Living in JB 2 (Johore)

[jasonjst]

just wondering how come the suspect who has records for murder, robbery and drug offences is not behind bars.... with these offences, he should be behind bars until he is 60 years old....

Bro, murder is death sentence liao!

[horizonhills]

He is not caught ...most probably wanted for murder, robbery etc and on the run. These criminals are wild and reckless and they wont hesitate to kill anyone just for some cash. Its good that he is caught one less headache for commoner

just wondering how come the suspect who has records for murder, robbery and drug offences is not behind bars.... with these offences, he should be behind bars until he is 60 years old....

[Polarbear]

Can anyone recommend a good physician and a female Gynecologist in Nusajaya please.

Thanks for your help.

[DREAMorACTION]

Bro, I'm sure yours will be unique and stand out. 150k budget is realistic as your built up is 3200++ sq ft. And your scale of Reno is not exactly small. As you are moving in so much ahead of me and you are my only neighbor (from this forum), I shall look up to u and learn from u

Haha.. no way.. mine mus be unique and showing my charactre.. now jus keep the fingers cross all renovation can be settled <150k...

[Icyraine]

Dear Bro Icyraine

Please take it easy , woman are like that when her body starts to change due to pregancy , she starts to look things differently ....
Or maybe she wants to get back your attention on her . so please show her more concern.
Perhaps at this period , dun bring her to see HH progress until she ask .
Spend more time with her to buy some nice maternity wears and baby items ....
And dun quarrel with her la ....

Yes, crystal. I agree with you. I was trying to understand her and i think may be you are right, she want me to give her more attention. She is currently 4 months pregnant and she wanted me to buy those baby stuff now, like the baby cot, play pan, stroller and stuff, but i think it's still too early. I certainly do not intend to wait till last 1 month but i think it's too early.

[lonelysin]

Hi guys,
Greetings from KL..in KL for holiday.

Wanna check with you guys...if i'm driving along the north south highway back down south to Singapore, how do i go to bkt indah jusco? Which exit on the highway will lead me there?

[Icyraine]

wow..I feel for you bro...
sit down and have a heart to heart chat with her....just like the courtign times...
You need to be understanding and so does she...both side need ot give and take...it's not always one hand that is giving....
i believe in time she will understand...as in "Kaizen" take small step at a time...

cheers.

Well, i think this has something to do with our personality as well. I always think i am a dominant male till we live together. haha. Basically we are both very competitive people, but when it comes to relationship, most of the time she is the one that complain and nagging... and i just keep quiet. But once in a while i cant take it no more and we fight. I always give in to her till sometimes i feel that i need to "knock her head" a little so things will be more balance. But yes, communication is the key.

[crystal_tiong]

Yes, crystal. I agree with you. I was trying to understand her and i think may be you are right, she want me to give her more attention. She is currently 4 months pregnant and she wanted me to buy those baby stuff now, like the baby cot, play pan, stroller and stuff, but i think it's still too early. I certainly do not intend to wait till last 1 month but i think it's too early.

Ah , tell her wait till June when sg hv sales , Robinsons will hv store wide 20% plus 20%. Then go jb mydin n buy drypers for newborn. Wait until second trimester then start buy all this. Not too late in case her tummy getting bigger n legs might swell etc. so not so convenient to buy.

[Icyraine]

Regarding near to coastal highway, you need to spend about RM 5k-RM 10k to beef up security and make your windows soundproof. No need to soundproof the entire house, just your room where you will sleep is enough.

I guarantee your wife will love this house when both of you move in. The flaws are there in every HH houses but fortunately, it can be changed or rectified to make your whole house more appealing.

Horizon, thanks for the advices, the sound proof window/glass is a good idea. Good to get so much info about these special glass window from this thread recently. I bookmark all the links to their website already.

And about the guy who's in jail for robbery, wallau... he is a rare breed. i am speechless.

[Icyraine]

Bro Icyraine,

When woman are pregnant, their innate protective instinct kick into overdrive. So anything new, unfamiliar or even dangerous is frowned upon immediately. So its understandable she will get paranoid over security issues. I dont know whats your motivation for buying a SGD750K house in johor bro. Even with deep pockets, i will not commit so much money on just one unit. Instead i will buy 3 units and spread it across Nusujaya. 2 of the units can be rented out and help pay for the mortgage. Big houses are definitely shiok to stay in and impressive when relatives visit. But from a practical standpoint, cleaning the place can be a mammoth task unless one engages outsiders to help - more costs and more worries with outsiders in the house. For me, i always like to balance idealism with a sense of pragmatism. Thats why altho many bros here advocate HH, for me i like to stay closer to shops/eateries cos one has to eat everyday and for whatever reasons, one cannot expect to be always driving a car. Again thats me.

Cheers.

Yes bro, i agree with u. We dont need to impress our relatives. I spend most of my hard earned money in investment actually. I bought a new car for my wife last year but i am still driving my 11 years old honda city. This is my 6th property over the past 12 years, all 5 for investment and this HH unit is the first one for own stay. We are actually staying in a 700 sq feet condo right now; because before this we never know if we can have our own baby (wife is "reproductively challenged"). This is like a miracle to me! Since we are expecting a baby now we thought that we should get a better place for the baby, we will need a maid and more space. Wifey told me that we should also live more comfortably now coz i am already coming to my late 30s, hence we bought a unit last december.

The only thing i dont understand is my wife reaction.... anyway, may be it is the pregnancy that make her feel insecure. I will try to be understanding.

[Icyraine]

Hi Icyraine,

Did you have a good discussion with your wife before you buy the house? Cause buying a house is a big commitment.
When a woman is pregnant, she has to deal with a lot of changes. Therefore any cause for more change will put her is a very protective mode. Please show her more care and try to assure her concern.

Yes, we have a good discussion before buying the house. She did mention a few things about the house that she didnt like but after bringing her to see other housing development, she still prefer HH. What disturbed me is that she keep reminding me again and again about the few things she didnt like about the house in the past months. That give me additional pressure coz it make me feel that i am not a good husband.

[Icyraine]

Ah , tell her wait till June when sg hv sales , Robinsons will hv store wide 20% plus 20%. Then go jb mydin n buy drypers for newborn. Wait until second trimester then start buy all this. Not too late in case her tummy getting bigger n legs might swell etc. so not so convenient to buy.

Haha, good idea. She loves shopping. I have to say a woman really understand another woman. Of all the years i know her, the kind of glow on her face when she found a good catch during shopping could never be found else where! Retail therapy!!!

[Icyraine]

Just say to her, I am so sorry, it was all my fault, i will sell the house as long as you are happy. I still remembered you told me about eating maggi mee with me in our youth, i will live in a shack with you if it so pleases you because nothing matters but you. I wanted somewhere where we can see the horizons and feel the breeze unblocked blowing in on the 2nd floor with our child. I realised my mistake now, lets just sell this and start over with another house. I will go and sell it off tomorrow.

Bro Wuqi.... cannnot laaaa. My bulu also stand up liao... some how when i was younger, i can tell my wife that she is my moon and my star and i want to be her sun; but now i find it really pai seh leh. When i read the old email that i used to send to my wife... waah, i also bei tahan laa.

Btw, really sorry to hear about your wife previous miscarriage. Lost twice... now that i may be a father soon, i can really feel the agony. How did you guys get thru during the hard time? I salute you bro.

[streams]

Dear folks,

My granny needs a new set of dentures but it's expensive...
Cost a whopping S$1000 to make it in S'pore- a/c to mum anyway. Any recommendations? TIA.

[Icyraine]

Hi guys,
Greetings from KL..in KL for holiday.

Wanna check with you guys...if i'm driving along the north south highway back down south to Singapore, how do i go to bkt indah jusco? Which exit on the highway will lead me there?

I am not sure if this is the best route but normally after crossing the toll near JB, i will take the left exit that head towards skudai , when i get to skudai highway, i take another exit that leads to taman sutera/ sutera mall, and follow it all the way to bukit indah. But maybe other bros and sis could tell u a better way.

[DREAMorACTION]

Bro, it's all part of the excitements mah ... Can buy a little bit here and there to satisfy her excitement la. If u everything say no, of course that won't go down well with her. She might think that u don't care as much on the baby. In fact, many of my married colleagues told me, when a couple has children, the children will precede before anything else, including husband or wife. Sad, but that's the truth. So why not just join in, share her mood and excitement, and anticipate the birth of the baby! Btw, congrats

Yes, crystal. I agree with you. I was trying to understand her and i think may be you are right, she want me to give her more attention. She is currently 4 months pregnant and she wanted me to buy those baby stuff now, like the baby cot, play pan, stroller and stuff, but i think it's still too early. I certainly do not intend to wait till last 1 month but i think it's too early.

[Icyraine]

Bro, it's all part of the excitements mah ... Can buy a little bit here and there to satisfy her excitement la. If u everything say no, of course that won't go down well with her. She might think that u don't care as much on the baby. In fact, many of my married colleagues told me, when a couple has children, the children will precede before anything else, including husband or wife. Sad, but that's the truth. So why not just join in, share her mood and excitement, and anticipate the birth of the baby! Btw, congrats

Aiyo... i also want to buy baby stuff but i just feel that my current place is too small. Only 2 rooms and one is more of a study room actually, and we need to think of getting a 作月婆 to help my wife after her delivery, plus the baby, the place we live is really limited in space so we dont need to buy too many things now, and we can add in one by one when the baby has arrived.

Bro, u faster get married also laaa, then your wife will nag u everyday... haha. Then i can be your shoulder to cry on.

[wuqi256]

Yes, crystal. I agree with you. I was trying to understand her and i think may be you are right, she want me to give her more attention. She is currently 4 months pregnant and she wanted me to buy those baby stuff now, like the baby cot, play pan, stroller and stuff, but i think it's still too early. I certainly do not intend to wait till last 1 month but i think it's too early.

I would advise to buy the items rightaway, at least the big ticket items which are useful or can be used regardless of sex of the baby. Its very important as women tend to feel vulnerable and weak during this time. Show you care and appease her insecurities. See women needs reassurances and just remember, she married you because she trust you enough to place her life in your hands. If you can't bring yourself to say something nice or romantic(read mushy), then write a card and leave it to her to read, in your absence is fine too so you won't feel embarrassed. Remember, you love her enough back then, just think of writing to her as if its to her at that point in time. Your one true love who you are devoting your life to. I always felt that the Mandarin version of the wedding vow has more of a romantic feel to it than the English version

Just like a bird would start to build its nest before laying eggs, women feels the call of nature. After birth, your standing in her life will be relegated to third place though so please do adjust your mindset accordingly:

According to Wuqi's limited understanding of the internal ranking that women have:

1. Family comes first
2. Your baby or subsequent baby comes 2nd or third
3. You if you are lucky else look at 4.
4. You if you are unlucky

This will remain your ranking forever even though they may claim otherwise.

Nothing is more important than peace at home so just buy a couple of items to show her that you care about the baby.
Only when you manifest that love by opening your wallet and throwing away paper with pictures of a deceased man
would they be appeased.

Back then, i bought every item that she even briefly mentioned and this got me a lot of peace and quiet at home. I ended
up buying 3 strollers, 2 baby pen and countless other stuff. My diapers was stocked up for an apocalypse. It filled up half of
the room. Again, no amount of money saved is worth more than the peace at home. This will come back to haunt you years
down the road as they will always claim you didn't love the baby or showed enough care, concern, etc.

[wuqi256]

This is definitely a Great news for everyone living in Johor. Looks like the top men in Johor's police force are serious about bringing down crimes in Johor and are putting in effort and executing plans. They are also placing pressure right down to those lowest in the police hierarchy. If the head of police is slack and adopts a 'who cares' attitude, I don't think the low ranking policemen in police stations will even bother to apprehend petty criminals, let alone risking their lives having a gun fight with armed murderers. Great effort!!!

I hope they continue to do more, again crime is everywhere, there will always be crime as long as someone figures out they can get away with it or gets carried away in moments of greed, passion or anger. Its all relative as they did catch a couple of guys but there will always be such people around.

No place is 100% safe no matter what country you go to, always be vigilant.

[wuqi256]

Aiyo... i also want to buy baby stuff but i just feel that my current place is too small. Only 2 rooms and one is more of a study room actually, and we need to think of getting a 作月婆 to help my wife after her delivery, plus the baby, the place we live is really limited in space so we dont need to buy too many things now, and we can add in one by one when the baby has arrived.

Bro, u faster get married also laaa, then your wife will nag u everyday... haha. Then i can be your shoulder to cry on.

Speaking of 作月, we got one for about 3500 RM. A local from around here. My wifes friends mother (Singaporean) is doing a business of arranging for aunties to help take care for 1 month.
So far, she always got good reputation.

Yes, nag. Always do her things fast and respond to her by showing assurance. When she is used to your ways, nagging will get lesser. Reverse nag by nagging her on the things you are being
nagged about once your part of the task is done. When she says why you are nagging so much, say

"Because i love you so much, i know i will die earlier from you nagging, i want you to come along too as i cannot bear you to be alone without me." I know this is hard but after years of marriage,
it works. Of course, every now and then, do something really romantic or surprising to her. Example, she wants a car for work, just get her something she did not expect (but you know she likes it)

Turn up on days she does not expect you at work with flowers or some gifts she likes. Surprise her by leaving some notes and small items of jewellery or clothing. You will find that its like greasing
your engine, it makes the relationship smoother at times. Working on a relationship does not stop at the alter, it doesn't end on the deathbed either.

For me, its something that carries on long after the last breath is drawn. Thats why i started to prepare for her and my family to carry on long after i am gone.