3 biggest red flags and dating 'icks' to avoid on Valentine's Day in Singapore
Discover the secrets to a successful Valentine's Day by decoding the dating 'icks' that turn Singapore's young hearts off.
Staff Writer
Mon, 5 February 2024 at 4:18 pm SGT·4-min read
Considerate gestures, engaging conversations, and prompt responses can turn a potential "ick" into a memorable dating experience. (Photo: Getty Images)More
Valentine's Day is just around the corner. And if you are someone who is looking for love, understanding the evolving preferences of Singapore's younger generation, including their top dating "icks", becomes even more crucial for a successful celebration.
But first, what do the "icks" mean in dating? The "ick" is a term used in dating scene to describe a sudden and visceral turnoff for you from someone you're dating.
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It can manifest as a feeling of repulsion triggered by something the person does, says, or possesses, leading to a loss of romantic or even sexual interest.
This phenomenon has gained pop culture recognition, and it refers to the swift and often hyper-specific turnoffs that can arise in a romantic relationship.
Let's take a look into Singaporeans' dating preferences and pet peeves, according to the insights from recent surveys by global consumer research platform GWI.
Many daters in Singapore list poor manners as their biggest turnoff. (Photo: Getty Images)
Dating 'icks' in Singapore
Avoiding the following red flags and "icks" is crucial for fostering positive dating experiences.1. Poor manners
Unsurprisingly, 66 per cent of Singaporeans identify poor manners as their top dating "ick".
In a society that value politeness and respect in social interactions, daters are turned off big-time by rude behaviour or showing a lack of courtesy.
So if you do find yourself going out on a date on love day, you better put your best foot forward by being nice to the service staff, taking your volume down a notch when talking and perhaps avoiding a show of disregard for cultural norms.
In comparison, 43 per cent of daters in the Asia-Pacific (APAC) region identify poor manners as their top dating "ick".
2. Talks mostly about themselves
Dominating discussions without showing interest in the other person's perspective is a significant turnoff for 43 per cent of Singapore daters.A self-centred approach and incessantly talking about oneself without engaging in a meaningful conversation may signal a lack of empathy.
This trait is listed by 34 per cent of APAC daters as their second biggest turnoff.
3. Slow replies on text messages
Prompt communication is often seen by 28 per cent of Singaporeans as a sign of interest, especially in the digital age.Slow replies can lead to feelings of neglect or disinterest.
Delayed response may create uncertainty and dampen the enthusiasm for further interaction.
Slow replies is the third biggest "ick" for 32 per cent of APAC daters.
Discussions about cryptocurrencies or investments are best done during a business meeting, and not on date. (Photo: Getty Images)More
Conversation killers
Avoid talking about the following topics at all cost if you want a more meaningful conversation during a date:1. Past relationships
Dwelling on ex-partners or relationship failures on your date can create discomfort and signal an unwillingness to move forward, according to 31 per cent of Singaporean daters.Sharing positive anecdotes about past relationships is acceptable, but too much on past relationships may create unease.
2. Life plans
While aspirations are essential, 26 per cent of Singaporean daters find extensive discussion about future life plans a little premature.Heavy talk about marriage or children early on can be overwhelming.
3. Cryptocurrency/investments
Discussions about business opportunities, especially around complex topics like cryptocurrency or investments, might be too intricate during a date and divert the focus from building a meaningful connection.
And 23 per cent of daters in Singapore agree to this sentiment.
Detailed discussions on investment portfolios may be better suited for later stages of the relationship, or during a business meeting.
