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Wed, Jun 17, 2009
Diva
I'd rather be an unwed mum, than marry my violent ex-boyfriend
36-year-old Alice had everything going for her - she had stayed in Europe for many years and was on a scholarship to obtain her master's degree. She was also a lecturer at a university and almost became a professor, but love set her on an entirely different course. She related her story to U-Weekly.
In 2004, she returned to Singapore just before she handed in her graduation dissertation to marry her divorcee boyfriend of one year. They had met each other online and met a few times, but their relationship had mostly been carried out on the Internet.
While in Singapore, she discovered she was pregnant with her fiance's child, and they decided to keep it since they were prepared to marry. But Alice learnt that her fiance had a violent streak after living with him for a while, and would often abuse her, leaving her with emotional and physical scars, even while she was with child.
She decided to leave him when she was 23 weeks pregnant, and also to abort the foetus. However, as it was illegal to have an abortion when the pregnancy was in its sixth month, her doctor told her that while medication to induce abortion can be administered, the baby will have to be saved when Alice's pregnancy crosses the six-month mark.
Alice told U-Weekly that she decided to keep the baby after discussion with a friend, and to give the child up for adoption once it is born.
But Alice's family was not supportive of her decision, and she moved in with a friend. As her savings were meagre, she decided to take legal action against her ex-fiance to obtain child support for her baby.
In a surprise twist, her ex-fiance refused to acknowledge the child, and claimed that Alice was a one-night stand. Alice got the help of a lawyer, who told her that she only had to get a DNA test done on the child and her ex-fiance to prove that they were biologically related. In the end, her ex-fiance decided to give in and pay for the baby's maintenance, as he did not want to pay for the cost of the DNA test.
Meanwhile, Alice and her lawyer became close, and soon began a relationship.
But their love could not last long. Her new boyfriend had thalassemia, a blood disorder, that made him prone to ill health. However, he loved Alice's child like his own and was supportive of Alice's decision to go public with her status as an unwed mother.
Although they had a good relationship, differences in religious beliefs made it difficult for his family to accept her. When it seemed like they were able to overcome the obstacles in their relationship and settle down, he suddenly passed away, leaving Alice to face her problems on her own again.
But Alice was still able to get by. As she held a master's degree, she could get a good job with a decent pay, and life was still good. As an unwed mother though, she found it difficult to buy a HDB flat, and after numerous appeals, could finally buy a five-room HDB flat.
But with the recession came bad news. She was retrenched from her job, and was unable to find a new job. She could not even keep up with her daughter's kindergarten school fees, who is now four years old.
On top of that, her daughter's father has also stopped paying child support, leaving Alice with no choice but to go to court.
For more details, buy your latest copy of U-Weekly at all major newsstands today.
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Wed, Jun 17, 2009
Diva
I'd rather be an unwed mum, than marry my violent ex-boyfriend
36-year-old Alice had everything going for her - she had stayed in Europe for many years and was on a scholarship to obtain her master's degree. She was also a lecturer at a university and almost became a professor, but love set her on an entirely different course. She related her story to U-Weekly.
In 2004, she returned to Singapore just before she handed in her graduation dissertation to marry her divorcee boyfriend of one year. They had met each other online and met a few times, but their relationship had mostly been carried out on the Internet.
While in Singapore, she discovered she was pregnant with her fiance's child, and they decided to keep it since they were prepared to marry. But Alice learnt that her fiance had a violent streak after living with him for a while, and would often abuse her, leaving her with emotional and physical scars, even while she was with child.
She decided to leave him when she was 23 weeks pregnant, and also to abort the foetus. However, as it was illegal to have an abortion when the pregnancy was in its sixth month, her doctor told her that while medication to induce abortion can be administered, the baby will have to be saved when Alice's pregnancy crosses the six-month mark.
Alice told U-Weekly that she decided to keep the baby after discussion with a friend, and to give the child up for adoption once it is born.
But Alice's family was not supportive of her decision, and she moved in with a friend. As her savings were meagre, she decided to take legal action against her ex-fiance to obtain child support for her baby.
In a surprise twist, her ex-fiance refused to acknowledge the child, and claimed that Alice was a one-night stand. Alice got the help of a lawyer, who told her that she only had to get a DNA test done on the child and her ex-fiance to prove that they were biologically related. In the end, her ex-fiance decided to give in and pay for the baby's maintenance, as he did not want to pay for the cost of the DNA test.
Meanwhile, Alice and her lawyer became close, and soon began a relationship.
But their love could not last long. Her new boyfriend had thalassemia, a blood disorder, that made him prone to ill health. However, he loved Alice's child like his own and was supportive of Alice's decision to go public with her status as an unwed mother.
Although they had a good relationship, differences in religious beliefs made it difficult for his family to accept her. When it seemed like they were able to overcome the obstacles in their relationship and settle down, he suddenly passed away, leaving Alice to face her problems on her own again.
But Alice was still able to get by. As she held a master's degree, she could get a good job with a decent pay, and life was still good. As an unwed mother though, she found it difficult to buy a HDB flat, and after numerous appeals, could finally buy a five-room HDB flat.
But with the recession came bad news. She was retrenched from her job, and was unable to find a new job. She could not even keep up with her daughter's kindergarten school fees, who is now four years old.
On top of that, her daughter's father has also stopped paying child support, leaving Alice with no choice but to go to court.
For more details, buy your latest copy of U-Weekly at all major newsstands today.
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