http://www.divaasia.com/article/4062
Wed, Jun 17, 2009
Diva
Don't be intimidated by those good looks
by Skilldo
I'm sure you have chatted with a member of the opposite sex of average looks. Since his or her looks are average, you may hardly feel attracted to your conversation partner. You feel comfortable talking with her and can interact without doing a double take.
Now, switch to another person whom you feel attracted to this time..
Suddenly, your brain doesn't seem to function as well, and you get tongue-tied just thinking about what you want to say to her for fear of offending her sensibilities. Of course, it's no secret - the woman that leaves you a little more breathless is usually of above-average looks than the one you can chat with like old chums
In such a case, isn't it true that you are stumped because you assigned a lot more "worth" to the other person's looks, to the extent that you believes you can't possibly be worthy of the other person?
So, you can break out from this mindset the moment you stop assigning so much worth to a female's looks. How, you ask?
I recommend this little "mind-hack" (it may sound chauvinistic but it's key).
The next time you talk to, or want to talk to a very attractive member of the opposite sex, tell yourself that her beauty or his good looks came about simply because their parents gave them good genes. It is through no effort of that individual and did not take much for them to achieve, so they are taking more credit than they should.
When you keep that in mind, you will stop feeling cowed by good-lookers, and your interaction with them can become more relaxed. In simpler terms, you'll stop struggling with in yourself to make small talk with them.
But remember, the idea here is not to disrespect your partner.
Instead, it is to introduce a new "representation" of beauty into your mind and stop allowing good looks to influence your frame of mind.
Use it. When you stop being intimidated by a handsome-looking man or a beautiful woman, you will stop feeling unworthy of talking, or being with them.
About the writer:
Skilldo is an 'ex-unhappy' Singaporean guy - who grew from being lonely, dateless and single... into breaking out of it, and obtained a fulfilling social life in meeting, dating and entering satisfying relationships with women.
He is the author of 'The Ultimate Singapore Girl-Getter'. A locally-focused guide for Singapore men to approach, date and successfully
attract the type of women they want for themselves.
He maintains a website containing secrets and training for men at - http://www.seductionsingapore.com
Wed, Jun 17, 2009
Diva
Don't be intimidated by those good looks
by Skilldo
I'm sure you have chatted with a member of the opposite sex of average looks. Since his or her looks are average, you may hardly feel attracted to your conversation partner. You feel comfortable talking with her and can interact without doing a double take.
Now, switch to another person whom you feel attracted to this time..
Suddenly, your brain doesn't seem to function as well, and you get tongue-tied just thinking about what you want to say to her for fear of offending her sensibilities. Of course, it's no secret - the woman that leaves you a little more breathless is usually of above-average looks than the one you can chat with like old chums
In such a case, isn't it true that you are stumped because you assigned a lot more "worth" to the other person's looks, to the extent that you believes you can't possibly be worthy of the other person?
So, you can break out from this mindset the moment you stop assigning so much worth to a female's looks. How, you ask?
I recommend this little "mind-hack" (it may sound chauvinistic but it's key).
The next time you talk to, or want to talk to a very attractive member of the opposite sex, tell yourself that her beauty or his good looks came about simply because their parents gave them good genes. It is through no effort of that individual and did not take much for them to achieve, so they are taking more credit than they should.
When you keep that in mind, you will stop feeling cowed by good-lookers, and your interaction with them can become more relaxed. In simpler terms, you'll stop struggling with in yourself to make small talk with them.
But remember, the idea here is not to disrespect your partner.
Instead, it is to introduce a new "representation" of beauty into your mind and stop allowing good looks to influence your frame of mind.
Use it. When you stop being intimidated by a handsome-looking man or a beautiful woman, you will stop feeling unworthy of talking, or being with them.
About the writer:
Skilldo is an 'ex-unhappy' Singaporean guy - who grew from being lonely, dateless and single... into breaking out of it, and obtained a fulfilling social life in meeting, dating and entering satisfying relationships with women.
He is the author of 'The Ultimate Singapore Girl-Getter'. A locally-focused guide for Singapore men to approach, date and successfully
attract the type of women they want for themselves.
He maintains a website containing secrets and training for men at - http://www.seductionsingapore.com
