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Coffeeshop Chit Chat - Joanne Peh's comments on Jack Neo Affair</TD><TD id=msgunetc noWrap align=right> </TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE><TABLE class=msgtable cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width="96%"><TBODY><TR><TD class=msg vAlign=top><TABLE border=0 cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width="100%"><TBODY><TR class=msghead><TD class=msgbfr1 width="1%"> </TD><TD><TABLE border=0 cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0><TBODY><TR class=msghead vAlign=top><TD class=msgF width="1%" noWrap align=right>From: </TD><TD class=msgFname width="68%" noWrap>kojakbt_89 <NOBR></NOBR> </TD><TD class=msgDate width="30%" noWrap align=right>8:35 am </TD></TR><TR class=msghead><TD class=msgT height=20 width="1%" noWrap align=right>To: </TD><TD class=msgTname width="68%" noWrap>ALL <NOBR></NOBR></TD><TD class=msgNum noWrap align=right> (1 of 1) </TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR><TR><TD class=msgleft rowSpan=4 width="1%"> </TD><TD class=wintiny noWrap align=right>30225.1 </TD></TR><TR><TD height=8></TD></TR><TR><TD class=msgtxt>Jack’s Matter in Question
<SMALL>March 10th, 2010 by Joanne Peh </SMALL>
<SMALL>http://www.blogkaki.sg/</SMALL>
It’s media heyday whenever a scandal breaks out. From Bill Clinton to Tiger Woods, we’ve seen how the media thrives on celebrities’ scandals, turning what is essentially a domestic issue between these men and their wives, into the centre of everybody’s attention. As a fellow celebrity, I can understand the pressure that comes from the media and public. There is already the constant need to manage other people’s expectations, judgements and perceptions, whether it’s for the work we do, or the more personal details such as the person we’re dating, the place we’re getting married, or simply the way we look, that is amongst many other things. What more in instances where values and morality are being called to question?
Frustration? Exasperation? Nonchalence? I don’t know.
Whatever it is, I’m not envious.
Having said that, I don’t believe I have a right to pass any judgement on Jack. Neither am I taking any sides, because besides being a celebrity, I am also a woman.
I know what it feels like to have to personally deal with “the other woman”, no children involved; it’s complicated, it’s heart-wrenching and there will always be a lot of self-deception and delusions that things will change when they usually don’t.
I’ve also had close mates who become “the other woman”; they go through the same pain of loving someone who will not able to commit to them, with a constant fear of consequences and thoughts of ruining someone else tugging at their conscience. Yet for some reason, it’s hard to let go.
I realise that it’s where you’re standing when you’re looking at the issue that would influence your perceptions.
Having said that, right now I believe we are merely bystanders either willing or unwillingly (since there’s only one broadsheet in Singapore) dragged into a voyeuristic medium. Sure, we are entitled to watch on with aversion and condemnation, understanding or sympathy, whatever the emotional attachment that comes forth. But the way I see it, any verbal participation just wouldn’t add value nor improve the existing conditions for the parties involved.
Why then do we want to be so quick to impose our opinions on others if it does them no good and offers nothing for the betterment of our own and their lives?
Perhaps it’d be more helpful to walk away from this scandal with an important lesson, one that we do not need to experience for ourselves to learn.
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<SMALL>March 10th, 2010 by Joanne Peh </SMALL>
<SMALL>http://www.blogkaki.sg/</SMALL>
It’s media heyday whenever a scandal breaks out. From Bill Clinton to Tiger Woods, we’ve seen how the media thrives on celebrities’ scandals, turning what is essentially a domestic issue between these men and their wives, into the centre of everybody’s attention. As a fellow celebrity, I can understand the pressure that comes from the media and public. There is already the constant need to manage other people’s expectations, judgements and perceptions, whether it’s for the work we do, or the more personal details such as the person we’re dating, the place we’re getting married, or simply the way we look, that is amongst many other things. What more in instances where values and morality are being called to question?
Frustration? Exasperation? Nonchalence? I don’t know.
Whatever it is, I’m not envious.
Having said that, I don’t believe I have a right to pass any judgement on Jack. Neither am I taking any sides, because besides being a celebrity, I am also a woman.
I know what it feels like to have to personally deal with “the other woman”, no children involved; it’s complicated, it’s heart-wrenching and there will always be a lot of self-deception and delusions that things will change when they usually don’t.
I’ve also had close mates who become “the other woman”; they go through the same pain of loving someone who will not able to commit to them, with a constant fear of consequences and thoughts of ruining someone else tugging at their conscience. Yet for some reason, it’s hard to let go.
I realise that it’s where you’re standing when you’re looking at the issue that would influence your perceptions.
Having said that, right now I believe we are merely bystanders either willing or unwillingly (since there’s only one broadsheet in Singapore) dragged into a voyeuristic medium. Sure, we are entitled to watch on with aversion and condemnation, understanding or sympathy, whatever the emotional attachment that comes forth. But the way I see it, any verbal participation just wouldn’t add value nor improve the existing conditions for the parties involved.
Why then do we want to be so quick to impose our opinions on others if it does them no good and offers nothing for the betterment of our own and their lives?
Perhaps it’d be more helpful to walk away from this scandal with an important lesson, one that we do not need to experience for ourselves to learn.
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