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Why does it seem that some ladies cannot take criticism and blame the person that points out a flaw? I've dated a girl and noticed most of her stories are judgmental or degrading. I told her, "You lack empathy." She got super defensive.
Women who are secure within themselves have no need to become defensive or to blame. They have no need to put others down in order to feel superior. That is a childish behavioral flaw typical to both Narcissists and those who on a deep level feel lacking in self worth, and disempowered. However, one need not be a Narcissist to utilize this behavior. But I consider it a mild form of Narcissism.
Such people seek to make up for deep seated insecurity and questionable feelings of self worth by manipulation of the world. Other people become, unbeknownst to themselves, either a support or a threat, and there is no in between.
Such a mind set reads an attack into the most innocent statements made by others. The mechanic then, is to blame the other for some faux pas. How dare one criticize me? The truth is, they are too weak to withstand criticism, and in reality they are giving their power over to others, who are then obligated to use that power in the right way, or reap the punishment via blame.
Of course this is all unspoken and most often, a subconscious mental paradigm. Quite often, such a woman (or man), is wholly unaware of the very dynamic that rules her life.
Therefore, such people are acutely on the defense, and read some level of attack to their own self worth in almost everything. Its that simple. They are perpetual victims.
The will seek to give the opposite impression, one in which they believe to be superior to all others, and therefore have the right to judge those around them who just cannot stand up to their concept of who they themselves want to be. Fascinating, isn't it? They will seek to draw attention to themselves and bully anyone who grabs the same microphone.
Such women are terrible in relationships because the other person is merely a tool through which to feel what she cannot feel on her own. Such people don't know how to love. Love is a barter system. They are hard on those around them and can, at the drop of a hat take you from hero to zero.
If their 'significant other, does not act just the right way, she will feel justified in punishing him. As well, a man will have to hear her endless judgements of other people. She will fly into fits, and make his life miserable. It is always the other person who has the flaw, never herself.
Basic deep seated insecurity. Its ironic.
Why does it seem that some ladies cannot take criticism and blame the person that points out a flaw? I've dated a girl and noticed most of her stories are judgmental or degrading. I told her, "You lack empathy." She got super defensive.
Women who are secure within themselves have no need to become defensive or to blame. They have no need to put others down in order to feel superior. That is a childish behavioral flaw typical to both Narcissists and those who on a deep level feel lacking in self worth, and disempowered. However, one need not be a Narcissist to utilize this behavior. But I consider it a mild form of Narcissism.
Such people seek to make up for deep seated insecurity and questionable feelings of self worth by manipulation of the world. Other people become, unbeknownst to themselves, either a support or a threat, and there is no in between.
Such a mind set reads an attack into the most innocent statements made by others. The mechanic then, is to blame the other for some faux pas. How dare one criticize me? The truth is, they are too weak to withstand criticism, and in reality they are giving their power over to others, who are then obligated to use that power in the right way, or reap the punishment via blame.
Of course this is all unspoken and most often, a subconscious mental paradigm. Quite often, such a woman (or man), is wholly unaware of the very dynamic that rules her life.
Therefore, such people are acutely on the defense, and read some level of attack to their own self worth in almost everything. Its that simple. They are perpetual victims.
The will seek to give the opposite impression, one in which they believe to be superior to all others, and therefore have the right to judge those around them who just cannot stand up to their concept of who they themselves want to be. Fascinating, isn't it? They will seek to draw attention to themselves and bully anyone who grabs the same microphone.
Such women are terrible in relationships because the other person is merely a tool through which to feel what she cannot feel on her own. Such people don't know how to love. Love is a barter system. They are hard on those around them and can, at the drop of a hat take you from hero to zero.
If their 'significant other, does not act just the right way, she will feel justified in punishing him. As well, a man will have to hear her endless judgements of other people. She will fly into fits, and make his life miserable. It is always the other person who has the flaw, never herself.
Basic deep seated insecurity. Its ironic.
