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We all grow up with control in our lives and the problems that we face with regard to authority vary. Many of us grow up learning to respect authority in a way that causes passive conduct. Society taught us to respect our elders and that talking back is wrong. Misconception can develop, leading us to believe that our teachers, elders and even older siblings have rights that we do not. Many have felt as if being quiet and keeping thoughts to ourselves was the norm. We think that speaking up is indeed wrong or even punishable. Is it any wonder that we resent being controlled and build a strong loathing toward authority figures? Later in life, we deal ineffectively with authority because of fear and spite. Unless we build a personal power, life is apt to throw us from bad to worse and the anger mounts, causing pain that is hard to overcome.
Personal control is what self-help is all about, and this authority is something you already possess. You have the right to decide what is right for you and make choices, even if other people disagree. Most people have a hard time exercising these rights because they are afraid of disapproval or loss. People with personal power spend a great deal of time looking at what they have to gain. On the other hand, people who rely on the authority of others, think about what they have to lose. They go along to get along with other people and often resent the decisions that other people make for them. An assertive person (with their own authority) often undergoes problems at work. Although, they gain the respect of their boss, their co-workers may view them as “a butt kisser”. The person who has his or her own authority appears to get away with things that other people cannot.
People who are in a role of authority like a manager, for instance, must have personal authority. Without personal authority, the position can boost the ego causing a false sense of power. We have all met this type of employer. The one that throws fits of rage when you make a mistake. The one that believes he or she can treat workers, as if they are at the mercy of them. This lack of tact, caused by inability is due to lack of personal control. A person, who has their own authority, while in a manager role, respects ideas and opinions of their co-workers. They view co-workers as human beings that have their own control as well. They are calm and remain poised regardless of what comes their way. In short, they act responsible while holding everyone liable for their own actions.
How can you develop personal authority to enable you to bloom to your full potential?
Self-help can do more than self-medicating (legally on non-legally). Once you establish personal power, you are less apt to do what you shouldn’t, blindly following authority. In addition, you become confident and stop forcing yourself; you may do more of what you prefer to do. In other words, you can stop feeling as if you must force yourself to go against your own will. I encourage you to learn more about yourself and human behaviors. You may discover that many people have similar troubles. The issues that you face are common but correctable, with enough desire to change.
Sandra Hendricks, EzineArticles.com Expert AuthorPersonal authority is more than a facade. Understanding your own self-worth and willingly showing your true self is risky, yet rewarding. It is caring about how people feel without caring so much, what they think. It is being vulnerable without the need to protect your views. Even children have a personal power. In fact, the phrase “out of the mouths of babes” expresses this. It is more than innocence that makes a person unique as a child. Their personal power causes them to be open, almost fearless. You have what it takes to be the authority in your life, if you have the courage to pursue what matters to you.
We all grow up with control in our lives and the problems that we face with regard to authority vary. Many of us grow up learning to respect authority in a way that causes passive conduct. Society taught us to respect our elders and that talking back is wrong. Misconception can develop, leading us to believe that our teachers, elders and even older siblings have rights that we do not. Many have felt as if being quiet and keeping thoughts to ourselves was the norm. We think that speaking up is indeed wrong or even punishable. Is it any wonder that we resent being controlled and build a strong loathing toward authority figures? Later in life, we deal ineffectively with authority because of fear and spite. Unless we build a personal power, life is apt to throw us from bad to worse and the anger mounts, causing pain that is hard to overcome.
Personal control is what self-help is all about, and this authority is something you already possess. You have the right to decide what is right for you and make choices, even if other people disagree. Most people have a hard time exercising these rights because they are afraid of disapproval or loss. People with personal power spend a great deal of time looking at what they have to gain. On the other hand, people who rely on the authority of others, think about what they have to lose. They go along to get along with other people and often resent the decisions that other people make for them. An assertive person (with their own authority) often undergoes problems at work. Although, they gain the respect of their boss, their co-workers may view them as “a butt kisser”. The person who has his or her own authority appears to get away with things that other people cannot.
People who are in a role of authority like a manager, for instance, must have personal authority. Without personal authority, the position can boost the ego causing a false sense of power. We have all met this type of employer. The one that throws fits of rage when you make a mistake. The one that believes he or she can treat workers, as if they are at the mercy of them. This lack of tact, caused by inability is due to lack of personal control. A person, who has their own authority, while in a manager role, respects ideas and opinions of their co-workers. They view co-workers as human beings that have their own control as well. They are calm and remain poised regardless of what comes their way. In short, they act responsible while holding everyone liable for their own actions.
How can you develop personal authority to enable you to bloom to your full potential?
- Learn about the issues surrounding fear, ill will and disappointment.
- Gain an understanding of cause and effect.
- Learn about the way indecision affects your life.
- Speak up when you think you should (people who have personal authority respect people who do this).
- Think about what you have to gain in a given situation instead of what you have to lose.
- Think about what you desire and verbalize it.
- Learn how to forgive past resentments and not hold grudges.
- Learn about the victim-mentality – and how you can overcome it.
- Be patient with yourself and other people – be watchful of your own expectations.
- Be willing to be accountable and own your actions.
Self-help can do more than self-medicating (legally on non-legally). Once you establish personal power, you are less apt to do what you shouldn’t, blindly following authority. In addition, you become confident and stop forcing yourself; you may do more of what you prefer to do. In other words, you can stop feeling as if you must force yourself to go against your own will. I encourage you to learn more about yourself and human behaviors. You may discover that many people have similar troubles. The issues that you face are common but correctable, with enough desire to change.
Sandra Hendricks, EzineArticles.com Expert AuthorPersonal authority is more than a facade. Understanding your own self-worth and willingly showing your true self is risky, yet rewarding. It is caring about how people feel without caring so much, what they think. It is being vulnerable without the need to protect your views. Even children have a personal power. In fact, the phrase “out of the mouths of babes” expresses this. It is more than innocence that makes a person unique as a child. Their personal power causes them to be open, almost fearless. You have what it takes to be the authority in your life, if you have the courage to pursue what matters to you.
