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Life gets better, yet Sinkie feel worse

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Life gets better, yet people feel worse, by Janadas Devan


YOU'VE never had it so good, Harold MacMillan told the British electoratein the late 1950s. They believed him and voted for him resoundingly. TheSecond World War had ended barely 15 years earlier; people could stillremember bombed-out London; they could tell old Mac was telling the truth.

But if Harold Wilson had repeated the same statement in 1970, say, or MrTony Blair this year, few in Britain would have agreed, though both wouldhave been telling the truth also.

Progress is measurable and quantifiable. The statistics prove beyond doubtthat people in the industrialised world - which includes much of Europe,North America, Japan, Australia, and newly industrialising economies likeSingapore and Taiwan - are far better off than they were not only five to10 years ago, but better off than human beings have ever been in history.And yet, why are so few of us happy? Why do so many of us go through life fervently believing that if only things were a little better - the car atad more posh, the house a trifle bigger, the sofa just a little deeper,and so on and so forth - we would finally, really and truly, promise, behappy? And of course, when the car is a little more posh, the house alittle bigger, the sofa a little deeper, we persist with ourdissatisfactions.

Each shiny and alluring ceiling of material existence, once it is attained,turns almost instantaneously into a tawdry carpet underfoot. Get rid of thecarpet! Replace it with marble! But the marble, too, will, in due course,turn - or seem to - into cheap linoleum. Get rid of... The cycle repeatsitself endlessly, and will always end where it began - in disappointment.

It is amazing to reflect, but I remember Singapore's political leaderstelling the young not to forget how much better off they were than theirparents as far back as 1970, only five years after independence. Thirtyyears later, the politicians who were young then are telling today's youngthe same thing, and meeting the same incomprehension. Of course, I'm not better off. Of course, I will be satisfied if you politicians made my lifejust a little better. And of course, I won't be when you do.

Part of the reason few of us are convinced we are better off is thatprogress may be measurable but it cannot be directly experienced. It ispossible, of course, with the application of just a modicum of imagination,to recall how it felt living in a three-room Housing Board flat when one isnow living in a five-room HDB flat or a private condominium. But it takeseffort; the past is always a passing experience; and what occupies theforeground of one's mind is almost invariably the altogether imperiouspresent - and that bungalow I just saw in Queen Astrid Park.

Imagining progress over a longer timeframe - 100 years, say, or 500 - isvirtually impossible. You can tell a Londoner, for instance, look chum, 500years ago, your sewage system consisted of pigs, dedicated to St Anthonyfor some reason, roaming the streets, chomping on the muck. He might thank you for the information, but it wouldn't make an ounce of difference to his appreciation of the present.

Just 150 years ago, Londoners were still dumping everything - faeces,rotting vegetables and dead cats, not to mention 'the foul and gory liquidsfrom slaughter-houses' and 'the purulent abominations from hospitals anddissecting rooms', as one contemporary document put it - into stagnantpools that stood, as eternal as the Styx, between homes. It was not tillthe end of Victoria's reign, just 100 years ago, that all of London, richand poor, got a sewage system. One contemporary writer called it 'thegreatest achievement of our age'. And so it was.

But would it strike a contemporary Londoner as still great? Unless he issewage engineer, he wouldn't have given more than a moment's notice in his entire life to where his shit would go today after he flushes. Where itdidn't go to a hundred years ago would be a matter of profound indifference to him. He can flush now; it disappears; end of story. To all intents and purposes, that describes too our experience of progress: Time flushes it from our memories, both personal and historical.

Is it any wonder that progress, especially over long stretches of time, hasmade nobody happy? It is altogether real; economists and historians canprove its existence; but we can't experience, taste, feel or see it - soobviously, it has no power to move us. 'All told, except for the clamourand speed of society, and for trends in popular music, yourgreat-great-grandfather might say the contemporary United States' - orBritain, France, Japan and Singapore, for that matter - 'is the realisationof utopia'. Yet, virtually nobody in these countries feels that to be thecase.

As Mr Gregg Easterbrook notes in his learned recent book, The ProgressParadox: How Life Gets Better While People Feel Worse, 'the percentage ofAmericans who describe themselves as happy' has not budged since the 1950s, though the typical person's real income more than doubled through that period. Happiness has not increased in Japan or Western Europe in the past half-century, either, though daily life in both those places has grown fantastically better'.

Mr Easterbrook, perhaps one of best writers on science today, citesnumerous studies that show that the most efficacious way to gain happiness today is for people to focus on the present. Citing what he calls the emerging science of 'positive psychology', he presents evidence that people who make an effort to be optimistic, grateful, forgiving, public-spirited, self-sacrificing and kind are more likely to be happy.

It's astonishing that after all the progress humankind has achieved overthe centuries, all of wisdom should boil down to something so simple even a child can understand it: Just try to be a little kinder, folks. It mightactually make you happier than owning a Lexus.
 
Because people only rate happiness based on tangible quality and neglect the intangible ones. Both must work together to create happiness. Not just one of them. People should strive for both.
 
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Exactly, PAP ministers could survive very well with a S$10,000 monthly salary, why do they keep on demanding millions? Thanks Janadas for a timely rebuke of PAP ministers.
 
Possessions don't bring happiness. Achievements do.
 
I have my good days and bad days. But overall, I think we're better off these days. Menial work has gotten a lot less tedious - thanks to power applicances. We have more choices for cuisines, recreation, etc. One of the things we need to access is our inherited agrarian values and norms in an urbanized environment.

Cheers!
 
My dad paid 5k for his 85sqm, 3 rm hdb flat in the mid 70s.

He paid it off in 4 years as an odd job laborer, my mom was a housewife and managed to raise 4 kids.

Try doing what my dad did NOW..

Don't dream of even having more than 1 kid with that kind of jobs n salary.

And be prepared to be enslaved to ur house 4 life

your dad was in the industrial era and sinkieland was industrialising itself. Now is the information era. of course you can't get good pay for being a labourer. Now is the good time to be a millionaire in the comfort of your own home. Please go with the times.
 
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Possessions don't bring happiness. Achievements do.
Definition of "achievements" is important here. Most thought that it must be something significant. Achievements can be little things such as cleaning the house...

Happiness comes from satisfaction. By being easily satisfied, we become happy easily too. Raising the bar too high is the main problem.
 
People who can't appreciate the present that our forefathers strove and built for us are just your usual ungrateful, ugly and unanimously-brainless swines who take everything for granted.

There is guilt-by-association through even coming across these filth in the streets.
 
Indeed, the PAP took Singaporeans for granted. They thought Singapore's success was all due to them. If that was the case, then Suzhou where the PAP was and its talent totally involved and the mass Singaporean workers not involved would be reaping billions every year now for Singapore.
 
What brings happiness is when you feel better about yourself and find that what you are doing out of life is worth it.

Happiness comes from the ability to feel every morning you wake up - that you are looking forward to how you have made a difference yesterday, indexed to happiness, that you want to carry on today.

That is why people on social or corporate welfare don't experience that happiness unless they are drunk or stoned.
 
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What brings happiness is when you feel better about yourself and find that what you are doing out of life is worth it.

Happiness comes from the ability to feel every morning you wake up - that you are looking forward to how you have made a difference yesterday, indexed to happiness, that you want to carry on today.

That is why people on social or corporate welfare don't experience that happiness unless they are drunk or stoned.

true. every morning i wake up, i look forward in bashing sinkies and it makes life a whole lot of difference and it is totally worth it.
 
A real-life story. This guy would only be happy if he had completed the marathon in less than 3 hours. After a stroke, he was so happy when he managed to walk again.
 
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Laid Back Outback Is A Paradise ?

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I think that you guys seemed to have answered wrongly. It's the complication of sustaining or achieving a growth in the URBAN standard of living. If you live in the RURAL area, you don't really think much.

  • You don't think of selling your kidney to buy you an iPad or the latest smart phone that comes with special functions ... like not pressing a button at a lift lobby ?
  • You don't need a TV, a video, a ... you just sleep and wake up early in the morning.
  • You are NOT bound to a company to fulfill your obligations. No stress. Serenity and tranquility is your cuppa.
  • Your donkey has no CEO. You don't need a high income to pay for your next installment for your simple house.
  • Your afternoon pastime is to drink tea and smoke hookah. No need to pay expensive gym fees and follow a strict schedule for heavy workouts.
  • You don't strive to pay a hefty bill for medical treatment because you believe death is a part and parcel of one's life. Any animal on earth will have to die this way - its natural.

Your urban life is more complicated. Lots of expectations from the people around you - must strive to be successful. That's stress alright.
 
true. every morning i wake up, i look forward in bashing sinkies and it makes life a whole lot of difference and it is totally worth it.

I tot happiness to you is begging for points in the forum and getting them :)
 
true. every morning i wake up, i look forward in bashing sinkies and it makes life a whole lot of difference and it is totally worth it.


Happiness to you is by standing at Changi Village carpark every night with all your Sistas there...:D :p :rolleyes:
 
If humans were easily contented, we would all still be living in caves. It is ok to be greedy but no one likes to be short-changed or ripped off.
 
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