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Why do extramarital affairs happen?
https://saltandlight.sg/relationshi...llor-benny-bong-sheds-light-on-veiled-truths/
Conflict-avoidance affair
Some people have difficulties in their marriage they are unwilling or unable to address. They have an affair as a way to “raise the issue to a point where it’s impossible to avoid”. “I remember one couple whom I saw,” Benny shared. “They went to counselling because of an affair on the part of the husband and this was several months after the affair." “The wife said, ‘I’ve learned many things about you because of the affair, because of counselling. I’ve learned that I have not been close to you. I’ve been kind of ignoring you.
Intimacy-avoidance affair
This is an affair started by someone who does not want to need his or her spouse too much. “The individual becomes suddenly aware that they have got all their eggs almost in one basket,” Benny described. “ ‘You are meeting all of my needs for closeness. I feel very vulnerable because if anything should happen, you should leave, we have a breakup, then that’s the end. “I don’t know if I can rebuild this or have the capacity to form another relationship.”
Sexual-addiction affair
Those who have such affairs are never satisfied with one sexual partner. They may have extramarital sex with a number of partners.
Empty nest affair
This happens when couples have children who are all grown up and discover that they no longer know how to connect with each other. “I can’t think of any other alternative but this relationship doesn’t satisfy me." So they look for something outside of the marriage because to leave the marriage is not something they want.
Out-of-the-door affair
In such affairs, the infidel makes very little attempt to hide the affair. They want to be discovered because they want to be thrown out of the marriage. They may have even indicated previously that they no longer wanted to be in the marriage but had somehow remained.
Mid-life crisis affair
This involves individuals who, at a certain stage in their lives, are questioning their self worth. “ Am I still attractive? Do I still have it in me? Will people still find me important?”
https://saltandlight.sg/relationshi...llor-benny-bong-sheds-light-on-veiled-truths/
Conflict-avoidance affair
Some people have difficulties in their marriage they are unwilling or unable to address. They have an affair as a way to “raise the issue to a point where it’s impossible to avoid”. “I remember one couple whom I saw,” Benny shared. “They went to counselling because of an affair on the part of the husband and this was several months after the affair." “The wife said, ‘I’ve learned many things about you because of the affair, because of counselling. I’ve learned that I have not been close to you. I’ve been kind of ignoring you.
Intimacy-avoidance affair
This is an affair started by someone who does not want to need his or her spouse too much. “The individual becomes suddenly aware that they have got all their eggs almost in one basket,” Benny described. “ ‘You are meeting all of my needs for closeness. I feel very vulnerable because if anything should happen, you should leave, we have a breakup, then that’s the end. “I don’t know if I can rebuild this or have the capacity to form another relationship.”
Sexual-addiction affair
Those who have such affairs are never satisfied with one sexual partner. They may have extramarital sex with a number of partners.
Empty nest affair
This happens when couples have children who are all grown up and discover that they no longer know how to connect with each other. “I can’t think of any other alternative but this relationship doesn’t satisfy me." So they look for something outside of the marriage because to leave the marriage is not something they want.
Out-of-the-door affair
In such affairs, the infidel makes very little attempt to hide the affair. They want to be discovered because they want to be thrown out of the marriage. They may have even indicated previously that they no longer wanted to be in the marriage but had somehow remained.
Mid-life crisis affair
This involves individuals who, at a certain stage in their lives, are questioning their self worth. “ Am I still attractive? Do I still have it in me? Will people still find me important?”
