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Is Age Really Just A Number? Exploring The Debate Around Age Gap Relationships
BY HYPE DESKJANUARY 5, 2025
Sources: Pinterest (@/dailymail), Facebook (@/Marie Claire)
Ah, romance. Who doesn’t love to be in love? Sharing your life with a partner, someone who understands you and accepts you for who you are. A person to lay your affections on and share secret jokes with, speaking a special language only you two understand.
However, where there is romance, there is drama. Love brings a host of issues, dragging along controversial topics. One such topic would be the debate on age gaps in relationships. Not simple two or three-year differences, but 15 or more years, or even twice a person’s age! Let’s take a look at some of the more common debate points.
Everyone is a consenting adult
One common argument in favour of age-gap relationships is that everyone involved is a consenting adult. This applies as long as you are 18 or older. The point is that, once you reach adulthood, you are considered capable of making your own decisions. It’s a way of respecting people’s autonomy and recognising that, although young, individuals have the power and the right to choose whom they want to be with.
On the other hand, there’s a large difference between the mental state of an 18-year-old and a 28-year-old. Someone who’s 18 might still be studying, not having been exposed to the “real world” yet. Compare this to a 28-year-old, who has finished their studies and is working. It could feel similar to a predatory relationship, where someone who’s more experienced manipulates a person who doesn’t know any better. It raises a few eyebrows.
The power imbalance
Another concern is the power imbalance in relationships with significant age differences. For example, in a relationship between a 50-year-old and a 25-year-old, the older partner would typically have more power, whether financially or perhaps even in terms of influence. Additionally, there is often an expectation to show more respect to those who are older. The concern here is that the younger party might be treated more like a child than an equal.
However, all of this is based on the assumption that the older person would view their partner as lesser simply because they are younger. Furthermore, nowadays, being young doesn’t necessarily mean a person lacks financial power. According to a study by the Federal Reserve Bank of New York, younger people are actually accumulating wealth faster than older generations. In this context, a person from Gen Z and one from Gen X might not have much of a financial difference, thus removing the financial imbalance.
Emotional maturity
Finally, there is the issue of maturity in relationships with large age gaps. The older partner is often considered more mature and experienced, which can lead to concerns about not being able to relate to the younger partner. A younger person may have more energy or be more impulsive, which could result in a lack of compatibility between the couple.
On the other hand, according to this article by Healthline, a person’s emotional maturity isn’t necessarily dependent on their age. You can be young, and more mature than someone who’s 20 years older.
In conclusion, an age gap relationship brings similar concerns to any other relationship. Financial imbalance, maturity, all these are all problems that can be considered in same-age relationships too. You simply need to be careful with the kind of person you’re dating – whether younger or older.
One important thing to remember is that age does matter when minors are involved. Just because large age gaps are considered acceptable, does not mean you should be a 22-year-old trying to date a 15-year-old. Don’t do anything illegal.
Would you date someone with more than a 10-year age gap?
