My unhappy sinkie marriage

[BuiKia]

Stupid sinkie, you have more to lose than your wife. Based on what you wrote, she deserve someone better than you.

Dear All

just felt that I need a place to say out my story and see if any kind souls could give me their inputs.

I am currently 30 years old, got married 2 years ago and has a 1 year old daughter. My wife is working in the financial industry and I am in working in a GLC. My parents live near us and help to take care of our daugther.

Sounds like a happy marriage but to me, somehow I feel that is is not. My wife in fact earns much more than me, about twice as she is doing sales. Of course her pay varies month to month but there was once she earned $15k in one month alone which is about 3 times my pay. I won't say my pay is very good but I would say $5k a mth for a 30 yr old is quite ok.

ok u may ask what is the big deal? the thing is that I feel inferior as a man. we graduated from the same uni n same course, just that we took different career paths. In the beginning of her career, her pay was abt the same as mine, then when we got married, she changed department and she suddenly earned alot more than me. She kept telling me stories about her fellow bankers who earn big bucks and bring their families go Europe or States for holidays, and her clients who like to shower her with expensive dinners. All these talk made me feel inferior and we discussed one day about how I felt, and she stopped talking about her stories at work. That being said, as we share a bank account, I can't help feeling inferior every month when I see her salary credited to the bank account every time.

She works late, and my young daugther and I don't see her much on weekdays. i don't think she has cheated on me but I can't say our sex life was not affected. We currently just have sex once a wk during wkends or sometimes none at all as she says she felt tired.

Then I met someone. She is a young Malaysian working at my company's cafeteria. She is somehow helping out in the logistics like in charge of procuring food supplies, payroll for the auntie cookers etc. One day we chat up and I found her to be a very nice girl. She says she is just 22 years old, not highly educated, come here to Sg to earn more money to send back home to her sibilings who are still studying. I ask her whether she is attached and she said no. She asked me back and then I lied. I said no (I don't wear my wedding ring). Then I continued with my wrong way. One day, I asked her out for dinner at the esplanade and she agreed.

I felt v happy being with her, and in a way I felt like a man, as she was much younger than me and constantly asked me for advice in life, like do i think her career is a good fit for her long term, which are the cheap and good places to rent a room in singapore. of course, I have to admit, she was also v pretty and had a good figure. After that dinner, I realised I like her and if I am not married, I would have surely gone all out to woo her.

Then all these came back to me, I am afterall married man and I also have a child. If I have a divorce, the most innocent party will be my 1 yr old child. Also, my wife earns alot. The most logical way would be to stick with her and accumulate a large retirement fund together after we retire. If I were to be with this Malaysian, most likely we will not be able to earn much together.

That being said, somehow I felt that I don't know I can sustain this marriage any longer as the feeling is somehow not right anymore. So just wanna see if any bros here can offer any comments. Thanks.

 

[erection2015]

its a no brainer you no brainer ...whoever you are :*:

 

[Raiders]

its a no brainer you no brainer ...whoever you are :*:

:*::*::*::*::*:

 

[LeMans2011]

So stupid. Stick with current wife, eat young chick outside. NO brainer indeed.
Do such spineless men really exists???

 

[Raiders]

Anyway, if my wife earns 15k a month and I earn 5k only, I am very sure my wife will save at least 10k in our joint savings account.

 

[LeMans2011]

Raiders,
I am a points slut. Since you are a points whore, can gimme some points?

 

[Raiders]

So stupid. Stick with current wife, eat young chick outside. NO brainer indeed.
Do such spineless men really exists???

Seldom see you make such a smart statement

 

[LeMans2011]

Seldom see you make such a smart statement

I have gotten smarter after i started talking to kopiuncle.

 

[kopiuncle]

this type of marriage problem also want to make public.

come on, solve your own problems and don't let others decide for you.

30 years old with one year old child already got problems. how to bring the child up? only 2 years in marriage already can't cope. waulau, i admire those who stay married for 50 years and still holding hand lovingly. you see many uncles and aunties walking around hand in hand. so nice. come on, grow up and solve your own problems!!!

 

[Raiders]

I have gotten smarter after i started talking to kopiuncle.

Please leash him properly. Every morning I wake up see his postings, I lost all appetite for my coffee. The other one is that

fellow

who

wrote

like

this

(not streetsmart73)

 

[kopiuncle]

I have gotten smarter after i started talking to kopiuncle.

oh dear me....better don't be fooled by an idiot, a fool and a hokaukan uncle.....pls don't talk too much to a troll.
no good for your health.

 

[kopiuncle]

Please leash him properly. Every morning I wake up see his postings, I lost all appetite for my coffee. The other one is that

fellow

who

wrote

like

this

(not streetsmart73)

you are the master of your own destiny
why let a troll spoil your coffee
if you want some real stuff
face the world with all its ugliness
indulge in some intellectuality....

 

[BuiKia]

If my wife earns 3 times more than me, I would be more than happy to stay in the marriage. At least money is not a problem.

 

[Raiders]

I have gotten smarter after i started talking to kopiuncle.

Exchange lah. 5 points exchanged for 20 is worth it.

 

[tonychat]

.................

 

[shawna]

y bother to get to know a young xiao mei mei and then got to slog hard to support her and yourself...

xiao geena... no brainer like what erection2011 said... think rational, don use your other head to think!

super low life thrash!

 

[LeMans2011]

Exchange lah. 5 points exchanged for 20 is worth it.

Very worthed it ... will remember to return you once i regain power

 

[Raiders]

Very worthed it ... will remember to return you once i regain power

You have to wait 3 days later. Now I got a queue

 

[Conqueror]

Simi So Unhappy ? Wah Lau

Stupid sinkie, you have more to lose than your wife. Based on what you wrote, she deserve someone better than you.

After reading it, I still can't find his so-called problem. So, case close !

 

[Froggy]

Re: Simi So Unhappy ? Wah Lau

Stupid fella never been to Poseidon. One visit and his marriage will be saved. This guy just require a release valve that's all.