each day. Eat, work, exercise, masturbate (or have sex), shit and sleep.

I also don't consider myself a total failure nor success. I think I am just mediocre.

I have done a lot of travelling before Covid19. I like travelling, thanks to my late father who doted on me a lot.

I have a Bachelor's second upper degree and a job I enjoy. Basically my job is the only thing that often brings me joy. I truly enjoy what I do while I'm at work (despite an erratic lady boss). However, that's about it.

I feel that I am simply existing. No goals, no purpose, neither functional or dysfunctional.

Is it wrong to simply exist?

I have a new GF now. Despite so, there are times I wonder if I don't bother about getting married, have kids, start another journey in life - is it ok?

Or must I start changing my thoughts, direction and realign my life purpose?

What did you do or not do when you were around my age that help you sustain to now?

I welcome any learned/useful and time tested opinion from well lived senior Sammyboyers in this forum.

Your guidance will be very much appreciated by me.

 

[gingerlyn]

Do remember to savour your lady boss boobs.

 

[LordElrond]

This morning on MRT to work, I decided to do a stocktake of my life to date. Now in office toilet cubicle, I shall put my thoughts in words.

I'm single, going to be late 30s soon. I am averagely happy with my life, ie., sometimes happy, sometimes unhappy, sometimes melancholic, sometimes positive. It's sort of like a balance of ups and downs.

I have not (yet) given up on my life,but I wouldn't say I am living a fabulous life, in the sense that I feel I just live and exist on a daily basis. Nothing fantastic in my view.

My goal is to just make it through each day. Eat, work, exercise, masturbate (or have sex), shit and sleep.

I also don't consider myself a total failure nor success. I think I am just mediocre.

I have done a lot of travelling before Covid19. I like travelling, thanks to my late father who doted on me a lot.

I have a Bachelor's second upper degree and a job I enjoy. Basically my job is the only thing that often brings me joy. I truly enjoy what I do while I'm at work (despite an erratic lady boss). However, that's about it.

I feel that I am simply existing. No goals, no purpose, neither functional or dysfunctional.

Is it wrong to simply exist?

I have a new GF now. Despite so, there are times I wonder if I don't bother about getting married, have kids, start another journey in life - is it ok?

Or must I start changing my thoughts, direction and realign my life purpose?

What did you do or not do when you were around my age that help you sustain to now?

I welcome any learned/useful and time tested opinion from well lived senior Sammyboyers in this forum.

Your guidance will be very much appreciated by me.

You are approaching what we call mid-life crisis. What will happen next is you will attempt to do something to give meaning to your life beyond the daily routine. Getting married and having kids is an option for some but not all. Think of what you will regret not having done in your life when you are 85. That is what you should be doing now.

 

[Scrooball (clone)]

Let me sum up your life..

I'm single, going to be late 30s soon

that's pretty fucked up. I guess no illegitimate kids born out of wedlock. Assuming u get married when you are 40. Wife (if any) gives birth to a kid when you are 41. Your kid is 29 when you are 70. U probably won't get to see your kid reach the peak of his career or even see your grandkids. Then life sucks and u die.

My goal is to just make it through each day. Eat, work, exercise, masturbate (or have sex), shit and sleep.

another fucked up goal. U don't even need to set a goal to do the above (except for maybe exercise).

I have a Bachelor's second upper degree and a job I enjoy.

sign of personal insecurity. Instead of just mentioning you have a Bachelor's, you have to specifically state you have a SECOND UPPER. That's fucked up. Second upper is like the common result most grads should have.

I have a new GF now. Despite so, there are times I wonder if I don't bother about getting married, have kids, start another journey in life - is it ok?

There are times if you wonder if you should get bothered about getting married? Then pls don't. Just stick to the usual bravado shit that 'players' supposedly thrive in. Spend money on multiple gfs, don't have kids and just pay for a cheap fuck every now and then. If you are nearing 40 and still undecided, then that's pretty fucked up.

 

[Leongsam]

This morning on MRT to work, I decided to do a stocktake of my life to date. Now in office toilet cubicle, I shall put my thoughts in words.

I'm single, going to be late 30s soon. I am averagely happy with my life, ie., sometimes happy, sometimes unhappy, sometimes melancholic, sometimes positive. It's sort of like a balance of ups and downs.

I have not (yet) given up on my life,but I wouldn't say I am living a fabulous life, in the sense that I feel I just live and exist on a daily basis. Nothing fantastic in my view.

My goal is to just make it through each day. Eat, work, exercise, masturbate (or have sex), shit and sleep.

I also don't consider myself a total failure nor success. I think I am just mediocre.

I have done a lot of travelling before Covid19. I like travelling, thanks to my late father who doted on me a lot.

I have a Bachelor's second upper degree and a job I enjoy. Basically my job is the only thing that often brings me joy. I truly enjoy what I do while I'm at work (despite an erratic lady boss). However, that's about it.

I feel that I am simply existing. No goals, no purpose, neither functional or dysfunctional.

Is it wrong to simply exist?

I have a new GF now. Despite so, there are times I wonder if I don't bother about getting married, have kids, start another journey in life - is it ok?

Or must I start changing my thoughts, direction and realign my life purpose?

What did you do or not do when you were around my age that help you sustain to now?

I welcome any learned/useful and time tested opinion from well lived senior Sammyboyers in this forum.

Your guidance will be very much appreciated by me.

Just do what makes you happy and fills you with a sense of purpose.

 

[tanwahtiu]

Start metaverse porn site... sound interesting

 

[MaximiLian]

first thing 2 do iz 2 watch ze movie Fight Club

 

[bigcockman]

Do remember to savour your lady boss boobs.

Honestly, I did that already some time ago. I don't think anyone knows, except her, me and of course now Sammyboyers. I do regret my indiscretion, under the influence of alcohol, furnished by her. I did thought that it was a case of sexual harassment against me and wanted to file a police cum office misconduct report. But I chickened out because I don't want to lose my job or end up having to leave my job due to embarrassment.

 

[bigcockman]

You are approaching what we call mid-life crisis. What will happen next is you will attempt to do something to give meaning to your life beyond the daily routine. Getting married and having kids is an option for some but not all. Think of what you will regret not having done in your life when you are 85. That is what you should be doing now.

How do I know what I will regret when I am 85? I don't even know whether I will regret or not regret if I stay married or unmarried now. It's rather difficult to postulate correctly.

 

[bigcockman]

Let me sum up your life..


that's pretty fucked up. I guess no illegitimate kids born out of wedlock. Assuming u get married when you are 40. Wife (if any) gives birth to a kid when you are 41. Your kid is 29 when you are 70. U probably won't get to see your kid reach the peak of his career or even see your grandkids. Then life sucks and u die.


another fucked up goal. U don't even need to set a goal to do the above (except for maybe exercise).


sign of personal insecurity. Instead of just mentioning you have a Bachelor's, you have to specifically state you have a SECOND UPPER. That's fucked up. Second upper is like the common result most grads should have.


There are times if you wonder if you should get bothered about getting married? Then pls don't. Just stick to the usual bravado shit that 'players' supposedly thrive in. Spend money on multiple gfs, don't have kids and just pay for a cheap fuck every now and then. If you are nearing 40 and still undecided, then that's pretty fucked up.

Many thanks for your detailed and enlightening comments. Much appreciated.

 

[bigcockman]

Just do what makes you happy and fills you with a sense of purpose.

Sounds reasonable. But honestly, what makes one happy is usually temporary happiness. Like romance, it makes me happy. Then after a period ofntime, it becomes boring. Same wity food, sex, clothes, friends, etc.

 

[bigcockman]

Start metaverse porn site... sound interesting

I have no interest in such activity. Thanks!

 

[bigcockman]

first thing 2 do iz 2 watch ze movie Fight Club

Not my cup of tea as well. Thanks.

 

[po2wq]

ur pathetic sexistence is 2 eat, sh*t n die (no ref 2 a regular @ tis kopitiam) ...

changing ut tots, direction n realign ur life purpose is futile ...

 

[nightsafari]

Is it wrong to simply exist?

That's what most people do. Whether that's enough for you is up to you.

I have a new GF now. Despite so, there are times I wonder if I don't bother about getting married, have kids, start another journey in life - is it ok?

If you don't feel it strongly, don't get married or have kids. It's a big commitment. Even people who want kids tend to be shocked at how much commitment and effort it takes. As you mentioned earlier, you like romance in the early stages, then get bored. Marriage is not romance, but a partnership with all the difficulties that entails.

Or must I start changing my thoughts, direction and realign my life purpose?

What did you do or not do when you were around my age that help you sustain to now?

Search within yourself. Is there anything that you desire? If there is, then go and do it. That's all.

I welcome any learned/useful and time tested opinion from well lived senior Sammyboyers in this forum.

Your guidance will be very much appreciated by me.

An image that comes to mind is that you're locked in a comfort zone. Your job gives you some happiness. A few others like short term romance or exercise or masturbation are just little highlights to elevate the balance of the time you have left. Other than that you're just existing. So you've formed a life around that job and those few highlights already mentioned.

It seems that mainly your missing purpose in an occupation. Of the things you mentioned, your job seems to resonate the most with you. But I think it's insufficient from the tone of your post. You should find an occupation (not just a job!) that gives you meaning and purpose. Something that makes you want to wake up early and rush to it. Not just for a few weeks or months but one that will keep you engaged and excited for years. Unfortunately in the Singapore context this is largely ignored as an important part of growing up and something I spend a lot of time advising people on.

So go and think about it.

 

[zhihau]

Your guidance will be very much appreciated by me.

Start giving.

Start giving your time, giving your advice, giving your money, giving your effort- to whichever cause that you hold dear to your heart.

You can thank me later

 

[jw5]

This morning on MRT to work, I decided to do a stocktake of my life to date. Now in office toilet cubicle, I shall put my thoughts in words.

I'm single, going to be late 30s soon. I am averagely happy with my life, ie., sometimes happy, sometimes unhappy, sometimes melancholic, sometimes positive. It's sort of like a balance of ups and downs.

I have not (yet) given up on my life,but I wouldn't say I am living a fabulous life, in the sense that I feel I just live and exist on a daily basis. Nothing fantastic in my view.

My goal is to just make it through each day. Eat, work, exercise, masturbate (or have sex), shit and sleep.

I also don't consider myself a total failure nor success. I think I am just mediocre.

I have done a lot of travelling before Covid19. I like travelling, thanks to my late father who doted on me a lot.

I have a Bachelor's second upper degree and a job I enjoy. Basically my job is the only thing that often brings me joy. I truly enjoy what I do while I'm at work (despite an erratic lady boss). However, that's about it.

I feel that I am simply existing. No goals, no purpose, neither functional or dysfunctional.

Is it wrong to simply exist?

I have a new GF now. Despite so, there are times I wonder if I don't bother about getting married, have kids, start another journey in life - is it ok?

Or must I start changing my thoughts, direction and realign my life purpose?

What did you do or not do when you were around my age that help you sustain to now?

I welcome any learned/useful and time tested opinion from well lived senior Sammyboyers in this forum.

Your guidance will be very much appreciated by me.

How about trying to do something creative like writing a song, or writing a screenplay, or setting up a website, or writing a book, or setting up a small business, or creating a club for people to do the thing(s) you enjoy?

You can't take your money with you when you die, but nobody can take away something useful or interesting that you have created.

 

[jw5]

Start giving.

Start giving your time, giving your advice, giving your money, giving your effort- to whichever cause that you hold dear to your heart.

You can thank me later

Nowadays, I try to be more giving.

 

[Eisenhut]

This morning on MRT to work, I decided to do a stocktake of my life to date. Now in office toilet cubicle, I shall put my thoughts in words.

I'm single, going to be late 30s soon. I am averagely happy with my life, ie., sometimes happy, sometimes unhappy, sometimes melancholic, sometimes positive. It's sort of like a balance of ups and downs.

I have not (yet) given up on my life,but I wouldn't say I am living a fabulous life, in the sense that I feel I just live and exist on a daily basis. Nothing fantastic in my view.

My goal is to just make it through each day. Eat, work, exercise, masturbate (or have sex), shit and sleep.

I also don't consider myself a total failure nor success. I think I am just mediocre.

I have done a lot of travelling before Covid19. I like travelling, thanks to my late father who doted on me a lot.

I have a Bachelor's second upper degree and a job I enjoy. Basically my job is the only thing that often brings me joy. I truly enjoy what I do while I'm at work (despite an erratic lady boss). However, that's about it.

I feel that I am simply existing. No goals, no purpose, neither functional or dysfunctional.

Is it wrong to simply exist?

I have a new GF now. Despite so, there are times I wonder if I don't bother about getting married, have kids, start another journey in life - is it ok?

Or must I start changing my thoughts, direction and realign my life purpose?

What did you do or not do when you were around my age that help you sustain to now?

I welcome any learned/useful and time tested opinion from well lived senior Sammyboyers in this forum.

Your guidance will be very much appreciated by me.

God says ," be fruitful and multiply" did you do that?

If no, then you are not following your destiny. Please pack your bags and spread the singkee genes all over world

 

[cowbellc]

This morning on MRT to work, I decided to do a stocktake of my life to date. Now in office toilet cubicle, I shall put my thoughts in words.

I'm single, going to be late 30s soon. I am averagely happy with my life, ie., sometimes happy, sometimes unhappy, sometimes melancholic, sometimes positive. It's sort of like a balance of ups and downs.

I have not (yet) given up on my life,but I wouldn't say I am living a fabulous life, in the sense that I feel I just live and exist on a daily basis. Nothing fantastic in my view.

My goal is to just make it through each day. Eat, work, exercise, masturbate (or have sex), shit and sleep.

I also don't consider myself a total failure nor success. I think I am just mediocre.

I have done a lot of travelling before Covid19. I like travelling, thanks to my late father who doted on me a lot.

I have a Bachelor's second upper degree and a job I enjoy. Basically my job is the only thing that often brings me joy. I truly enjoy what I do while I'm at work (despite an erratic lady boss). However, that's about it.

I feel that I am simply existing. No goals, no purpose, neither functional or dysfunctional.

Is it wrong to simply exist?

I have a new GF now. Despite so, there are times I wonder if I don't bother about getting married, have kids, start another journey in life - is it ok?

Or must I start changing my thoughts, direction and realign my life purpose?

What did you do or not do when you were around my age that help you sustain to now?

I welcome any learned/useful and time tested opinion from well lived senior Sammyboyers in this forum.

Your guidance will be very much appreciated by me.

when i was ur age, was going thru a career crisis. managed to resign from my job, luckily a very good friend help me on the career switch.
the initial 2 years was hell cos gonna start all over again.

find ur path, and if money and time permits, go for it. u got no family commitment except maybe your parents.
no one got many 10 years left, unless you're born rich

cheers